The SIGN of COMMITMENT #mindset #relationship #love #partner

The SIGN of COMMITMENT

[lindatouati]

My ex couldn't show up when he was angry, even when I was in the hospital.
I'm so glad I've left him

[irenarunko]

I learned this lesson the hard way. I wasn't aware to which extent I lacked self love.

[movinonup]

Me!!!! Even when I didn't want to. Unfortunately I showed up just about everyday and my partner then had his own agenda in life. I showed up until I couldn't anymore.

[restandrelaxationsounds]

This is profound.
I have been in some toxic relationships, which caused trauma. I often wondered if someone is out there who can truly stay and cultivate a healthy relationship.
What I have come to realize is to let go and let God. When you focus on growing, healing, and abiding to mature in God's will, God will work it out.

[yoli_gone]

I semi agree, I think there are also some people who don’t know how to communicate when they’re frustrated, so they pull away because they feel no one will except them after being abandoned so many times

[berivantore]

So true! Someone who abonden themselves when they have 'negative emotions' never truly present with themselves so how could they be truly present when you have bad times?

[samariasylvester]

Because what are you like at your worst? Not just your best. If you only want to show up when you’re feeling good, you’re probably performing for people.

[Sunshine-v-y]

Yes they are the best people because they know how is to not show up cs no one shows up for them.

[jenniferbhujel]

Learning to heal n love myself. Well loving n commiting to self is the hardest this ever. But in the end i know its gonna be worth it.

[sharonna]

The only sound advice he’s given yet *claps* okay, homie!

[guzmaynard]

Unless you're brought up as a people pleaser, then you show up for everyone and not yourself, took 47 years for me to see this as toxic (I was shown this was right, wanted and noble!) took a lot of shadow work and determination oh and the persistence of 'God' relentlessly being in my face, loving me to break free from this.

[Livekindly-]

I showed up for everyone- in happy times, sick n dying time … I have such burn out . I can’t even show up for myself today- just tired. I love, I hurt n miss so many people. 😢

[khushisamdaria]

Who says if you show up like that you'll be understood that you aren't at your 100%, also suddenly there is a long conversation about 'phases, making it better' etc..
Showing up goes both ways.

[YourFeminineFrequency]

This is so underrated and missed as it’s so common!

[MuslimahWithfaith.]

Most imp rule of a relationship my husband always show up even if he can't he still shows up he is always there

[maseylin]

I get shut down whenever I express hurt or anger.... so I don't know what you want me to do 🤧

[lesleysze]

Brilliant point! Thank you for reminding me.

[NinaPika]

I have always showed up for my ex in all of my bad days and good days.
And then once I had a real fucked up day, we had to meet and I was supposed to go to his place in another town
I just called him and bursted out in tears that I can't bring myself to leave the house that day...
We ended up playing games on computer each in their own home
I still wonder if that was one of the moments that signaled the end of the relationship.. never, no matter how hard was my day I would go to him ... and then that happened

[reneeacosta]

So interesting because I would see it as rude to be emotionally sloppy. And pour that on other people. It's kind of like having a cold don't spread that around to everyone.

Take a time out... regroup and come back when you feel better. Vs. ruining everyone else's good day with your bad day. Seems like a more respectful thing to do.

[Lily-eie]

That me i never show my vulnerability out fear rejection of other peoples i isolate with myself ! Only showing my positive trait