2 ways guys test women | How some guys decide if they’re going to respect you

I want to preface this video by saying any guy testing you in these ways is trying to gain leverage that he most likely can’t be trusted with. Sometimes I talk to women who experience such overtly rebellious behavior from guys they literally think to themselves what the hell is he thinking? Is this a test? Is he serious? He must be testing me? They usually tell me Kevin I couldn’t believe it. But don’t worry I played it cool though. I ask them why. They say why what? Why’d you play it cool.
Letting shit slide only lead to more undesirable behavior. Either correct him or make an exit. Don’t play it cool.
They say well I didn’t wanna show that it bothered me and be emotional. Listen ladies you don’t have to be emotional to correct a man. Say what you have to say in a low voice with a straight face, and then let the awkward silence ring like a siren 🚨. You can show you’re serious without raising your voice and spilling feelings all over the place. So again either correct them confront them or move on. Don’t endure undesirable behaviors in order to impress them. You’ll be doing it forever.

[trenchrock]

If someone tells you they're going to do something (call you, take you out, etc) and they don't...we like to say it makes them flakey. The truth is that it makes them a LIAR. Plain and simple

[anonymous]

I’m starting to think women need to take a course on personality disorders before they start dating. Sheesh.

[analyticalchick]

These are the same guys that complain that they can't find anyone good. Yeah because you push the good women away

[BooDotBoo]

Therapy has taught me that if I'm too anxious or confused about someone, they aren't healthy for me. That's what I've been going with, and it's been working, so far. Of course, it hasn't resulted in many dates, but I feel like it keeps me away from people who play games and don't mean me well. There are very few people you can actually take seriously. I haven't met one person I can truly take seriously yet.

[richelletvforyou]

Ambiguity is an answer. And me not answering the phone after is an answer as well😀

[j-tenn]

Ladies, be comfortable with doing things alone and taking yourself out. Because Chile…. Just hearing all this makes me sweat. If this is really what we put up with, it’s no wonder men think a lot of women are desperate.

[julika]

Omg all these mind games. No wonder why most of us are single.

[Mskiraven]

The biggest test after exchanging numbers is “can you come over” aka can we smash on the first link and skipp dating all together. That’s the 1rst test.

[therealkoolaidandkale]

Chile. I match energy and behavior, so if he's vague and ambiguous, we're gonna get bored with each other and fizzle out because I'm gonna be vague and ambiguous and stop bothering to respond.

[rakhil]

If a man can’t give me a direct answer he will never hear from me again I don’t have time for games.

[turquoisepearls]

I’m so glad that this is being discussed. Not answering my questions is a turn off. It automatically disqualifies him. Thanks for helping me decide not to like you! I don’t take him serious at all. This guy at my church approached me. I say to him. “I thought you were married?” His response was how do you know that? Wrong answer! Friend zoned!

[kristabistaify]

Ladies....and yet THEY'LL SAY WOMEN ARE THE EMOTIONAL ONES.

Imagine putting this much effort into TRYING to harm a woman. Must be insanely insecure.

[deborahday]

Just happened to me today. Supposed to go on a date this evening after promises, calls, lots of communication with the guy, etc. I get a text this morning with some random excuse for cancelling. Telling me, " I know you're gonna be mad at me." I simply told him no, I wouldn't be, that I was going to enjoy my day and to have a good Sunday. I told him in a way where he knows I'm done. No anger, no questions, no back and forth. He wasn't ready for that. I don't have time for this foolishness. He can go test somebody else.

[tejuanareeves]

I went through this with someone, that acted like this all time. And recently after not talking to him for months he calls out of the blue and was shocked when I didn't care, or ask him to come over.

[christineboutin]

This is so spot on. I dated someone over 50 we got along well and had great chemistry, When the relationship got more serious he became distant, canceled dates and would break promises, Because i liked him I tolerated it at first, then my final straw was him canceling a sleepover and talking about missing his adult kids, and being scared with moving forward. I dont look back and glad it was just 3 months. I will definitely look out for these when im dating new people. i, m content on going on solo dates and being in company of people who are intentional.

[ibstayfly]

Ambiguity is the biggest red flag. When guys avoid questions makes me think they have something to hide. Thank you so much for this

[Coolct]

This was spot on! A guy over 50 couldnt give me straight answers the first week of knowing him then he wanted to meet after 10pm cause he’s supposedly busy and fell asleep… it’s like Kev read my situation… I blocked him and happily enjoy MY WEEKEND! Thanks Kev🙏🏾

[what.you.allowyou.permit]

Part of your verbal description perfectly described gaslighting and trauma bonding. Good to see someone being clear to run from these evasive manipulators (and mere grown boys).

[The_Owl_]

Thank you Kev! I have experienced this with a guy before. I’m glad he stopped talking to me, it literally felt like an emotional roller coaster. Hunny the trash took itself out. Good riddance 🚪🗑🙌🏾

[beautifullymade]

This man is powerful! Protect him at all cost lol 😂