My Coming Out Story (my brother outed me)

It's no secret I'm gay, but here is my coming out story and how I was outed to my family by my brother. I get a little personal with family stuff in the video, but I always found it helpful when I was young and in the closet to watch coming out videos, so I thought I'd make one in return.

[MrJasonshores]

I came out when I was 15 in 1993, my Grandma was amazing and everyone fell in line, after she passed they pretty much went back to hating me for being gay. So I moved to Michigan and am making my own family. If they cannot accept you you do not need them. I spent too much time trying to hold on to a family that didn't care if I just went away. I moved 3, 000 miles and not a single person messaged me, wires me or calls me. They all just pray to their selfish god and act like I don't exist. Fuck em. Sorry for the rant, thanks for the video.

[AttackOfTheBees]

I would be pissed at your brother, that's like three separate, ridiculously shitty things he did in one outing (going through phone, telling, giving details). I'd struggle to forgive or trust someone after that, without a hell of an apology.

[EdgeOfLight]

being outted is the worst.. It's like being stripped of your free will.

[michealmcrae]

I came out to my parents when I was kicked out of the army for being gay. They were initially supportive but I made it clear that I really needed support. My dad died young so I was happy that our relationship was more real. Years later my mom was still asking, "Why did you have to tell these other people that you're gay?" Because I am mom and lots of people aren't aware that they know a gay person.

[abowlofsalad]

Me: “Hey mom... I’m... a lesbian....”
My Mom: “Cool—what do you want for dinner?”

Me: “Wait a second...you’re not shocked?”
Mom: “I don’t care as long as you marry a doctor you’re fine in my book”.

[ninelives]

Your brother is not your friend. Not only should he not have outted you. But no matter what he found he should have respected you as his brother. I think all in all it went well. It may have worked in your favor that you other family was visiting giving your parents time to process everything and not fly off the handle. And again your brother is not your friend.

[Purpelblur]

I loathe the whole coming out thing because I don't see it as something that should be necessary. Maybe one day we'll live in that world.

[victoriaherron]

That almost happened to me. My sister found out and she threatened me and forced me to come out. She was going to out me to my parents if I didn’t. So I had to myself.

[erickguessford]

You're awesome for being happy with yourself and encouraging others (especially struggling teens) to do so as well.

[Miavoli]

I am pansexual and told my little brother who is 15 even though he is very often mean to me and I don't trust him much but I had to and he first awkwardly promised to not out me but for a year now he's been threatening to out me to my mom every time we had a argument and it's horrible.. he does it in disgusting ways like saying "at least I'm not fucking gay like you" almost loud enough for my mom to hear and making fun of me and I really don't know what to do because I'm not ready to come out to her yet... thank you for this video I am so sorry that your brother was horrible to you too and you are so strong! ❤️

[Geezman]

Whoa! Has your brother sat with you to apologise or at least explain the circumstances?

[DenizF]

Very brave of you, thanks for sharing!

[snowrider]

Great vid man subbed:) my parents said gay slurs before I was out too. Really messed with me.

[theadorjespert]

My sister threatened to out me before, and so did my brother. Whether they were concerned or just being asses, I don't know, and frankly, I don't care. I've never forgiven either of them, and I probably never will. Life choices are by the individual. If you are concerned, talk to them, not behind their backs, and especially not without consent. So I feel this.

[chrispychreme]

I came out when I was about 13 to my mom (about 8 years ago) and she's been so amazing and accepting of me and my girlfriend. I've been with my girlfriend now for almost 3 years and we live together away from home but my grandparents don't really acknowledge it. The only downside is I've met all of my girlfriends family because they really don't mind and they love me but its just really hard not being able to let my girlfriend meet my family. I'm sorry this is so long but I just get emotional when I see people tell their coming out story because it reminds me that we have a family of our own where we are always accepted.

[blokeandburd]

I’m very proud of you!! It takes a lot of courage to do this and I’m proud to say your my cousin!! Even though we don’t see each other often, I love you!!

[tieiatalks]

I’m glad you shared. Your unique experience might be exactly what a young, closeted person might need to hear. ❤️

[mildbutwild]

I wouldn’t trust your brother - that’s not caring or compassionate . Hope he reads peoples comments that are worse than mine. I’m so happy to see you doing great and feeling accepted, you truly are accepted by millions. 💕🙏🏼

[kevin_in_]

I lost my virginity at age 12, played in my teen years, but only casual stuff. I then waited until I was 48 to come out. Now I am 51, hefty and single living in rural Maine.

[melz]

Wow!! I can't imagine what you went through!!!! That is terrible that your brother took that out of your hands and told them!! I do think it was good that your aunt and uncle were there so your parents had some time to process what your brother told them and possibly react more calmly than they would have initially! What makes it even worse is that your brother didn't only tell them you were gay but told them about the sexual txt that you had with another person and no parent wants to hear about their child's sexual interactions whether they are gay or straight!!!! I don't think this type of video is cliche, everyone's story is different and your story out of 100 others they have heard may be the one that helps the most!!! I'm so glad things are well with you and your family, but I woukd totally want to strangle your brother haha at least one good Is your relationship with him better after that happened or is there still some deep rooted anger you have toward him??