This is NOT healthy coping

[tishie]

My tiny garden is my favorite thing to see every morning. Getting my hands dirty and seeing something grow is amazing. When it's too hot or cold to be outside, I sew for my family amd myself. I get into a zen stitch meditation mode and I have something to show for it. My son passed in Feb and I had to find something to do. It never goes away but it gets better every day.

[tomkattz]

She's not in crisis. She had the wherewithal to record and post her performance. This is how adult-children get attention and validation.

[Softtwilight]

When my son passed, it was the worst and most horrific pain I have ever (or will ever) experienced. After 6 weeks, I went back to work so that I wouldn't go insane. Having a distraction helped a lot. Nothing ever takes the pain away, and it always hurts, but if I had wallowed in my pain it would have been worse. It's a pain no parent should experience.

[jodystaples]

Going for a walk is the best advice, I use walking to unwind anxiety.

[GigglewithFelix]

These are the sad nothings that are ruining the country.

[amb]

I used to believe you needed to let out till it would feel better. Recently I've learnt it's no good idea at all to be self marinating in those sad feelings thoughts memories or whatever. And it WORKS so much better and accomplishing something even if it's little boosts good energy to levels that are very refreshing. Thank you for the reinforcement 😀

[MalignDreams]

Back when I suffered with really bad depression I would give myself three days. I had three days to mope, drag my feet, and just wallow. But after that three days I forced myself to get up, shower, work, do something productive, no matter how I still felt. And it helped every. single. time.
Going to walk, being productive, is great advice. 💯💛

[TheIceCrypt]

Matt's right;
I regularly break down into a self-pitying mess because I'm a 25 y/o InCel who can't get a GF.
It's happened so many times that I've actually come to enjoy the catharsis of expressing sorrow, anguish, & despair.
My guess is that people who're starved for love, joy, & satisfaction just want to feel something so they'll take anything over nothing.
That's how it is for me anyway.

[nicolinzini]

Self-pity is the most poisonous of all emotions.

[luc]

I'm tired of those grown up babies man...

[liileejade]

Even though it's so hard to do sometimes, your advice is absolutely correct. It's just that people are no longer given the "tools" to cope with heavy issues. We have raised everyone to rejoice and embrace self pity and victimisation. I'd go as far as saying that they only give us the "tools" to do anything BUT cope in a humanly acceptable and healthy manner.

[enigmaticallis]

I know Matt Walsh is generally against therapy, but regardless, he'd make a great therapist!!
He has legit problem solving solutions instead of being hyper-focused on emotions!!!

[CheyenneSciscoe]

My dad lost our mother when I was just 12 right after he lost his mother due to cancer. My mother had a brain aneurysm. He wallowed for a bit and then he took up woodworking with his brother. He made my son his crib this year. It’s shaped like a boat. He’s doing very well these days. I wonder what this lady’s “trauma” is.

[kapukahinene]

Wow. That view from the mountain is amazing! ❤❤❤

[kimberlee]

You are so right Matt. My parents died two weeks apart...each one suddenly from different things. I went out and bought a treadmill, started running 6 miles a day and lost 60 pounds.

[JanisSierra-kufq]

Self pity is not good coping. These ppl need to know it is neither attractive nor helpful

[jesterday]

Get some sunlight on your skin, eat lots of leafy greens, go for a walk in nature (all for minerals that will boost your mood!) Or focus on others instead of yourself. Helping others, wether human or animal, will make you feel good about yourself!

[AngelaPereira-mf]

CELEBRATE RECOVERY IS THE BEST THING I EVER DID FOR MYSELF

[brandonmbaxter]

There is alot of good to be had from self reflection, and it can be cathartic to reflect on the bad things that have happened to us in life, but if you simply do this because you enjoy the feelings of pitying yourself, thats not healthy, and not being reflective at all. We reflect to understand and improve ourselves. I agree, take that and use it in a positive pursuit that will be fulfilling, work out, exercise, pick up a hobby, come up with a goal, read more books, learn a musical instrument. Invalidate those feelings of low self worth by actions taken to improve yourself.

[Oneironaut]

She wants to feel this way. She loves it. "The Ego Loves It's Pain." - Eckhart Tolle