Practice Speaking More Slowly And Deeply

The way we speak says a lot about how confident we feel inside. Learn to speak more slowly and deeply, and you'll find yourself feeling more confident.

Hey, it’s Graham here from The Confident Man Project with yet another confidence building tip for you. And today I want to talk about the way that we speak. The way that we speak says a whole lot about our level of general self-confidence and how nervous we are in any particular situation.

So what you want to do is to practice speaking more slowly and more deeply, particularly if you’ve got a bit of a high-pitched voice or if you find yourself always speaking very quickly; you’re always in a rush to get things out and you’ve got to say what you’ve got to say.

By doing that, what you’re doing is projecting anxiety out into the world, and other people pick up on this and will notice that there’s something going on for you that’s a little off-putting. If all your conversations are racing to get from point A to point B, you’ve got to wonder, “Well, what’s going on behind that, like, what’s the big hurry?” You can just slow it down, and we don’t have to speak so fast or with a such high pitch all the time.

Practice just slowing down your speech a little. It’s going to feel a bit uncomfortable at first because you’re not used to it, but you will find as you speak a little more slowly and take some deeper breaths in your conversation that your general level of anxiety in the conversation will reduce and you’ll find yourself feeling much more calmer, more present and more able to connect to the other people that you’re speaking to.

So, again, as you go about your daily life this week, notice in your conversations how quickly and how high pitch you are speaking and practice just slowing things down, speaking a little more deeply and a little more confidently as you go about your daily life.

[MiRWIN]

Thank you SO much for this video. I'm five minutes away from a big conference call and my Brother is being... well, not so Brotherly... and I needed some last minute advice... and MAN... you did it. So, thank you... Brotha!

[Molorulz]

When I try to talk more slowly, I feel like I'm talking really unnaturally and it sounds weird...

[ConfidentManProject]

+Matthew Irwin That's awesome; I'm really glad you found it helpful. How did the conference call go?

[YuJay]

I'M SO CONFUSED! YOU'RE TELLING ME SLOW DOWN AND THE GUYS IN MY RECOMMENDATION ARE TELL ME TO SPEAK FAST!!!! D:

[johnpartridge]

Playback speed adjusted to 2x to speed up my learning...was a tad ironic

[raiswarnim]

This is so true it really helps to control anxiety do try it

[RaveDeGrave]

no offense but before you start trying to teach confidence make sure you're confident yourself first. You have a few nervous ticks and you should work on your speaking voice. Just saying.