Fe vs Fi in real life

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[goukiu]

Fe: "You don't get to decide what hurts people." Me: "True, but I do get to decide if I care."

[EresirThest]

Fe: get along at any cost
Fi: it’s not always worth the cost

[miahan]

As an ENFP, I’d describe Fi like this: when you fly on an airplane, the flight attendant instructs you to “put your oxygen mask on first, ” before helping others. Why? Because if you run out of oxygen yourself, you can't help anyone else with their oxygen mask. It’s the same with Fi: if I don’t prioritise my well-being first, I won’t be able to help others.

[Anthony_H]

Corn flakes: contains iron (Fe)
Sally: uses introverted feeling (Fi)
Fe vs Fi = Kellogg's and Sally are enemies
Little do we know that Kristin is truly one step ahead of us

[KarlJeager]

And the true tragedy is that this conversation is taking so long that the corn flakes are losing their crunch and becoming a soggy mess at an alarming rate.

[cathyhart]

As far as Fe being less selfish than Fi. I don't think that's true. As lead Fe, I mainly care about the FEELING of lack of harmony. When I'm in a situation where I see someone upset, hurt, etc., I see and feel it all around me and it's soooo uncomfortable. I'll do and say anything to avoid this feeling. I would argue that my actions could be coming from a "selfish" place of not wanting to be uncomfortable.

Selfishness is not about Fe or Fi. Selfness is a character flaw that can exist in ANY type.

[trinaq]

"Of course I care about you. But I care about myself more." This sums up FI in a nutshell, they're so in tune with their own feelings. I hate when some people associate FI with selfishness and FE with unselfishness, when that isn't always the case.

[Queezbo]

I have seriously had to wrestle with this very issue my entire life. I have now gotten to the point where I am very comfortable saying, "Sally, that's your problem, not mine. I am sad you feel the way you do, but I'm not sorry."

[elypelowski]

I had a good laugh. I dont think Fe will ever truly understand Fi and how Fi deals with other Fi users. I myself have Fi and live in a house of Fi people. We are all opinionate and can at times create conflict but, in the end, we understand that it is just our own opinions and work through it. It is entertaining watching Fe people come into the situation of Fi people and trying to smooth things over and at some point, they even become visibly uncomfortable.

[FallenAesthetics]

Ah yes, the duality of Fi - one caring about their values over others and the second getting REALLY offended if someone managed to (sometimes accidentally) find that specific "enemy" of a Fi user, no matter how small or big it is. It's too valuable to them! Yep, that's me as a Fi dom!

Also, the accuracy of the sudden switch of both Fi users when the Fe user wants to get out of the discussion. I feel seen lol

[claytonpayne]

Oh my. This is too real.
I had a friend who worked in the corporate part of a grocery store chain, and she would take personal offence whenever someone in her fam would shop at any other grocery store. Unless it was an Asian food mart (Because her family are missionaries to that part of the world.) Weird thing was, when she got fired (or let go as she puts it) she was still madly loyal.

[pandagobrr]

Fi: I'm not gonna stop living my life just because someone may or may not get hurt.
Also Fi: How could you do this when you know how it hurts me?

[maggieo]

Yes!! I'm in INFP with dominant Fi and my sister is an INFJ with secondary Fe. A lot of our conversations are similar to this, because I want to do something and she worries about what other people will think or how they'll feel, and I'm usually (depending on the circumstances) just like "I don't care, I want to do my thing, " and she's all like "what?!" Lol

[ilveyouful]

I mean yeah, that's pretty accurate. As an ISFJ, I would have taken Sally into consideration and just not bought them at all; food isn't worth a lost friendship. But as a Ti user, I'd also ask why they're her enemy when its just a job and none of it matters in the long run. Unless they'll be taking her job from her soon, but corporations are just corporations.

[dudeinadoughboy]

INTP Fe is kinda funny. As much as we want to act like the Fi user.... deep down we all feel like the Fe

[jimclayson]

The "404 ERROR" was priceless. 🤣

As an INTP:
1) I probably wouldn't've noticed the Corn Flakes and thus wouldn't've recognized the impending conflict.
2) Unless there's a specific reason I NEED to step in between two Fi-types, I'm going to just quietly walk away and let them work it out on their own.
3) Yes, I'd love a bowl of Corn Flakes, thank you very much! Lemme just take it with me to the other room so I can eat it in peace while you two... um... talk.😁

My reaction to people inflicting their Fi on me is usually anger. I'm supposed to respect your Fi, but you don't respect mine? I'm quite content with "live and let live" most of the time. I don't get your Fi and I don't need to. You go live your life and we can agree to disagree on some stuff... but then you decide your Fi trumps mine, for "reasons" you "feel" are valid... and I just don't have patience for that.

[nerysghemor]

I think this is more Fe versus Te rather than Fe versus Fi. The difference between Fe and Fi is more that Fe directly empathizes with the other person whereas Fi thinks more of how they would feel if put in the same circumstances. Fe is more, "I thought of how awful that person would feel, " and Fi thinks, "I would feel awful if I were in that person's shoes." I think you caught the Te that goes along with Fi rather than Fi.

[Mushrooms]

The great part about these videos is that everyone has exactly one of these two functions

[MichaelWinters]

It’s funny how defensive most people get. You need both sides. Both have strengths and weaknesses. Being defensive probably is a sign of something you need to deal with for yourself.

[DeezyRYG]

This is hilarious. Actually even as an ENFJ, I most resonate with the Fi user. Especially for the first minute. Unfortunately, I am the kind that is like, "Eh, what Sally does not know, won't hurt her."

But I think Fi users are the ones who are more consistently "considerate" even in secret. I could see my ISFP wife being more like the Fe Dom in this video, whereas for me I would just make sure Sally does not find out. Cause it is not actually hurting her unless she knows, but that is my Ti logic whereas for my ISFP wife she would feel like whether or not Sally knows, it is betrayal and her Fi would want that consistency even in secret.

But this is just me! Lol great video nonetheless!