One Common Way Men Test Women

[xysarenottheprize]

Sounds like a man who wants to rest in his feminine energy. Run, ladies.

[perpetualgains]

Um, if he stops the initiation, he won't ever hear from me again.

[larissamarron]

Any man who tests a woman by being an asshole is literally not an adult. Like what even is this if it's not manipulation and hypocrisy? I wonder if they test their friends this way? I am guessing no. Absolutely ridiculous and disgusting. Not to mention childish. I wonder how many times I can trample over someone's kind and forgiving nature? This behaviour. If its actually a thing is HIGHLY unattractive in any human.

[pragawa]

Thank God we didn't have to play these games while dating in the 1970s!

[jbateman]

🤔 from our perspective, we are confused AF bc now all the sudden he's acting differently and we feel like we're doing the chasing. Feels super awkward and makes me feel desperate to get his attention

[gionagrace]

Omg....this isn't kindergarten!! 2 grown ass adults will know how to COMMUNICATE. This waiting around to see who calls first or who ignores you first....REALLY? Do you really have ANY time for that? DATE HEALTHY!

[marilynshoree]

If he stop initiating...then maybe he's initiating on someone else

[florenceladine]

The sperm chases the Egg; NOT the other way around.

[Ryled]

He is also playing hot and cold which is a game to get you upset and hooked. If he's not calling, your in the rotation. He's got others he's putting thru the rotation. If you call 1x, and he doesn't return it. He's not worth it. He's playing you. You don't need those games

[jamieolivarez]

Ha, I do the same back! I feel that the actions towards each other need to be mutual. If I notice that I’m doing more of the initiating I step back to see what he will do. I’m a bit old school and don’t like to pursue as a woman. Do this advice is more new school but I I get it.

[hjkommi]

mutual interest should be naturally reciprocal without the need for testing. if a man feels the need to test a woman then she probably isn't that interested. it's like if you have to ask...

[noonereally]

That’s just called pulling away, and if he pulls away he can stay away.

[jillsellers]

You mean men like to have their feelings validated as much as women do? Who would have thunk it? 😉

[justacoginthefkery]

How about ppl just need to stop testing eachother?! It's nothing more than backhanded manipulation which sets the stage for unhealthy relationship dynamics. That test will turn into another test & so on until someone inevitably fails a test. In a healthy relationship, the energy should be a natural give & take. If you want or need something from your partner/ potential, you set the stage for healthy communication by speaking UP.
Not to mention the fact that having to anticipate mind games from anyone doesn't help foster trust.
Can we just stop with the bs already?

[samanthaspeaks]

If thats what he did he got the tally wrong. I've done most of the initiating and conversing. But conversations have become halting. I told myself if I didn't hear from him in a week (this after nearly 2 weeks of very sparse communication from him) that I'd let it all go. I almost pushed it back another week but decided to send him a "goodbye and here's why" text before blocking. I don't doubt he's got stuff going on. But we all do and I've tried to be very clear with how I've felt. He seems to be the avoidant type. It's not okay to test people in this way. Be yourself and lead with sincerity.

[Stardust-nplo]

Goes both ways- but at the same time I am not playing games with anyone

[deezed]

I don’t initiate until he is my boyfriend. If he is initiating and then just stops I would be sad if I liked him and eventually move on. I would assume he lost interest or found someone he prefers. Women already do enough and risk enough, pursuing is up to men.

[grayciesmom]

It's confusing. When is he testing you and when is he just not interested anymore

[daviniatuhura]

The greatest lesson I learned was that you can carry someone in your heart forever. However, you could never ever have power and control over their heart. That is the greatest lesson I have ever learned.

[sandracastillo]

Why do they need to test
women?
You show up when he invites you out and pick up the phone when he calls, and return his messages when he texts.
Can you be too interested?

I will reach out but it starts to feel like reaching out, then chasing, then ...wft.
It changs the vibe.
And then it turns to them ghosting cause no guy like to be called out.

Unfortunately, its the guy i have no interest in that never fail to reach out.
Sigh