ADHD & Shame #shorts #adhd

[jltsandwich]

The texts I forget to reply to and then get overwhelmed and ignore for months 🤦🏻‍♀️

[hueynapalm]

Sometimes the food isn’t even forgotten. Its just too much work to do anything with and its a reminder of wasted money and bad diet.

[elizabethdowney]

Me telling myself "Just make it Better, not perfect" every time i tackle my forgotten, or overwhelming chores.

[whickwhacksmacker]

to anyone who needs to hear this. You aren’t broken, you just function a little differently. Your wins are still wins, and just because we flounder in a society built for and by neurotypicals, doesn’t mean we aren’t any less important.

[roymustangsgirl]

Thank you for making something so secret and so shameful in so many of our hearts easy to visualize. I felt this in my soul, and will save it if I ever need it to help explain how guilty I feel even if I look relaxed

[maze]

This made me cry a bit, because the panic rose instantly in my stomach

[immabonsai]

Your videos about ADHD are so freaking relatable

[General-Hopper]

…….the growing pile of dirty pans on the side, the recycling piling up, not been showered in days, litterings of stuff everywhere from the multiple on-going projects.

Yup, got my blinders on real high n tight today (weeks) 😂🙈

[Losloth]

I have worked to not be ashamed of those things. Not being ashamed helps me get to those things faster. I just accept that this is how it is. I don’t have the energy for doing those things not because they are physically hard but because it requires me to either hit the right mood or a lot of effort and that is often better spent on making sure the kids have a good time and get to bed on time. The dishes will just have to wait.

[nadiavilar]

Exactly...shame is always the feeling...and I am really tired of it

[Biggirllife.]

This is every single day of my life on a loop! 😢

[Hi_Im_Akward]

Those small moments of seeing/remembering you need to do something while you are in the middle of going to do something else far more urgent (like getting to work on time). 😬

[championeshadow]

“Seeing how long you were scrolling” thanks for making me check the time holy hell

[MichaelWrzesinski]

Ppl def don't get the GRAVITY of internal shame & hearing 'why can't u just...'.. elevates it. Like anyone WANTs 2 not b able 2 function! ❤

[stephaniejordan]

Thank you for showing us (me) all sides of you! It makes me feel better that I’m not the only one on this crazy ADHD island.

I embrace it and make it work for me, most days. Today is not one of those. Today is overwhelm because of forgotten food, laundry not put away, laundry needing washed…..

[forgtten]

there isn't a thing I can do that doesn't put me on the path of something I've forgotten or neglected.

[lovely_poekie]

Dang I felt that. I often tell myself that I don’t really see the tasks that I need to do when I walk past them, I'm just saying to myself "ooh that needs to be done" and then just walk on. I've told myself that that's just how my brain works, that I need to consciously make the decision to do the task NOW. But you just made me realise that I do indeed feel that moment of shame everytime, and that I want to work on that. I don't want to feel ashamed of who I am ❤

[electronicsandewastescrapp]

ADHD involves so many micromoments of shame. Stepping over the pile of laundry. Re-remembering the bill you still haven’t paid. The sink full of dishes and the fridge leftovers lurking in the back.
The small but recurring “I should have” is cumulative and it’s painful.
I want to encourage folks with ADHD to start noticing those moments of shame.
And instead of letting them crush you with judgment, use them as an opportunity to reaffirm your humanity.
You are not a failure or a fuckup or a mess. You’re human. So, so human.
It takes a lot of practice to catch ourselves in those moments. But the healing we can do when we stop shaming ourselves? It’s huge.
“Death by a million paper cuts” — except it’s trauma by a million moments of self-blame and shame. Imagine what it might feel like to release it?
You might even notice you feel less stuck when you gently approach the shame instead of shutting down.
Cumulative moments of empowerment and self-compassion count for something, too. All of it adds up.
I’m still learning. But I can honestly say that bringing awareness to shame, and meeting it with curiosity and care, has made a huge difference.
My default setting was to beat myself up every time I encountered something I didn’t like. It’s not sustainable to live like that.
The next time you step over the laundry or encounter a pile of miscellaneous stuff you “should” have put away, take a deep breath.
It’s not you. None of this is about you. It’s hard to be a human with ADHD. It’s okay to not have a perfect system, a perfect home, a perfect life.
You deserve kindness in those moments. In every moment.
It’s a muscle we’re not very used to flexing — rarely was this kind of grace ever offered to us by our parents, teachers, bosses, peers.
But we can give it to ourselves. And we have plenty of moments to practice this.
You are not the sum of your unfinished tasks.
You are not a walking to-do list.
Your life is much more than this.
Remember that, okay?

---Sam Dylan Finch

[berryberrykpop]

This makes me feel so seen. And then every once in awhile, I get an insane burst of energy and clean everything meticulously.

[fueledbyraccoon]

The tears this brought me to just because I felt deeply understood.