Why Avoidants Will Push You Away

Why avoidants will push you away. Discover the reasons behind avoidants pushing you away in romantic relationships. Learn how attachment styles play a crucial role in shaping the dynamics of your interactions. Subscribe now to gain valuable insights on navigating relationships with avoidant partners!

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[DonaldMeyers-vc]

Victoria's reactions to a bad decision by someone just makes me funny but you can tell she cares. Love it

[Lanefasts]

This guy got played... This woman was STILL LIVING with her husband, with no plans to move out. There was no way she was going to get a divorce to be with a 20-something. When she was done having fun with her 'boy toy', that's when she started coming up with excuses to distance herself, in the hopes that he would get the hint and go away. When he instead reacted by trying to hold on tighter and bothering her at work, it forced her to get more firm in her rejection of him. Yes, he had feelings for her, but he has to understand that he never had a chance with this woman, and this relationship was always going to play out the way it did, i.e. he's alone, and she's still comfortably married and living in the marital home

[carlfreiermuth]

in this case, The avoidant partner is literally begging for the anxious partner to respect her boundaries, and his anxiety is making him totally blind to the fact that he is the one that is behaving selfishly, intrusively and manipulatively.. I bet his mother behaves that way towards him, I'm speaking from my own experience as well, of of course. The workbooks really helped to open up my eyes

[carlfreiermuth]

my avoidant ex said that she was bad at communication.. she was warning me.. I refused to see the signs. the less she invested into the relationship, the more I did.. big imbalance. i fell off the see saw and landed in the proverbial mud... ouch

[ShawnG-kvxm]

Wonderful work Victoria and Craig. This was a very relatable telling of a typical anxious personality style trying to hold onto someone with an avoidant personality. It truly does demonstrate that one who is anxious really needs to focus on regulating themselves emotionally. This is most important when facing adversity from someone who is so avoidant that space is the only thing that can hold the relationship together. Scary, though. Especially for the one who is anxious.

[Shemayisrael]

Many beautiful things cannot be seen or touched; they are felt with the heart. What you've done for me is one of them, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart!❤

[tianiemitchell]

I agree he should be respecting her boundaries and listening to her that is so important whether this was a man or a woman you need to show that respect

[rosydonut]

My situation is confusing because my boyfriend didn’t act like an avoidant. He talked about marrying me, was very touchy feely and affectionate and wanted to be close to me all the time. But he didn’t communicate his feelings to me. I know attachment is a spectrum but he is just such an enigma and so confusing and unpredictable. We didn’t argue or bicker more than 2 or three times in an entire 9 month relationship! He is avoidant for sure because of childhood trauma but doesn’t act like one in any way other than his ability to communicate and share his feelings. The breakup was completely out of the blue and shocking!

[JamieWoganEdwards]

Aww...My Mom and Dad are Gen and Jerry. Made me smile. They were married over 50 years until he passed away. Your channel is wonderfully insightful btw. Ty! ❤

[jayl]

Your videos are helping me get through life. Honestly been watching for a few years now and thanks Craig & Victoria for all your information.

[MaryMullen-nr]

Let’s be honest here. He was a rebound. And she’s probably working things out with her husband. Or just didn’t take things serious because he was a lot younger.

[Moist._Robot]

I was totally taken advantage of by an older woman when I was 29.
Loved every minute of it.

[thewanderer]

My avoidant spouse left our marriage. I’ve been working on myself for 8 months now and haven’t heard a word.

[machazard]

My girlfriend is dismissive avoidant and she told me she never want to feel love emotion at all. Not Now and in future. We been dating for a year and i felt we were making progress bt apparently not. M been processing this for a week. I dont even know how that even works. But thanks to your channel which I found from my first break up many years ago. I understood her personality and i was peaceful during the whole conversation. Thanks for the good work for both of you

[darrenrichards]

Im in a very sad place me and my long distance partner broke up 7 times i was this guy she was a avoident only wanted to talk only once a week was not enough for me i ask every day what was she doing i need more i was warried she was cheating i needed closness i never new nothing about attachment we have brocken up again same issue i was so insecure i begged she came back, but this time i need to leave her alone and up to her to come back .

I never new abbut this im getting help

I hope and pray i am going back in 4 months to her country she knows im coming but i am not going to rach out if she is there she is there .

I beleave 6 months is enough .

I beleave if people knew about these attachment they coukd talk and work through this instead of braking up .

I hope its not to late ...

[nafafonafafofo]

A little harsh on the person writing in. I mean, yeah he was an idiot. But don’t we all make stupid mistakes when we’re suffering from a broken heart?

[tianiemitchell]

Sounds like she wanted to have a love affair to feel good and then that love affair became a chore

[tianiemitchell]

Yes not having more time with your plus knowing she even cares more for him

[tianiemitchell]

About once a week is better and even then maybe only three times a month especially if it seems good you want to take the time and you want them to miss you in between

[tianiemitchell]

That's why it's never appropriate to have an affair with someone you work with because if it doesn't work out you're stuck with that person unless of course you get fired or they get fired