10 Subtle Signs That Someone Is Emotionally Immature

It can be confusing when someone acts in ways that seem selfish, oblivious, disrespectful, self-centred, reactive, or rude. But the thing is, most of the time when people repeatedly act in these ways it's because they lack emotional maturity. They both don't recognize the impact of their words or behaviours on others, and they don't know what to do with their own emotions or how to regulate themselves. When we can see that the way someone is behaving is not about us, but about them not knowing how to cope with their own big feelings it can help us stay calm, centred and grounded - which also then allow us to build our own emotional maturity.

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Julia Kristina, MA, is a speaker, teacher, master therapist and mental wealth coach who helps smart, highly sensitive, heart centred humans get past anxiety, stress, and self-doubt so they can have better: Better relationships, a better life and feel better about themselves.

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[juliakristinamah]

Okay, truth time - are you here to identify potential emotional immaturity in someone else or within yourself?

[everOcean]

I'm here because I need to check in on my own emotional maturity.

[antonboludo]

Some people never leave toddlerhood in terms of emotional development.

[Me-ebwv]

My notes for later

4:46
Overreacting to everything

7:14
Being closed minded

10:27
Having a victim mentality

12:11
Being easily offended
13:15
Avoiding responsibility

18:37
Downplaying other’s achievements, jealousy

The lesson I learned is that emotional immaturity comes down to not caring about how your actions make others around you feel.

[roykeiahlove]

Turns out I’m the emotionally immature one! I have so much to work on but I am looking forward to the growth!

[ilariaciavatti]

Many people do not become emotionally mature because no one reacts to their ignorance, so they do not feel the need to change. Often, this is simply a privilege

[TonyaS]

My family (especially my brother) has so many of these traits. It's not my job to fix them, but to set boundaries (or in his case no contact), BUT, to really examine myself and make sure I don't repeat these behaviors on others either. I get that it's so easy to see these traits in other people and yet we sometimes do them ourselves. I want to be better than that.

[carefulcarpenter]

We see this in others--- of course, never ourselves. 😊

[carefulcarpenter]

Spiritual growth is a lifelong process.

[happygoluckystar]

What gets me is that people who are so oblivious feel deeply offened when you point it out. they usually say „I am just honest, you deal with it” 🙄

[Di...]

Another reason for emotional immaturity is being extremely coddled and kept from the realities of the world.

[exaudi]

Emotionally immature parents are truly terrifying for children. They have the power, the money, the physical size, they own the house, make the decisions.... My entire adult life has been spent recovering from them.

[sllingky]

This has been so educational and healing. One year ago this weekend I learned my mother is a vulnerable narcissist. It has been a hell of a year unpacking that and beginning to heal. This video explains a huge part of who my mom is, and it took me until nearly the age of 50 to see it. So much pain and brokenness. Thank you for your content. I'll definitely listen to more!

[sharonp]

Great insights as well as a reminder to check in with myself first, before reacting, to see what is going on with me. 😊❤

[Blixtwixy]

I noticed I can come off mature and calm, or immature and emotional, as a reflection of who I'm talking to. As if somebody else being immature or upset makes me want to back up and not put in the mental effort to maintain my own responses, because they didn't put that energy in either.

[ed]

I'm watching this for my own behaviour, to unlearn and relearn!

[fingerprint]

I'm yet to encounter a human who is emotionally mature. Considering over 95% of decisions made by humans are emotion-based ...!

[gracegarce]

This content is also a form of self-check to gauge my emotional maturity as well. Thank you ❤

[Marekcatholic]

Shining a light on the important issues. Thank you Julia! :)

[antiochiaadtaurum]

Point number 1 isn't necessarily always the case.

Sometimes other emotionally immature people (such as toxic parents) push you too react. They know the buttons that will make you freak out, or enrage you. However emotionally immature the recepiant of this treatment is, the toxic parents are the real problem.

The point I am trying to make is don't blame yourself for emotional immaturity if someone is abusing you to react and blow up. Blame them, abandon them, and work on your own emotional regulation from there. It's not your fault, it's theirs.