How To Fight For Your Marriage

If marriage feels difficult, it’s not because you and your spouse are incompatible. It’s because you’re married. On today’s episode, Jackie and Preston are joined by mentors and friends CD and Melody Fabien for a conversation about fighting for intimacy. They talk about recognizing dysfunctional rhythms, finding opportunities to connect, not building cases against your spouse, healthy confrontation, and utilizing the greatest tool God has given us to find oneness in marriage: communication.

Watch Hanging Out With The Fabiens: @hangingwiththefabiens

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[mariemuhammad]

We should say what we mean and mean what we say but don’t say it mean. ❤

[a.q.]

"I want to expose a lie". That is some great communication. It says " this is what is going on in my head, but in my heart I know it's not true about who you are. However, it's what I'm thinking which is very well a thought planted by the enemy." I'll take this into my next relationship, the Lord grace me to have one...

[Niecey.lovesyou]

I’m not even married but this podcast blessed me 🙌🏽

[teamturnerchannel]

This was SOOOO GOOOODDD! When y'all started talking about the devil trying to get us to leave our spouse!!!! I used to have those exact thoughts whenever I got upset with my husband. The only difference was the devil would tell me to leave and take the children. He would glamorize the idea of divorce and coparenting every other weekend because I would get more time to myself, and he would try to appeal to my ego by telling me that my husband doesn't appreciate me but when I leave he'll finally see what he had and constantly begging me to come back and I would be "the one that got away". In my pursuit for Jesus and speaking the name of Jesus over my marriage God revealed to me that the Devil was trying to use me to bring my husband unimaginable emotional pain and send him in a downward spiral. God had to give me the tools and scripture to cast that enemy out of my mind. This past year God has truly transformed our marriage!

[damitagordon]

Now this is food for the soul. 23 yrs of marriage and I can testify to the faithfulness of God, and to the thwarting of the enemy plan to break up my marriage. ❤

[mariemuhammad]

Conflict doesn’t mean something is wrong, it just means you are married.

[lindajames]

This podcast was God sent! The 4 of y'all need to be a regular! Thanking God for your obedience and willingness to share!

[CAdaure]

I love the concept of exposing & confessing the enemy’s lies and then praying as a couple. ❤ so beautiful and crucial.

[charmainedaniels]

This was so so good. Been married 24 years but currently separated for five months. I definitely see satan at work. I am still fighting for reconciliation and will watch this again!

[Eyecyhu]

“Lord break his leg like a lamb” 😂😂 not knowing she was gonna be responsible for helping him heal 😂. God is THAT DUDE !

[a.d]

When you no where near marriage but watching this video because all of the Perry’s videos are so viable😂

[yasmeenalim]

I didn’t want this to end. The chemistry was amazing and it spoke to exactly what I was battling with. Me and husband been at odds for days now.

[Team_Blackledge]

The part about the husband spending time with the Master to get motivated then washing his wife with the Word and filling up her love tank… that made so much sense of the desires I’ve been having for my own marriage but I have totally come off as a nag. And we’ve been happily married for 11 years! Still figuring things out… Thank you for this!!! Improving marriages all over the place!

[sys]

This is probably one if the best biblical conversations on marriage yet practical. Thank you guys for this investment in our Godly marriages!

[derrickgildon]

My wife and I had the privilege to attend a weekend to remember that was co-lead by the couple the Fabian’s are describing. When I tell you the humility they both walked in through the brokenness in their marriage convicted me deeply about my unforgiveness toward my bride. The couple mentioned they were writing a book about the experience hopefully you all have them on “With the Perry’s” when it drops. God is amazing!

[karensindisoparimwa]

“Spiritually maturing ppl who are willing to do the work. You don’t have to be mature, you just have to listen to God…” That one💯💯💯

[christalynwilliamslcsw-s]

Let me tell you something...that waking up and seeing him studying the Word being a turn-on is real. Study your Word. It pays off. Lol 😆 Real talk. This was a blessing. ❤

[reneeray]

I’m 30 years in a good christian marriage. However, this right here. Is 🔥🔥🔥. God bless you Jackie and Preston for sharing this with us.😊

[Gigi-ucic]

I needed this right now. I’m beginning and working on my spiritual journey. My husband is not a believer. I sent this video to him. I hope he watches and most of all listens and the Holy Spirit moves him in the direction of the Lord. I pray this in Jesus’s name AMEN 🙏

[hzlil]

I needed to hear that. "He was teaching how to speak to him." I don't like when my husband tells me how to say something. I see it as correcting how I speak. But, now that I've realized he is trying to teach me how to speak to him so he hears me, now I choose to be open to hear him. Thank you