Tiktok's Trauma-Dumping Manipulative Supervillain

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[endangeredcryptid]

For a second I thought this was gonna be about the lady that killed her husband and then wrote a book about her children working through the grief.

[RealKellinQuinn]

Trauma dumping your husbands death to some person just trying to give you food is so insane!

[han-marie]

The amount of trauma dumping rhat happened when i worked retail from 15-19 is wild. People would tell me their whole life story - in detail - and I had to follow it up with "I'm so sorry... your total is $26.50"

[cassyxx]

Doesn't surprise me, my ex friend went out with an guy twice before he called it off. Six months later he unfortunately died. My ex friend was telling everybody she was his widow. At his funeral she told his parents she would of been their daughter in law. Made the whole funeral about her. She invited 20 people for moral support. The family made her leave because she was creating an scene. She told his son that she would be an mother figure to him. She told his ex wife he loved her more. She got an tattoo of him. They went on two dates and hadn't spoke since. We found he died through mutual friends.

[dandilionexoskeleton]

as a retail worker, specifically a cashier, it is astonishing how much people will trauma dump to someone they have never met before while they're getting their groceries

[PeachJaguar]

She's the definition of "ma'am this is a Wendy's"

[yaya]

i was a 17 year old bisexual girl working at shell gas station and there is actually a shocking amount of people that will just overshare literally the deepest darkest parts of their life and it's truly uncomfortable to be on the other end of that nodding your head and apologizing to them

[melodyconte]

It's grief cosplay. She has no idea what it's like to lose someone but her ex's murder stirred something up, and she can't handle it in a healthy way.

[Ghost-Tea]

She’s the definition of a toxic person venting to anyone she sees, like the embodiment of the 2020 arson discord people

[RealKellinQuinn]

Who else absolutely loves Coopers room?? It’s such a cool vibe

[librarianontheloose]

"She wasn't married to him...and it was thirteen years ago"

Every statement was like someone throwing coffee in my face

[Puppydollcore]

Trauma dumping on a random person and then using your “husbands” death for clout is gross. She’s genuinely such a weird and disgusting person.

[possiblyaj]

dude this shit actually makes me so pissed. like i had a friend die and i heard a lot of people making fun of it, but then i had to see people who didn’t give a damn about him act like they were best friends and it was almost worse to hear. i can’t even imagine how gut wrenching it was for the family of the victims to find out about this woman.

[shannon]

I appreciate you pointing out her use of the word "brutally" because that language makes a huge difference in how the listener takes the information. A lot of people don't realize how badly their trauma dumping can affect others. My friend's mother was kidnapped and murdered years ago, and sometimes hearing certain stories from other people can be pretty triggering. She can and would continue working if she were the cashier in this scenario, but it would add unnecessary stress to her day. The wording matters. If someone were to say "I lost my husband." my friend probably would not be triggered, but saying "My husband was brutally killed." is radically different and puts the listener in a radically different mindset.

"I lost someone close to me." is a call for sympathy, "Someone close to me was brutally killed." is a reminder of not only our mortality, but how easily it can be taken from us by each other. It's a jarring thing to hear for anyone, but it's a potentially triggering thing to hear for some people.

(Edit to clarify: I know that the person in this woman's story isn't really her husband, I went off on a tangent because people who trauma dump still talk like her even when their stories are true, so it was a good point about language and communication.)

[ladygaladriel]

I was in esthetician school and had a client who was nice, but kinda off. She trauma dumped her husband’s death on me and sobbed the whole time. He didn’t go peacefully and she told me so in graphic detail. After she left I started shaking and then sobbing…luckily my friend was there and she hugged me tight and said “what she did was wrong. she should be talking to a therapist and not you.”

[LotrKitty]

As an ex-Starbucks employee, I can confirm that baristas are seen as bartenders for sober people and will just randomly treat baristas as therapists. I had a customer that came up to me once and asked me if he should take his daughter out to drink or do cocaine for her 18th birthday and all I could think of at the time was “sir, are you serious?” But I just said “she probably wouldn’t enjoy either of those things. Maybe ask her what she would like to do?” Lol

[baby.nay.]

I worked at Starbucks when I was 16, I had already dealt with some heavy shit. And my bff had the same thing happen to her mother in a brutal way . I I would have started crying and probably had to go home. It’s really not fair to like just tell the random minimum wage worker who might be a literal highschooler anything about murder before coffee
Edit : not me unpausing the video for cooper to validate my thoughts seconds later ❤

[shrekislifeshrekislove]

i'm a murder attempt survivor and wow, this is beyond ridiculous. after my incident, i've been grateful for life but this really opened my eyes. my heart goes out to his family.

[DankrumStar]

I lost my boyfriend last year, and I’ll tell you people do not want you to discuss it. It makes them feel bad. I do not want to trauma dump on a total stranger and put them into the position to fawn over me with “oh… you poor thing! I am so sorry”

Even if everything else turns out to be false, this girl is weird.

[Itscannatella]

As a call center employee it truly is disturbing when people trauma dump and overshare. It’s a horrible thing to do, and we literally are just sitting there because we have to be. Stop telling random workers your tales of woe, when we say “how are you today” we do so because we are obligated to. Leave us alonnnne