Fe vs Fi which are you hearing?

Trying to type your friends and family you MBTI obsessed human? Have you narrowed it down to sensory as a savior function? Fe - extroverted feeling or Fi - introverted feeling ... which one are you hearing?

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[austinbodiford]

I assumed I had Fi until I met Fi users that really liked and really hated things. I realized I do not nearly have as strong of feelings towards... whatever. I saw that I was deeply aware of how others felt towards things. And specifically what to avoid saying/doing while around certain individuals and also what to do to make others feel comfortable.
I wrongly assumed Fe would show up like the ESFJ stereotype which I ruled out. (Gushing and openly talking about the other person's feelings) I see now, Fe is looking at the spectrum of value in others not necessarily personally feeling something themselves. Game Changer.

[JosiahMcCarthy]

More examples:
Fi-Te:
I'm glad you liked it
I really appreciate that
That was really well done
You made me feel good
You're not being a team player
Fe-Ti:
You're a star
You're so strong
She's so good
You're an idiot

In general, Fe users can make attributions to people much more comfortably. Fi users feel extremely uneasy assigning qualities to a person, so they usually try to assign the quality to the action or work that the person did instead (Te). So someone makes cookies and gives them to their coworkers, Fe coworker says "you're amazing! You bake the best!" Fi user says, "this is so good, it has the chewy middle and crispy edges, you did good."

The extraverted function is the one where shallowness is acceptable. Fi doesn't feel comfortable bandying about qualitative judgments for other people, because those are super serious and need to figured out carefully and once they are deemed to be the case, they stay true until otherwise stated. Same with Ti in a way, if you state a reason for doing something or a way to make something work better, it had better be deeply considered and something you really believe and not just something quick off the top of your head.

But for Fe and Te, the fodder they're dealing in is more inherently temporary, and not so serious. They will reach for shortcuts and preestablished jumping-off points in the environment, socially, academically, physically, because the depth and origin is not what they have in mind, but rather the outcome, and the outcomes for everyone involved. Ti and Fi are more and what you put in than what you get out. They like purity and depth and originality. They don't like to take shortcuts, so Fi would rather make its own greeting cards, Ti would rather do its own research.

[nora_]

"I made them laugh" I...I didn't ask to be attacked like that

[flutenanyidk]

Another thing.
Fe will say "You're upset. I can see why. I'd be really frustrated too if that happened to me." SOMETIMES they'll relate with personal experience.
Fi is the opposite. They'll relate with personal experience first then they'll use the I can see why.
While users of both functions can do both things, I like to put it this way.
Fi stands up for *what* it believes in.
Fe stands up for *who* it believes in. In general, I'd say that most feeling types would be willing to die for whatever or whoever lives in their Fi or Fe relm of existence. I've never met anyone as willing to fight for a cause as an INFP; I've never met anyone as willing to fight for someone's welfare as an ExFJ.
Additionally, if you catch two people having a battle of "What do you want?" they both use Fe. This is what I call the Fe dance and it's funny until it gets annoying. Fe cares about what the group cares about, which is why Fe users often come across as more relaxed. Sometimes we genuinely don't care and would prefer to make others happy.

[ivram]

I think I am in INTP. I think I did catch myself thinking “ oh! I made them laugh. Wait are they laughing at me or to what I said ? I am connecting with them ? I am doing good socially ? It’s kinda weird but ok ( screaming inside because of anxiety, but not showing because it reveals to much about me )” and then I space out for a moment then I realize that I space out so I come back to reality.

[dalee]

As Fe, i really need the environment to give me feeling cue, i try to make people happy, because that will in turn make me absorb their happiness. I think for Fi, you want to spread YOUR happiness to others.

[katrina.delacruz]

I love these "which are you hearing?" videos! such a succinct way to put them and makes the content easily sharable with those who are new to cog functions :)

[arthurl.ferreira]

After barely 5 minutes I finally understood why Fe makes me argue passionately about values I take as mine! Thank you, Ni!

