Here are Signs No One Listened To You in Childhood

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Children normally learn to handle themselves in the world from their parents. If you were ignored, you had to figure things out by yourself using a child's logic. In adulthood, you may find yourself going into a stress response when you try to communicate, especially when expressing emotions, or setting boundaries. This cold be a sign you weren't listened to. as a child. In this video I lay out several signs that are common in adults with CPTSD, and specifically, who weren't listened to when they were small.

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[midheaven_mimi]

Not listened to as an adult either.

Edit: the number of likes shows that we all feel similarly. Hopefully it brings comfort to know you are not alone.

[randyping]

I learned to be quiet and alone.
It's not changed.

[salemccc]

When people talk over me, i dont point it out. I just stop talking. If someone stops and notices i stopped, im always surprised. It's kinda rare. Anyone else?

[lurchbag]

"from the moment I could talk, I was ordered to listen" - Cat Stevens

[yootoob]

One of the most difficult things about other people not listening or silencing us is that it can cause us to learn not to listen to ourselves.

[starmiz]

I was told that I was a quiet child and I should speak more. But when I spoke noone listened :(

[denisedawson]

In my days growing up speaking your opinion was equivalent to "talking back". When you become an adult you have every right to speak your opinion.

[j.r.]

I was raised to be seen and not heard. All I ever heard was “No”. I was told “No don’t say that” or “No don’t do that.” And my favorite… “No, you don’t want that.” Everybody was impressed because my parents raised such a good child, but they didn’t raise a good adult. Still figuring things out on my own now.

[shelleykapp]

Before my mom passed away, she acknowledged that I was neglected as a child, and apologized. Huge healing moment ❤

[pushindaisies]

I felt invisible as a child. I realized pretty early that most people are just waiting for their turn to talk, some will just talk over you like you don't exist, a rare few actually listen and hear.

[klimtscat]

Does anyone else feel they just don't matter?🤔

[raimeyewens]

My narcissistic mother ignored me. I realized my mother treated me differently when I went to my friends homes when I was younger. Their mother would hug and kiss them goodnight. They actually had conversations with them. I remember feeling jealous. One of my friends mothers would kiss me goodnight on the head when I stayed the night. I wanted to stay over there every weekend. When I had my own children I showed them a lot of affection and talked to them often. I never want them to feel like I did.

[Nats]

When people listen to me, I am surprised, and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I suppose it's because I don't feel entitled to be listened to.

[ronmackinnon]

Kids pick up that their parents are already burdened, and they don't want to add to their burdens, so they get used to pretending that everything is fine. And even come to believe that being unhappy is just their 'nature.'

[mpscolorist]

The worst is when you finally get a word in and the person who talks over you later takes credit for what you said…

[williamhicks]

'Group dynamics are overwhelming to you' - that's me.

[blueskypicks]

Who remembers hearing the saying "children should be seen and not heard?" It has been engrained into our culture.

[Britbrat]

Confrontation gives me SO much anxiety. It’s like my brain turns off in the moment and then later I think of what I should have said. I celebrate every small victory

[Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl]

Maybe this is why so many of us are terrified of public speaking?
Because we were taught that expressing ourselves meant abandonment.🤔

[chrisbastean]

2:12 "It's hard to have confidence in yourself when the way you relate to people had to be invented by a little kid."