Fe compared to Te

[aubreys]

It was a game changer for me when I realized vulnerability to some people was sharing their thoughts instead of feelings 🤯

[elliottcomer]

As a Savior Fe, maybe I can help y'all understand Kathy's behavior a bit better. Folks like us spend our lives dedicated to the care and security of others. Rarely do we "burden" friends and family with our problems. Our hardships best be pretty damn serious for us to consider seeking reassurance. In essence, the teacher becomes the student in times of trouble. The support we provide with such ease is quite difficult for Savior Fe's to solicit. "We don't want to be.a burden."

But when confronted with a diagnosis like cancer, Savior Fe's find that we've expended so much effort on building resiliency in others that we neglected to do so in ourselves, hence Kathy's outburst in the hospital. She had exhausted her emotional bandwidth and was desperately searching for someone to restore it. I imagine that she must have felt a great deal of despair and loneliness in that moment, particularly as an Fe. I certainly would.

[squeezie]

As a Savior Ti, I gotta say...one of my favorite things about Dave and Shan is watching them think and process in real time ( Te ). It's so entertaining and fun to see and something I WISH I could do more often!

[andrewd]

Loved this analysis. Fe/Te are external and performative. Ti/Fi are internal and personal. Makes so much sense of how we relate to the world and how different types can misunderstand the thoughts and emotions of others.

[bananewane]

All this time talking to Te people I’m thinking “wow they agree with me I must be onto it” and they’re just throwing out “yeah yeahs” ???

[njb]

Te users would probably call their schtick an “exchange of ideas” or whatever. Putting whatever ideas they have into the open and going along with whatever works. Fe, then, is just an exchange of feelings, like an emotional call and response. We express whatever feelings we have in the moment, see how the people around us respond, and go along with whatever takes the group dynamic in a positive direction. But as an INFJ with savior Ti, I guess I sometimes see Te similarly to how Dave and Shan see Fe. I can recognize when people are using reasoning that doesn’t sound like their own, and to me it can come across as not genuine or thought out, as if they’re just parroting someone else.

[jumpingjoy]

In a way, it seems that the introverted function is the shit you take personally. And the extroverted function is the stuff you don't give a shit about.

[billyb]

omg thank you for explaining this. As a heavy Ti user I can't stand it when people throw out dumb ideas but at least I can appreciate where they are coming from now.

[circulati]

Makes so much sense. I’ve wondered so many times “why did I say that, why did I do that, that was silly, over the top, cheesy, or overly serious” etc. Yes, Fe is what works in the moment for regulating human interactions, it’s not necessarily how I feel in that moment. It also explains why I have so many problems if I try to base my identity on Fe, it’s a nightmare, it’s for ever shifting depending on external circumstances, so I can never be sure who the hell I am. my identity is Ni-Ti, and that is such a different beast from the goody two shoes Fe I show the world. I usually have to be very tired or not give a damn to drop the Fe and let me tell you, that is like going from Disneyland to a wasteland of cold hard truths. some of my friends are scared to this day 🤷🏻‍♀️😜 (there you go, some emojis cause it’s early in the morning and my Fe is in pretty good shape heh)

[jeffreysherman]

Hello, Dave & Shan... It fascinates me the lengths you have to go through to understand other people. It really is like we speak different languages. I'm glad you're doing it. (For me, Fe is just common sense and human decency. My Te is certainly lacking though.) Now I understand the way Te/Fi's think a little better. Thanks guys. You're on the right track. This video has the approval of this Fe savior. This is very valuable information.

[meghanahanchate]

Dave's Fi and shan's Te were so evident at the end😂

[lavlmoon]

Something I can appreciate about Fe users, as an Fi/Te user, is how quickly they can move on from emotional turbulence. Once the Fe-dramatics are over and all the feeling has been expressed, they move on. I on the other hand can let my turbulent emotions fester inside of me until they rot me from the inside out, lol.

Also, poor Kathy. What she really needed was someone to hold her hand and cry with her.

[carsarthu]

I love when Shan goes "you can't say that" 🤣🤣

[awilson]

Te drives me crazy. Tell me if my idea is stupid, but nicely. Don't go along with it and leave me thinking I had a good idea. 😩

[dbraymore]

INFJ, Been loving your videos and trying to diversify my understanding of cognitive functions. I have Fe, know I do, the one thing that I have not heard spoken of here is the feminine and masculine. Being a 6'3" 250lb guy I simply have to keep my Fe in check. The other thing about my personality that IDGAF about is absolutely hating social hierarchy so freaking much that I haven't cared about reputation. Having matured a lot I go through the motions now in not giving others power in the form of my weakness. I have seen the fruits of this bounty, not showing my Fe can grind those who rely upon others weakness for inner strength down to a pulp.

[n_n]

The “no, you’re not dumb” and Dave’s response - all too relatable 😂 - intp

[austinbodiford]

My wife literally said the other day, "Can you stop talking to me and the kids like we're babies?" And I already knew what she was talking about with over doing it with the niceties. "She said why do you do that?" Well, I try to soften my tone because my raw thoughts come off very harsh. The smiles and bubbley talk is all smoke screen i guess. Kinda feels like being a T800 terminator that makes cupcakes for everyone.

[alexandragatto]

Shannon your softer eye makeup is SO good lately! That shirt also perfectly matches your eyes, loving it! <3

[joyandpeacefullaughter]

I guess that's the reason I can easily laugh at my Te and don't get angry when someone calls me dumb or says "how come you don't know this" I'm like 🤷‍♀️ tell me the answer 😂

[ienigma]

It's so strange watching Te/Fi users say that Fe is foreign to them. I didn't realize the disconnect was that wide. I've also noted that TE users don't seem to be married/attached to their ideas vs Ti users.