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[kian]

The "blurting things out" part is a serious pain in the ass. I'm a really impulsive talker so if I'm engaged in a conversation I'm probably gonna say a ton of random things. I end up thinking about everything I said a few hours later and I'm like "WHY DID I SAY THAT??"

[franboos]

"a lifetime of feeling incompetent" yeah, that sums it up about right

[Infomanica]

Jesus christ everything you said about the low self esteem and everything hit me. I always thought that there was something wrong with me because i took everything people said too hard. Alot of answers were given here, thank you.

[bxatch]

Saying “irrelevant” things!! That’s such a good point. I don’t always say “stupid” things, or interrupt people, but I’ll say irrelevant things that confuse people because they are out of context for them. Then they’ll ignore the comment because they don’t know how to respond. There’s an uncomfortable disconnect in those moments. It feels lonely.

[LaLa-qcsf]

Omgahhhh finally someone who understands!

[NatureLover-pjqe]

I’m autistic and I also have ADHD and I can relate to this a lot. A lot of times I’ll zone out mid way through a conversation and forget what we’re talking about and then accidentally interrupt someone talking. I also tend to overshare everything and I miss social cues and completely misinterpret what people are saying. I struggle a lot to make friends because of these things.

[katebrown]

Probably why I never got married and had kids! This sums up my life, I just found out I have adhd at 41 and am happy to finally know I’m not just a lazy loser! Thanks for sharing insights into adult adhd:)

[joons]

I struggled with such symptoms my whole life, I always used to feel left out in the high-school like people aren't ignoring me on purpose which I do not even know if is truth, I never understood all that "mature teenagers" conversations and used to say things that align with my level of interest (which is kind of childish in comparison to them (I guess )) This haven't ended in my later life ... whenever I am approached by a fellow adult I feel like a child, I just can't stand it, everyone seem to understand everything from half of the sentence and I need everyone to repeat things for me in order to understand, I can sense their frustration and it frustrates me myself... That's why I always favored solitude, but not really, I really always wanted to socialize but instead it just used to hurt more than solitude... The feeling of inferiority is unbearable and people rarely have sympathy after they sense something's off with you (which is always just a question of time)... on the bright hand people who are similar tend to stay around for longer and are more entertaining than boring normal people who just talk about mundane stuff...

[joshuatelem]

I always struggled with my outward perception. Apparently people tell me that I often don't seem approachable. I don't mean to come off this way, but I don't know how to make friends or seem more approachable in a natural way. It's so tough!

[falkharvard]

I used to be very gregarious but these days, the pain and discomfort of socialising wasn't worth the interactions.
I am now almost a hermit and planning to move to the wilderness.
I don't want this society anymore and people are overrated

[chem]

Yea, I feel like a broken record most of the time, it feels like people treat me like a total push over because my emotions get out of whack real quick, and instead of getting mad, I just bottle up how mad I get and ignore them or I get into a rage but can not imagine how good that tactic is, anyway thanks for the upload vid

[MikeJones-mfrt]

It’s so refreshing to see actual honesty, most other adhd videos have such a false positivity to them, but this here is the brutal truth. Thank you.

[prodybabe]

These are my main sentences:

«Why did i say that»
«Why did i do that»
«Where is my
«I cant deal with this»
«Im the best»
«I hate myself»
«I love myself»

[knewbeginnings]

Everything you said is spot on! You have such a great way of being able to put into words of what it's really like with adhd. Hearing it from someone else really does make you feel less alone. Thank you!!!

[jakebrookesactor]

You hit it on the nose for me that’s for sure. I didn’t think I had ADHD until a friend convinced me that I had it. And that I had it since kindergarten. I’m medicated with ADHD medicine and I’m now able to get in front of the cameras and deliver a script on TV/movies because of the meds!

[beereinemarlow]

It's the mental buzzing that keeps me from being myself while also paying attention to social cues and what is considered " socially acceptable". So I converted to being an observant listener and like you said that made me "not present" or assertive.. I have to be serious about remembering to meditate and make it a daily habit, also talking to myself while doing simple chores helps swat away the cyclic thinking. I need to always be organized, especially when learning new information and finding a clear system to store it and go back to it. I knew that putting my every move, word under the microscope and not allowing myself to connect to others was making me more socially inexperienced. I just had to act counter-intuitively and face what I fear.. allow myself to be humiliated and laugh out my mistakes which may not be mistakes at all in the eye of the more socially skilled other 😅

[pandimandi]

I got diagnosed with ADHD/ADD and Social anxiety in December last year and it made me realize tons of things. I already suspected I had social anxiety a long time ago and not getting diagnosed earlier was such a huge mistake.

Anyway, I’m just gonna vent here about stuff that happened to me in the past few days so if you dont want to read it all just scroll past this comment cuz i promise it’s boring af lol. So I make art on twitter and recently someone reached out to me and we started talking. I’ve never had online friends cuz im so bad at socializing, constantly anxious and I’m veeeery insecure. So later I got invited to this private server on discord with tons of amazing artists drawing/focused on the same characters in a video game which made me super anxious cuz its a group chat. From then on I got introduced to all the artists and then i was told to tell them about myself which made blank out. I blanked out to the most simple questions and chatting in a group chat makes my heart beat super fast. I kept on repeating the same fkn words all the time cuz I literally don’t know what to say. I can kinda tell that I’m not interesting to them and that I’m a boring person and I completely understand them if they feel that way about me. Though it might be too early for me to be seen as a friend, but everyone is added to the friends list except me. I hate overthinking every fkn thing. If u read through it all I hope u have a nice day!

[tcgrady]

I'm just seeing this video for the first time a year later. I identify with every point. I have taught myself to keep eye contact and pick up on body language etc. But I focus on those things so much and then realize I've zoned out of the actual conversation! 🙄

[madeehakhan]

i always used to think i am different always failing and all...so i took to research as to why i am this way and found ur vid on what is adhd and you described it so well that it just clicked...the puzzle suddenly made sense..so i went to a psychologist and recently got diagnosed with adult adhd+cluster B personality disorder and depression...undergoing treatment...thnxx a lot...u changed the whole perspective of my life..cant thnk u enough..love from india..keep growing u r doing a wonderful job

[ZONUM]

Yeah that’s what i been feeling my entire life and still do to this day. Ppl would criticize me for being to quite, weird, slow, socially awkward. How does one improve themselves with this issue?