How to Control Sexual Jealousy

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With a little self-awareness, you can learn to tame your green-eyed monster.

Step 1: Realize jealousy is normal
Realize that some jealousy in a relationship is perfectly normal. It only becomes destructive when it is an ongoing point of contention.

Step 2: Assess your relationship
Figure out the driving force behind your jealousy. Are you afraid you might lose your partner to someone else? Or are you angry at being disrespected when they flirt with others?

Step 3: Figure out the real problem
If fear of losing your partner is the problem, ask yourself if you're insecure because you have low self-esteem, or because you feel your partner is not as committed to the relationship as you are.

Tip
If your partner is a flirt, consider that this simply may be their nature. The tipoff? They flirt with everyone – young, old, skinny, fat, attractive, and homely.

Step 4: Work on yourself
If low self-esteem is the problem, work on building yours by using self-help books or working with a therapist.

Tip
Try this visualization technique: The next time you're feeling jealous, therapists recommend conjuring up a pleasant scene in your mind or recall a happy memory.

Step 5: Reevaluate your relationship
If you come to the conclusion that your anger and jealousy are well founded and rooted in your partner's disrespect and possible philandering, consider ending your relationship. You deserve a partner that makes you feel loved and treasured, not angry and mistrustful.

Did You Know?
Thirty-one percent of people say they have felt hard-to-control jealousy in a relationship, according to one study.

[tiana]

You deserve a partner that makes you feel loved and treasured not angry and distrustful.. i like that

[nadavge]

I totally find my self in that situtation

[dachamp]

dude was playing atari freaking atari in 2009
wht the hell

[KathyGurl]

"Finding Your Inner Awesomeness"

Hilarious! XD

[tiana]

well sometimes people give you reasons to be jealous..then again i get insecure a lot but idk..maybe one of these days i'll find someone who will make me feel secure or maybe ill need to make myself feel secure..

[TrollDrums]

Im the most motherfucking jealous guy on the world and if I dont control myself I will probably make my partner end with me :c

[Lonsoleil]

At 0:38 - HAHA!

His girlfriend and the other guy were literally pointing and laughing at him!

What's fucked up is that this is how people probably always feel when in this situation.

These Howcast videos are hilarious!

[UndiscoveredJulie]

Jealousy in a relationship (when tame) can also be pretty stinkin' attractive.

[MikeBA]

finding your inner awesomeness. thats a book i need to read

[cookiemonsterules]

Today I learned that jealousy means you don't trust the person and its just an infatuation, not 'love'.

:)

[Rickits]

OMG! How did they get Ben sStiller for this?

Anyway. Yes jealousy can ruin a relationship but it can also show love if done moderately. Everyone needs to evaluate it in their own relationship.

Also i didn't hear them say "sit down with your partner and set guidelines for what's ok and what is not". That's what worked for me and my partner. (Note: we are both very jealous people)

[MarioMan]

"Therapists recommend recalling a happy memory."
(Memory): NINTENDO 64!!!! OH MY GOD!

[votedonut]

lol the picture at the beginning was scary

[GreeceOTOT]

is that a real book? i want to read it

[TzhaarProductions]

I just saw this and I was like... wtf?? So i decided to click it :D

[NYCrazyRob]

Where can I find the background music to this?

[slowmotionr]

I can't find that book he is reading.

[wpinklady]

Iam jealous because I dont have a partner

[tiana]

@chizzy555, no not necessarily, you can be real good in bed but sometimes she may be curious to see if someone else can put it down like you, so don't ever think just because someone is good in bed doesn't mean you won't get cheated on

[cutiepie]

dont you guys notice she almost looks
like Vanessa Hudgens?