6 Months Later: My Breakup Journey

to every single one of you who held my tender heart with such love, thank you. thank you for making me feel alone in such dark times. thank you for inspiring me to keep honouring my truth. i love u. i will always be grateful.

timestamps:
00:00 a metaphor for times of great change: death to rebirth
00:54 my darkest times
3:34 how i healed (1) do less, be more
4:45 reconnect with your interests
5:52 learn to be unapologetically yourself; dressing for me
6:52 i was sent 2 gifts by the universe
7:50 morning pages, a tool for healing
8:22 meeting my 85-year old friend
9:35 the myth of change
10:34 things get better
11:13 dealing with jealousy
12:30 wishing your ex well
13:05 celebrating how far i've come
15:17 strength for anyone going through a breakup
16:20 my rebirth.

and a sneaky little message for anyone who might be where i was in february. maybe you have a sneaky little niggling feeling deep in your gut that your relationship isn't right for you. But on the surface it's PERFECT. You can acknowledge you love them. You can acknowledge you should be perfectly happy and fulfilled. You can acknowledge that they've done nothing wrong. And yet you cannot shake this constant fear that you are not living your most authentic truth if you deny this feeling.
Allow me to remind you that there is nothing braver than listening to your feelings, even if -- and especially when -- there is 'no tangible reason' to be feeling them. I dare you to bring these feelings to the surface. I dare you to carefully examine them. To shine light on them. To turn them over in your fingers with friends and family and therapists and people you trust. To even voice them to your partner. To bravely let them into your fears, so that you can see if it's something that can be changed and worked on.
But if you know that you've done all of those things, that you've really really tried to make it work and yet the feeling still lingers, then I IMPLORE you, be brave. Do it. End it. There is never a perfect time. Do it. A part of you is dying every single day you wait. Do not fear the uncertain future. You will mourn. And you will heal. And you will meet a newer, stronger, truer version of you and it will feel better than anything you can possibly imagine. I promise. ♡

[UnJadedJade]

As always, thank you for holding my tender heart with such love!! I've absolutely loved experimenting with more poetic videos to reflect on my life. 🥹 Nothing inspires me more than seeing people on the internet unapologetically showing their humanness, in all our wonderful messiness and growth. I really hope this video helps at least one of you feel seen. If you’re going through a breakup, I’m sending you the biggest hug. I promise it gets better. Keep focusing on yourself. Lean into the cocoon. And one day you’ll just look up and kinda realise you made it through. ❤‍🩹

[shdwbrwl]

It's videos like these which remind me why I subscribed to you in the first place: You're not afraid to be honest and be yourself and I love that about you. Just remember that you'll always have this little corner of the internet with your community of 936, 000 people and no one can take that away from you. We're always here for you and we love you Jade. 💜

[heartbreakhotelsworld]

honestly, I will always stand by the fact that breakups are the beginning of your higher self. Im an so incredibly grateful for my breakup now, and at the time it was the worst ive ever felt in my life. This is so raw and authentic. Love you, Jade!!! 💌

[xmurphyxx]

Relationship issues are truly some of the hardest to deal with, accept and face. I like to think of myself as a fairly level-headed and self-aware person, but when it comes to relationships, all that sense of rationality goes out the window as emotions take over. This was a beautifully raw but inspiring video, thank you!

[dominiclawrence]

oh jade this was so beautiful, so moving, so emotional. i really, really needed this. you have no idea how much this will help people for so many years to come. here's to healing, here's to growth. <3

[jenniferlinskey]

this editing is insane. the artfulness is exquisite. thank you Jade

[AgioTheDays]

I bursted into tears when seeing the Marie Jo part. It happened again when hearing the Girl in Red song at the end, which Ive heard live before in Amsterdam. You’re a very pure person and I resonate with a lot of the things you’re saying and sharing. And for what it’s worth, this message comes from a man! Sending you all the love and compassion I am able to in this way. ❤ from NL

[Sara-xbzn]

I broke up with my ex a year ago. And it's hard, this last summer, facing all the places I went with him, alone. But it does get better. Thank you for talking about this❤

[sarahmagnier]

OMG " make peace with the waiting" made me cry. I needed that centance

[pimeyyy]

damn. I'm pretty sure this comment will be lost among all others, but just in case you see it, thank you for making these kinds of videos. I'm not even living through a breakup but life has been pretty hectic lately, there are a lot of changes around me, and you can't understand how soothed I felt after watching this. Thank you for showing good but also bad moments of your life, and I send you ALL a lot of positivity and strength <3

I realized I’m just going through a breakup right now, but different. A breakup with my parents, an unhealthy relationship. So I’m about to start my cocoon phase and I’m glad for this amazing video of yours!

Thank you! And I hope you can come to Brazil one day 🇧🇷 I must confess you’re my crush 🙈

[ariadnasanchezm]

I also left a 3 year relationship and it was one of the darkest, scariest moments of my life. 1 year later, I'm still a bit scared and lost but also incredibly proud of how much more connected I am to myself, my desires, and my worth. And I know everything will be ok as long as I keep that connection. To anyone struggling, I just wanted to say that you're not alone and that there is hope. Great things are awaiting you, the universe is just preparing you for it! (and yeah it's hard and painful, but it will be worth it). Thank you Jade for sharing this with us, you cannot imagine how much it helps <3 lots of love for everyone out there!

[teegham]

Despite being in my bedroom while I watched this, a ladybird landed on my iPad as I watched. If that doesn’t perfectly reflect the energy of this video then I don’t know what does. Thank you for this beautiful piece of work <3

[indiahunnikin]

your videos make me feel so seen and less alone, i think its so freaking cool you're so open about how messy 20s are. we're the same age and i feel so lucky your videos exist and that i get to watch them. thank you <3

[innocentthing]

I also want to say I'm so jealous of you being in this stage of your life, I went through it when I was your age too, I became a mild hippy after a break up and it felt like I was discovering the world anew ❤ I'm 29 now, studied physics and medicine since then and my view on life has changed but I look fondly at that time of so much opportunity

[sage]

currently going through a serious friendship breakup that I initiated and i really hear you when you say that you DID make the right choice and that your intuition and your gut knows when people should no longer be in your life. thank you for such honest, beautiful, and kind content jade

[flaviuswestfall]

I don’t know what it is Jade, but there’s something about your storytelling that motivates me to try. I have been watching your content since I was in high school, and whenever I felt a sense of hopelessness, your videos have been an insta-fix for me. Thank you for bringing the much needed positivity to the digital world.

[halfsugarlessice]

Never comment but thank you for being so unapologetically raw in your videos, Jade. It is so rare to find that kind of honesty on the internet (sometimes in real life too). Watching you turn into a butterfly has been beautiful and inspiring and we are all so proud! <3<3 Also this video is especially stunning visually. The editing and color grading on the images are a chef's kissss🦋

[fllenstarr]

not going through a breakup but stumbled on this video and can see the growth in a human, these "negative" things that happen to us that put us through a fire for long periods of time where we just want them to end and feel better are actually given to us to transform, like a caterpillar to a butterfly.

it can be hard but it all makes sense later as long as we go with the flow of the waves, reminding myself of this today!

[thehumanchris]

This is such a brave video to make. I think the part where it got me me was the story of Mary Jo. It was sooo touching, almost mystical. Really love the way you created the chapters in this story too and how Tarot cards played a role in this whole story was fascinating. To rebirth! This was so wholesome to watch the progress of your breakup 🫂