[tafari]

I love how Te users such as yourself are able to explain things so accurately, as a Ti user explaining sounds more like I’m trying to Fe convince the individual of something for example: making someone laugh 😆

Such a great video, really good insights 🖤

[dogdonut]

I had written down the function abbreviations of an intj, my adult entp son came past me and saw them.
He said to my adult daughter (esfj) "what's se in the periodic table?"
She started singing the periodic table song to be sure. I googled it and told him.
Then he concluded that my functions were nickel, tellurium, flerovium, and selenium.
Leave it to an entp to come up with that!

[sirbradfordofhousejones]

Fi (masculine, aux position) for me has always been knowing exactly who I am and what I stand for- it doesn’t waver based on which clique or people group I’m around. I think that’s another solid indicator of Fi, but it isn’t always easy to detect from the outside.

[saloni.sharma]

Very precise yet clear explanation Lindsay. I Fi love your content. :)
I think that the biggest problem with unhealthy/undeveloped Fe users is that they lose their own identity and sense of self trying to comfort and care for others, trying to make sure everyone else is at harmony while they themselves may not be. On the contrary, with unhealthy/undeveloped Fi users it's the lack of regard for other's emotions and feelings, especially the ones that don't align with their values and oblivion to social needs and expectations.
I think this is why we need to understand functions, so as to better see through our shortcomings and other people's way of perceiving and reacting, which is different than our own.

[farizanroslan]

Now that you've said it, yeah. I do like it when someone compliments my explanation/presentation.

And I mean, I really really want people to appreciate my thoughts(ideas, optimisations, solutions, outlooks, conclusions, principles, phrases, etc) over other things(looks, belongings, tangible stuff, etc).

Of course, any compliments is flattering but if I were to respond to them, I'd talk more when someone says 'good idea!' rather than 'good job!'. I feel more reciprocated.

It feels like, anyone can do a good job so I don't deserve the compliment. Whereas a good idea is more of a novelty, rare and special. Don't get me wrong, it's not like hard work, tenacity and perseverance are not worthy of mentioning at any point of a process. I'm just biased towards the other end when it comes to my efforts as I think any satisfactory task can be done when it's well thought after. As in, a 'good job' comes naturally when it's a 'good idea'. I hope that makes sense.

Does anyone else share this line of behavior/thoughts? Maybe roughly explain so that I get to view different perspectives when it comes to dealing with compliments?

[Diaming]

So that's why I see people joke around all the time, to live up the emotional setting of some community. - Fe blindspot here

[SirThanksalot_]

I love your practical approach to the MBTI typing :)
I guess it takes more from an INTJ to translate it from just pure abstract concept (or I'm thinking in stereotypes)
-ISTP

[love-risa]

things that I say as a possible dominant feeler (I think introverted, but I’m not sure)
I love your style
I love your outfit
I love your earrings
I love how you find something positive to say about everyone.
I love talking with you
I am so grateful to be your friend
I care about you
I love you (though a lot of these could be said by anyone)
You’re amazing
I appreciate you
I hope you feel better soon
I wish you the best
I’m sorry to hear that, I hope things get better for you
You have the right to feel what you feel
Your feelings are valid
I’m glad you felt comfortable sharing this with me
Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help you
Thank you for sharing
I love spending time with you

[FalconOfStorms]

It's interesting how functions can substitute for one another. For example, my Ti has been used instead of my Fe to create values through analysis rather than absorbing them from others. Or using Ne to make up for a lack of Se to accomplish athletic feats -- unlike an Se user my body doesn't automatically know what to do, but I can use logical assumptions to understand the trajectory of a thrown ball or the position of my own limbs in a backflip.

Good description of the Fe class clown by the way. It's not much but it's honest work.

[aspiringscientist]

'Who is the supreme being?'
Fi user: me.

[elypelowski]

I love these kind of videos LiJo - Examples of what the functions look like in real world scenarios and statements are very helpful for learning to identify function preference.

[BrodieBr]

Love this explanation for the differences between Fe and Fi. I'm going to share it with my friends and family.I'm currently having fun typing my family and getting them to understand MBTI. I can tell they're having a ton of fun about learning the 16 personality types and 8 cognitive functions so far. :) <--- (LOL Yep Im a Fe dom)