If He Gives You Mixed Signals Do This ONE Thing

[beautyshines]

Hot and cold person is immature and usually playing mind games. Just walk away from them.

[GodHelpMe]

When an emotionally broken man is using a woman, he’ll show these signs:

- he avoids truly deep and emotionally vulnerable conversations
- he's inconsistent
- he only contacts you when he needs/wants something
- he doesn't REALLY include you in his life (it's all an illusion/fantasy)
- he avoids commitments/labels
- he makes you feel guilty/crazy/needy
- he doesn't truly support you or your goals (in any real and tangible way)

So,

1) Never EVER be afraid of losing him. You are the Divine feminine. Let him fear losing YOU!

2) Have an EXTREMELY low tolerance for ANY bad behavior...

AVOIDANT or NARCISSIST?

Let's be real.
It's irrelevant.

They both behave the same.
The damage they do is the same.
The trauma they cause is the same.

FUCK THEM BOTH.

So,

When there’s a disagreement,
an argument, a conflict, some bullying,
disrespect, boundaries being crossed etc...
someone will inevitably,
most likely,
be disappointed in me...

So,

I engage in each and every situation
in a way that ensures,
that the person disappointed in me,
NEVER ENDS UP BEING ME!

I aim to never repress,
never suppress.

I aim to never lose parts of myself.

Radical honesty only:
100% of the time.

Always,
all ways.

AND REMEMBER:

to test if ANY relationship is healthy -
you've got to judge the relationship on its bad days,
not on its good ones!

[Hilary]

If a man runs hot and cold, blocked and deleted!!!!

[lc]

Yup. It works. Did just that. And cleared up the confusion enough so I walked. He said in the beginning that he wanted what I wanted but his actions through 5 months showed that he didn't want what I wanted. When I did as described he admitted that we weren't on the same page. So I left and found someone who was. I'd rather be single than with the wrong person. There are far worse things than being single!!!

[jamieguerra]

If he disappears for weeks at a time just focus on you sis . A man that’s interested in you will let you know that you are his prize by actions not words. Words are never needed when there is action 😇

[fiftyandfab]

4 Initial Criteria - Need ALL

(1) He Needs to know what he wants in a Relationship
(2) Excited about Exploring Life Partnership with Me
(3) Willing to Pursue Me
(4) ABLE to Pursue Me

[GR-rkfi]

What I have learned the hard way: when a man really wants me he treats me like his queen and there is no doubt. When he stops that something is wrong, and mostly talking about it does not help much, because he is just not that into me (anymore). I would never try to fix a relationship with a man who is unsure about his feelings again, it's just a waste of time. Better move on.

[randiedgar]

What if the guy is saying all the right things. He's consistent, pursued me, open & honest.... one day he's bought tickets to events in the future, says he's falling in love... the next day he's not texting me good morning, etc., not responding to texts, or takes hours to reply... how can someone make that change overnight?

[pamelakapke]

"Maybe does not mean yes" good one.

[domt]

Yes! I definitely liked to be pursued. Too much hot and cold from this guy I started dating. I noticed I had no clarity, lacked consistency and I felt like an option.
I saw signs too…he was not emotionally available.
I walked.
No more for me!!

[beautifulspirit]

I’ve met a wonderful man who is totally consistent after a period of dating a man who had been hot and cold for over a year. I now know what love really is. It’s actions not words. I so needed to hear this. Thank you !!

[marsvsvenus]

I got that he has to be ready. If he is not available because of restrictions and drama let him figure it out and sort it out because he isnt ready to move forward with you.

[Jules-]

Wow this is gold! Excitement means nothing. Consistency is what matters.

[karolinah]

When you see a red flag, take it into account. It is real

[georgiajaeger]

I recently broke up with a man I have known for over 30 years. Our relationship was 7 months. He seemed caring and giving (always did, even as a friend) but not consistent. He pursued me early, and it abruptly stopped. When problems popped up, he was quick to want to end things. The first couple of times, I asked to give it time as that is what couples do, work it out. This last time, I tried talking to him and gave up. I tried to honor the friendship by giving it the time it needed. But, I feel like he was just looking for a companion to go along with him in life and not a true partner. Pursuit left quick and the relationship grew to be very one-sided. This was what the disagreements were about, wanting me to come to his home and never coming to mine. He called me yesterday stating that he was returning my call but I had never called him. I really fail to understand people. I was a happy person but life has sucked me dry. Consistency trumps excitement, I like that.

[spyroluver]

I find when I get needy, think about why he isn't responding, It's because i am not focused on my life. As soon as I am busy myself, the reply time doesn't matter.

[Freya-quwo]

Keep him guessing by marrying someone else.

[annettemccoy]

I have been through this. Now he is silent so I am looking to the future. Its a shame, but I can't wait for someone who's already left ♥️

[brialyn]

My tension is not great. If he wanted to spend time. He would make it count.

[MsDiggy]

Timely, in that it was first up in my YT feed this morning. I have been in successive relationships w/men who are exciting & eager to pursue, but it unravels into confusion & heartbreak for me. I’m truly done with wasting time. Since I value and believe in myself, I know I deserve more, someone who equals what I give. For all you do, thank you❤