How to Talk About Your Past Sexual Sins (4 Tips)

Should you talk about your past relationships when you enter into a new relationship? Should Christians talk about past sexual sins? What should you talk about and what should you not mention when it comes to your past sexual sins? Here are 4 tips.

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[Kami]

Thank you! If any man be in Christ he is a new creation old things have passed away and behold all things have become NEW!

[duct_tapeheart]

Wow, this is super helpful. I'm single and celibate, and growing in Christ now... but my past was pretty rough. One day, I look forward to having a relationship with a man who's completely dedicated to Jesus! Sometimes it's intimidating to think that might mean he is a virgin... In my experience, that might scare a man away, or embarrass him 😬 neither of which is ideal. I wish I didn't have to talk about it at all, but I don't think that's very honoring *sigh*
I appreciate your encouragement to at least be upfront about it. I also like your suggestion to leave the conversation alone once it's settled... This is possible! I can do this! I'm a new creation, and God has someone awesome for me!!!! 😊❤👏👏👏

[jeskahaley]

Praying my husband will show up soon. God knows the man I need and he will be a man who loves me like Christ loves the church.

[Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect]

Wow, this is the most helpful video or advice I've receive on this particular topic. I dated a Christian guy a few years ago who was dead-set on knowing EVERY detail of my past due to the indiscretions of his ex. He couldn't handle some of the information divulged and started being verbally abusive. This helped A LOT to not make the same mistake again!

[boy]

I'm glad I stumbled upon this site..As a man who just recently went through a divorce I love reading on things such as this..

[sherlockinapot]

Thank you, I really needed to hear this right now. Your posting of this was perfect timing, God has used so many of your videos to help and guide me, He is using you in so many amazing ways!! Getting things done in God's kingdom, all glory to God!!!

[ebaso]

I think about this a lot. Hopefully that person will be able to forgive me.

[mexicansavage]

i need prayer right now.. my girlfriend told me about her past sexual sin and i got so upset cuz she had sexual stuff with other guys before me and i am trying to get over her past but jealousy gets the best of me

[ChoiceSC]

What you said is so relevant to my experiences I had in the datings. There were many men approached by telling me, we should know each other’s past for the datings. They didn’t take the datings with me to any further to ultimately build a Christian marriage. They only wanted to have free counseling session with me... 😔

[TexKen]

Moving forward... learning what that means. God allows your brokeness to glorify Him. It is because you understand being on both sides of this hurt (sin) that you can learn to move forward. Without it then the chance of understanding, relating and/or being present through the healing of your loved one is that we glorify God through our weakness.

[Storyman]

I’m young, I’m a guy, and I’m a virgin (and will be until I’m married) and honestly the thought of marrying a woman who isn’t is one of the most painful thoughts to me. It’s a scenario I’m trying to wrap my head around because I don’t expect many people to care about purity anymore, and it hurts. It hurts deeply in ways and places I can’t explain well. And I don’t know why.

[colleenhodges]

I have a work relationship that has brought this conversation into the course of our job. My married co-worker one evening began telling me about an incident in his life where he had been raped by someone. His telling me this opened the door for me to finally share about myself having been raped. It was just a natural flow since this co-worker is like a younger brother to me. When he tried to get me to share other aspects of my "Bad" old days. I told him that I don't talk about those things because I am not the same person I was back then an I really don't want the people I associate with now to only be able to look at me and see the person I used to be. He accepted my reasoning and dropped the subject. I actually get uncomfortable now when others openly speak about their own past sexual indiscretions with a filter.

[sarahhayden]

Hi Mark! Thank you for this video. I haven’t committed any significant past sexual sins, but after a couple of months of dating my boyfriend, he hasn’t initiated this conversation either, so is it okay to ask him? Because certain addictions have a tendency to reoccur later in life, my parents would prefer me not to marry a man with any past serious addictions—whether that be sexual, alcoholism, or a drug addiction. They think it’s important to ask my significant other about this before the relationship becomes more serious so that I can decide if this is a relationship I want to stay in. I agree, but do you think this would be pushy or out of place for me to ask him about his past? Thank you so much! I appreciate you and your encouraging videos!

[vielkarodriguez]

This was enlightening to me.. I never thought about this. Hope I remember if he comes around.

[hollywarehouse]

ANOTHER AWESOME MESSAGE!🙏🏼🙌🏼☝🏼💪🏼
Thank you for all the work you put into TRYING to help us “WALK THE WALK”, and not just “TALK THE TALK!”
God Bless!

[JustKate]

Your advice is so good, I wish that I knew all these things a lot sooner, thank you Mark!

[EULA_INTROVERTED]

I feel bad, pastor. I am celibate. In fact, I have never been with a man, and whenever I find out that a guy has past sexual sins, it makes me lose interest in him. I am aware that if a man already asks for forgiveness from God, and repented, I should already move on, yet I just cannot help it. I want a man who is celibate for years, or since birth himself. I wonder if it has something to do with my calling from God. 😔

[sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt]

Amen thank you for this video it helped alot God bless !

[behindcloseddoorsministries]

Good stuff straight to the point I love it!!💙 wished I'd known this in my past but glad I know it today, God bless you Mark!

[cheryljohn]

There's this female friend who did openly talked about her past relationships except one only after her boyfriend asked if those past 2 intimate were the last and that she was upset about, don't know why but like that was the turning point for breaking up but thanks for your informations, vital