6 things narcissist enablers say to you

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[truthmerchant]

"Be the bigger person". Translation: Shrink yourself to fit the narcissist's agenda.

[catwalkster]

" they are still your parents " is a big one.

[patrickdankwajohn]

I'm an attorney who does divorce work. One way to deal with the enablers is to ask them "why do you think it's in my best interest to do what you're suggesting?" This questions reveals that what they're telling you to do is not in your best interest at all. I've had my own personal experience with flying monkeys, and this question has worked every time.

[hiccuphaddock]

My favorite, "you can't live in the past.... you have to let things go..." Even when the behaviors have never stopped.

[susanlarson]

"There are two sides to every story." Not when it comes to abuse.

[maepeterson]

They tell us stuff like “well that’s in the past” even when it’s a recurring pattern

[butterflymagicwithhottea]

Enablers will say that they don't want to pick sides so keep them out of it by not talking to them about your perspective. It shuts down and ices out the person who is suffering.

[anabellee]

My father and my sister are narcissists. My mom is a big time enabler. When I confronted them, she said, "we fed you we raised you, did we sell you as a child?" She thinks I have to be grateful because they didn't commit humantrafficking...

[tebmot]

They'll say: "He loves you, he just doesn't know how to show it..." Crap like that...

[Autumn_Forest_]

Seríal killer: Gets caught killing people.

Neighbors: “He was the nicest guy ever. I never had any problem with him.”

[Al........]

The main thing I hear is that we are all told "you're too sensitive".
No we are not. I cut my narcissist and enablers off years ago, life is hard but it gets better.
Look after yourself everyone. X

[jennifercraven]

"You two never got along." As if it were a mutual problem vs dealing with one person's bad behavior.

[cuddlyarmadillo]

My favorite: "they told ME they're super sorry about the bad thing they did to you". Cool, funny how they consistently neglect to tell me directly.

[wynnyx]

I blocked my mom from my life, and everyone is telling me how in pain she is. No she isn't. She just doesn't like the optics of appearing like a bad mom whose eldest child wont talk to her. For real reasons.

[natsmith]

“You shouldn’t have made him so angry.” My mom enabled my dad’s narcissistic abuse out of fear. I was labeled the instigator growing up because I had the audacity to question my dad’s skewed version of reality.

[jamesbryson]

"Love everyone" "turn the other cheek" "I don't take sides" "make peace" "the truth is in the middle"

[biancavandermeulen]

“Why are you so negative and stuck in the past?”
“You’re an adult now, get over it.”
“You’re just an anxious person. You interpret everything wrong.”

[nicholashandfield-jones]

"All breakups are hard." No honey, a narcissist breakup is not like other break ups.

[Falconlibrary]

Six Things Narcissist Enablers say:
1.The Narcissist had a tough backstory 2:56
2. The Narcissist didn't mean it 5:01
3. I never had a problem with the Narcissist 6:12
4. It will get better--just be patient 7:38
5. It's not that bad (minimization aka gaslighting) 9:13
6. Stop complaining, the Narcissist takes care of your material needs 10:37

[angelbowen]

"At the end of the day, we’re still family"
"Honor thy mother and thy father"
"Your skin isn’t thick enough"
"Just ignore it"