Why People Shut Down & How To Support Them - Lisa Nichols

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The Lisa Nichols show is a place where you can come at any given time to get the step by step tools you need to live the life that you want. In this episode, Lisa talks about why people shut down & how to support them.

Now... This is not just a monologue, it's a dialogue. Make sure to share your thoughts below in the comments and subscribe to this channel and look out for more amazing content every week!

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[yolandaw.]

For me I shut down becuz I'm feel like I'm always told I'm weak or immature. The pain caused by not being validated and even worse rejected.

[yolandaw.]

Love is so beautiful and wonderful ..💗
Even when it hurts. Just knowing it's possible and that it exists somewhere is lovely

[leethomas-ggud]

I am bringing my work to my remembery. loading my mind over and over again

[amberforbes]

I think we to often find ourselves talking at people instead of to people . We are very driven by emotions. And I completely agree with you. Its only natural for anyone to shut down it's a defense mechanism and we have to learn to use the right words with one another. Thanks Lisa for this video! Your the best.

[thejourneytoabettertomorrow]

Did not expect that it will be such a valuable lesson. Get the buy in to the end result.
"Here's what I would love to happen on the other side of this conversation. By the time we finish, by the time we finish. I want you to feel heard. I want you to feel encouraged. I want you to have a greater sense of peace of mind. I want as to be on the same page. Is that something that you will be willing to help me create with us?"
Super powerful! Thank you Lisa. I appreciate you for making me 1% better today.

[JesstheCreative]

Now that I know, I can do better. What I pray for is that I & my people feel the fear, but want the healing on the other side of the discomfort more than the delusion of comfort in our complacency.

[TerryCollinsPLifestyle]

Set the intention. I recently forgot to do that and it didn’t go well.

[Red.Sonja.]

I love what you said. I am losing a relationship because he won't set this intention with me to feel safe with my emotions. He does things his way by pushing me and when I shut down he calls me prideful. I've tried talking to him, but he disregards what I say. I ran away to protect myself. I want to open up and stop shutting down. I don't want to be numb. I do not understand how to manage my emotions and it's ruining my life. I've been through serious trauma and have difficulty connecting with others who don't see and understand how trauma effected me. He never told me his intentions. I've asked and he doesn't answer. Thank you for your video. I'll be listening more often.

[chavounmaybell]

Lisa Your tsunami of knowledge is so transformative ! We are onions!! It takes CONSISTENT love to reach the core! #BOL

[sgm]

Lisa Nichols, You are simply wonderful.

[breezegilbert]

I've shut done BIG TIME, AND I'm still not ready to open up. I feel HURT. I'm hurting and I pray day and night to heal soon so that I have back my joy of life, my kindness, my peace of mind and clarity again. I became unrecognizable; I'm a different person.

[Bianca-tjmt]

Great content! Thank you for posting this video. I recently had an 'argument' with my sister and I shut down, as usual. I really don't like this level of emotional immaturity that I express because I consider myself a well-rounded individual. I guess I tend to fall in a rut afterward by being too hard on myself when I display parts of myself that are still weak and need fixing up. My sister, as well as another, said that I keep pushing people away. You mentioned something along the lines that people who shut down tend to be afraid of what they can't control (aka high-intensity emotions), which I agree with after giving it some thought. Although I may still not know why I behave in this way, I'm on the internal, self-awareness search to find out. Each day I strive to become a better version of myself and your eye-opening words are pointing me in the right direction :)

[JankahCoakley]

good morning this is my daily message to myself ....i promise to listen to this every day until i learn need this in my life . for my husband, my kids, but most of all for me....i love all the relationships i have with them but it can be better ...thanks i am looking forward to a better me

[PTSDWhileBlack]

I needed this so much today. I have several people in my life I have damaged by trying to fix them or offer solutions. Part of my amends process is to be more of a listener with the intention of empowering my husband, friends, and family to be their own heroes. Getting their buy-in on this experience can help so much with my learning to be a safer person for them.

[tosha]

Thank you Lisa, I will definitely try your technique of stating my intentions before having a difficult conversation. This was genius but straightforward, just how I like it! 👏 👏

[samanthamargaritha]

Hi Lisa. Thank you so much for your positivism. I am so grateful for you. I used to think that everything was too much but a year ago I started to be aware of my thinking and I told myself "GO THROUGH BUT I GET THROUGH" and I will no matter what enjoy the ride. Once more thank You Lisa. Be blessed

[surrealstacey]

OMG! I am going to try this in ALL future communication. I am a business owner and have a mother who shuts down. My personality is very strong. It makes people shut down as soon as I say we need to talk. Now I know how to assure them they will be heard.

[agillis]

What a great video. I like to watch your videos, just to catch some of your animism, but kudus must also to your sage advice. We do need to discern between codependency, enabling, being a busy body, and being able to offer a safe and compassionate space to those we love. I love what you say, “I don’t want to fight.” closes people down. Thanks for making brighter days for me and everyone.

[jaydenecampbell]

Lisa, I just invited my partner into the room to listen to this. The words you have used to describe how people can avoid causing angst and the techniques on looking at what you want to get out the conversation is great. If so many people could apply this when they speak to me that would be great! I used to think it was strange...people say they want to help you but don't even start with the layers which is a basic to getting to the core. I feel refreshed by your words today and at the same time comforted so thank you.

[sharonnugent]

Thank you. I am so tired of another person accusing people like me who dont know how to communicate like he dies of malevalent motives