How To Be A “High Value Man” | Courtney Ryan

The term “high-value man” gets thrown around a lot here on YouTube and it can be a bit confusing when everyone defines it a different way. In this video, I go over things you can do to become more "high-value" and live a life that reflects that. I hope you all find this helpful!

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[DallasSniper]

1. Create Your Purpose
2. Don't Outsource Your Happiness
3. Have Standards and Values
4. Take Care Of Yourself
5. Emotional Intelligence

[John-bdts]

It’s kinda sad that most people only think “highly” of you if you have material things.

[antonboludo]

Neediness and insecurity are your enemies.

True validation comes from within. We are all our own ultimate judges.

[GEORGIOARCADE]

Finally we can put this whole high value thing to rest. I think you made it so easy to understand and you gave such healthy ways like creating our purpose and not letting our only source of happiness come from just having women. It's about being confident in who we are, what are strengths are and willing grow to as men. Not being afraid to vulnerable or expressing how we feel is very important. Anyways haha, it's nice to hear you and i wish you a lovely new years week 😁🙌💫🥂

[deepwater]

The term "high value" as it is commonly used online, refers to sexual marketplace value (SMV). The reason for that definition is that the value is determined by what the vast majority of the opposite sex finds attractive in a mate, and is not defined by how I feel about myself. For example, plus size women might feel high value based on their self esteem, education, career or experience, but if they don't meet the criteria that the opposite sex wants in a partner they're not considered high value women because most men want fit healthy women. That doesn't mean there aren't men out there for them, it just means that they're not what the majority of men are looking for in a mate if given a choice. It also doesn't mean that they're not just as valuable as a human being as any other person is, it just means they're SMV is low. In short, the more of the opposite sex there are that desire you, the higher your value is to the opposite sex, it's that simple, there is no self assessment or interpretation necessary.

[oatenroberts]

All of this is a non negotiable for a high venue man but Courtney tried to suggest that money and looks aren’t major factor. In a perfect world they wouldn’t be but we don’t live in a perfect world. The men with the most value in our society have those two extra things whether she chooses to admit it or not. Regardless this is one of the best channels on YouTube.

[yangapiliso]

I love absolutely everything you said and you dissected this "high value" a million times better than most. What a real yet positive message (hard to find these days), THANK YOU.

[AhmedMohamed-ohml]

I love this woman and i love this channel . Much love and respect .. if we have more people in the world think like you do Courtney .. the world would have been a better place

[raularmas]

My purpose: to find and build on that inner source of peace, strength, understanding and then reach out for what we can create together.

[two-moonz]

By far the best advice on being a high value person. Thank you Courtney. Great job. I have saved this talk and will refer back to it and share it, Thank you again.

[BryJovi]

The thing is, some guys can honestly and legitimately be perfectly happy living their life keeping themselves to themselves, they don't want to work like an absolute maniac in their career to make silly money, they don't want to spend big portions of their time working out at the gym because they want to do the things they enjoy like video games, movies and music.

This doesn't mean that the guy is lacking in any of the other things you mention, such as emotional intelligence, he'd just rather distance himself from most people because in your own words, it is very rare. Even women are lacking emotional intelligence these days because they're either riddled with trauma or borderline psychopathic narcissists. Guys don't want to risk their comfortable life by attracting these types of women.

A guy can still have a lot of purpose in what he does in his career or what values he has and his moral compass is like, even if he lives a simple life, but sadly many women cannot look past the simple life part and wouldn't give most guys like that a second look.

[BenLukeSmith]

Great vid, on the other side of the spectrum. Some men are very confident, like me, sure of themselves, and very purposeful. You have to be cautious and beware of who you bring into your life. Do not bring in a toxic woman who will treat you like sh*t. Make sure she treats you the way that you deserve to be treated, if she doesn’t and she is continuously bringing you down - you need to know when to walk away.

[ChrisBanda]

Wow! No mention of six figure incomes, "leveling up" or being a high earner. With all this talk of the high value threshold starting at 100K most of us were automatically eliminated from contention, relegated to the lower tier dating pools and doomed to settle for what we could get. This is your fate the gurus say, regardless of how wholesome of a man you deem yourself to be. Courtney providing a ray of light.

[yckim]

Courtney, it is very encouraging that a well-kept woman like you knows and can articulate what a “high-value man” is. In this day and age of social media that led to entitlement and socially inept behavior, I am not sure where I could meet a “high value woman.” I live my life with purpose each day, giving everything I have for my students. But after working hard for most of my life, I start to wonder if it’ll ever happen for me.

[martifrey]

What men think high value is: money, career, purpose, cars, status
What women say high value is: purpose, career, emotional intelligence, respect etc
Who women settle for when they get old and need a provider: "High value men"
Who women actually date in their youth and want to be with but can't: Chad & Tyrone

[brett]

I'd like to add one because it took so long for me to learn. Always stay calm with women. They get emotional and try to bait you into fights. A lot. Stay calm and talk to them. Never lose your cool, not for a second. This may seem to frustrate them, but this is what they ultimately want. When the dust settles talk to them. Then talk some more. Women love to talk. It doesn't matter what you say. This mindset will prevent 90% of breakups.

[opticracer]

Courtney!
Thank you for having created your channel and providing a much needed base of clarity and inspiration in this at times, silly and absurd days.
Hope you and Teddy had a Wonderful Christmas and may you have a Prosperous New Year Amiga.
You are Amazing.

Keep on rockin' it!

[AlanMcCarthyguitar]

I like how you get to the point and don't drag out your videos with unrelated talk, its easy to get to the end of yours

[branzzzjonezzz]

Ms.Ryan, once again thank you for all you do, so awesome & so helpful. I make it a daily goal of mine to listen to at least one of your videos (it's usually much more) & just wanted to say thank you, I admire your knowledge & content beyond words.

[atmontgomery]

Love your videos Courtney! Especially where you talk about fashion advice. In the future could you possibly do a video on Date Night outfits for men? Or what to wear on a night out? I’m not really a sports coat type of guy or suit but I capsule change!