Anti Social Media

The main reason I don't like social media. What do you think? Do you agree with me or not?

I noticed a few years ago that on Facebook I was doing complicated calculations like:
Do I actually like this post? Yes/No
Do I want the person to know I like their post? Yes/No
Do I want other people to know I like this person's post? Yes/No
Do I want to see more from this person?
Do I want Facebook to know that I like this?
etc. so what looks like a simple gesture actually involves complex calculations.

The thing that really drives me nuts, as you saw in this rant of a video is thinking about the reasons people post to social media. Of course we're drawn to the dopamine spikes we get when our posts get likes and comments, this leads us to post more and more engaging content. This is just what the platforms want us to do but I argue it's disadvantageous to our social lives and to our lives period. If you always have that process running in the background searching out the perfect photo or the right moment, how do you ever live in the moment?

#antisocialmedia #rant #ironicuseofhashtags

[haileywarner]

“a giant void into which people yell.” that is incredibly accurate

[DanHauer]

Derek remains a YouTuber worth watching. :)

[dailycarzycarvideos]

I wish he reaches wherever he is going to in all his videos.

[MrWaterGud]

The girl I'm dating once sent me a picture of herself and I told her I liked it. She later made it her profile picture and was asking me to like it. I refused on the basis that I already told her I liked the picture in person why does that need to be public? She wants people to see that she's in a loving relationship. She told me she wishes I would post "cute things" about her and post pictures of us and when I ask her why her answer is "It shows another, deeper, form of love. You're willing to show me off to the world and that's special." Just like how people post about their new Coach bag or Mercedes she wants me to post about her. It undermines true human connection and has totally altered what some people define as love. The fact that one's expression of love is tied to their actions on social media is truly a tragedy. This concept of meta information behind a post is something I can't stand either. If one was TRULY happy in their relationship they wouldn't need others to validate it. It's turned our social interactions into a competition that no one even realizes they're playing.

F*** social media

[appychd]

I stopped using Facebook in 2015(I'm glad i did). Living in the moment is another thing the social media has ruined. People are more caught up with taking photos/videos rather than just be in the moment.

[nitrojanks]

The best thing I ever did was delete fb and Twitter at start of 2019, anxiety and depression left me instantly. Now I couldn’t give a toss what anyone else is up to, nor do I want anyone knowing my business either. Privacy is a virtue

[MusafirSafwan]

It's not a game I want to play. ❤️

[ThePsychicProject]

When I was doing a set of exams back in the summer, I managed to complete a 30 day detox of social media, (my reasons were that it would open up a lot of previously wasted time that could be spent more efficiently studying), and my effects were profound. Firstly, the days didn’t race past me anymore, I had time to reflect, and even get bored. It encouraged me to read more books. Also I found that what you miss on the internet is really never going to have an adverse effect on you, or affect the relationships that you have.

[rea]

Great message. Sometimes I feel really sad when I see people just taking pictures here and there, smiling just when the camera is on and being all stressed before and after taking the video or photo. Girls wearing high heels just so they can look good on the picture or bringing clothes with them, so they can change before shooting.
It really makes me sad because it is not about making memories, it is about looking a certain way so other people can judge and evaluate you. Like you are not enough.

[LoreCraft]

We're of the same mind on this subject. What worries me is the decreasing popularity of Youtube vs Insta, and worse, Tiktok. Younger people are gravitating more and more towards rapid reward dopamine hit material. Attention spans are shortening, and this preference for 10 second video clips, over longer, more thought provoking films (like yours), is, I worry, causing some serious mental damage. I wonder how "quality" will be defined in the future, or will the generations being raised on this new wave of "content" be angry at us, their parents, for not stopping them from gorging empty, thoughtless, trash.

[wepranaga]

i love these talky type kind of video. makes me feel okay that i'm not the only one who think such stupid things.

[MrDJBrucey]

Exactly. Platforms for amplifying the ego, rather than experiencing real human connection! :-)

[novafawks]

You basically nailed why I don't use social media, either. I just could never put it in to words. Since I'm in my early 20's, people think I'm weird when I tell them I don't use it. Now I have words to explain myself. Thanks!

[olegmatveyev]

It's a pity Derek has discontinued this channel. May 2023

[MasterChakra]

Sign-off phrases to end your videos ?

"And as always... Thanks for watching."
100% original, 0% taken from a colleague.

[AmitKumarKhare]

I was on Facebook since 2008 I think, I haven't used Facebook for past 11 months. And trust me, its better that way.

[asynchrony]

Derek has managed to put my disinclination towards social media into words in a way I’ve always wanted to, but was never able to. Thank you.

[somethingsinlife]

The problem isn't solely social media...It's also people in general.

[AndrewMartinIsHere]

I ditched Facebook about 4-5yrs ago now, because I realised i just couldn't care enough about being proxy outraged about issues that I knew nothing about, yet were having pushed upon me by those who I was connected to. I switched off all notifications and emails from it, and removed it from my phone, so that I broke the habit. I use Twitter a lot, but probably have more accounts and words/phrases blocked than accounts that I actually follow. I try to only tweet when I have something positive/constructive to say or contribute to, and mute/unfollow/block accounts and topics that start to lean towards the proxy rage that i left on Facebook. It's made me feel happier as a person, and less stressed about things I cannot possibly know or affect. As for YouTube, lately, as someone who does not have a TV, I've begun to subscribe to a small number of channels, and am now regularly commenting on those videos. It feels like it has become more of a social channel for me, as people reply, and the content generally holds my interest.

[prathamgupta]

You are spitting true facts man. As social media as it says "social" should be a method where people meet and share their thoughts rather than scrolling useless feeds