Why You Have Trust Issues (Not Just Being Cautious)

Do you have trust issues but not sure why you have them? Trust plays a crucial role in any relationship, and we understand the struggles it can bring. Whether you've been hurt before or simply find it hard to trust others, this video is here to help you navigate your relationships and the complex world of trust. So, let's talk about the deep-rooted reasons behind your trust issues and offer valuable insights on how to overcome them.

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Writer/Researcher: Monique Zizzo
Editor: Morgan Swift
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: @Naphia
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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References

Peel, R., & Caltabiano, N. (2021). Why Do we Sabotage Love? A Thematic

[Psychgo]

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[FaalKoriim]

I remember my dad asking once about what was going on in my head and life and encouraging me to open up. I did. Two days later, be threw it all back in my face and claimed I wasn't depressed, just that I was mad I couldn't "do what I want" after some unpleasant circumstances. It was the final straw in my trust issues. I now open up to no one at all.

Found out about five years later that he has a ton of narcissistic traits. It really explains a lot about my childhood.

[MathiasSchreiber-yp]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[sweetandsourdish]

I’ve had trust issues stemming from my school days in the past, where I dealt with constant bullying from classmates and uncaring staff members who never did anything to stop it no matter how much I complained. As a result, I couldn’t trust people and I still don’t, even when they’re trying to help me.

[insertwordshere]

When you want to make friends but you're afraid to because of past trauma:

[nutmeg]

I’ve been surrounded by toxic and mismatched marriages in my family, including my parents. Cheating, aggressive behavior, and even abuse have been common, including child abuse that I and my brother experienced as children. As an adult woman, I have trust issues with myself and the idea of romantic relationships. I don’t trust myself around others, seeing how so many people that should’ve been guardians, teachers, and good examples ended up falling short. My brother has also developed trust issues similar to this as well, and I don’t trust him when I have conflicting opinions to his about them, fearing he will take it as a personal attack or that he will become what I perceive as condescending and defensive. It’s hard, and I’m not sure how to break it.

[anitasarsazi]

I remember whenever my mom got mad, or sad she always threatened me that she will leave me and she'll never come back, but I knew even back then that she loved me. I think that's why now, I know people like me, but I just can't trust them enough to let them in. That's why I never have deep relationship witch I crave to have. I hope to see a video that teaches how to let people in, because I found it too difficult. Thank you for your videos!!

[Shadowcat]

Combine having parents in a toxic relationship with having Autism, having your own mom teaching you how to mess with people to get what (often she) wants while pretty young, and dealing with various therapy from before you remember through all of elementary school - you get trust issues because you ask "what is correct and/or normal" so much that it can be hard to trust most "normal" people.

If anything this makes it so even when people do what you'd like or can find helpful, it's a lot harder to trust them anyway sometimes. This is because you ask if it's to help them or to be actually a decent person.

[SarahJacksonLV]

Around every turn in my life..I've been betrayed...a video on how to attract trustworthy people to me and how to test or spot people who are untrustworthy would be much more helpful for those of us that have been betrayed by family, friends, jobs, authority figures like the church or government, and society, overall. What is the point in learning to trust again just to be betrayed again? We need tools to protect ourselves.

[RayPeng-]

Thank you for this! I needed to hear such a thing since I have BIG trust issues in case of friendships and relationships and all because past betrayals of feelings and actions from others.

[moko...]

I think multiple things, One time was when my parents both told me that they woulldn't Invade my privacy. But, they both did and directly pointed it out. there was also a time when The oldest brother in my dads side of the family ended up doing some Really gross stuff to me, It got him kicked out for years, it happend when i was 8 and he came back when i was 12. Also when i had a best friend and we even went to eachothers houses after school, which id never expreienced somebody coming over to my house or me going over to that persons house almost everyday after school. In 3rd grade though, after being friends for a year, she started to Bully me, it started halfway through the school year, and ended on the last week of school when she tried to get me to bully somebody else. I feel like everytime i get close to somebody, or give them my trust, in some way the trust i give to them is always broken. its happend with really everybody in my life. I dont opften talk to people now and really just isolate myself, and it feels like im utterly alone in the real world sense everybody ive tried trusting has just ruined or broken it in some way.

[Sumguyinavan_]

I got hit in the face with this months ago. I asked a group of my favorite coworkers to go to something important to me that I consider fun and would help them better understand me as a person. And just declining the offer would have been fine. But they laughed at me that I would want them to do that. "You just want a ride" "I thought we were friends." Yeah, I DID think we were friends, that's why I invited you to the thing. That was when I learned that they weren't my friends, and I haven't trusted any of them with anything since then. Just not wanting to spend time with me is one thing, but making me feel foolish for wanting it to begin with really damaged how I see them.

[lovelumity]

It's a funny thing to know that many people always ask me why I don't trust anyone but every time I gave an opportunity to get my trust they used it to cheat and hurt me
I'm a weird guy so not many people connect with me but every time I tried to connect with others they showed me exactly why I should stay alone
I don't trust people and I won't either

[Sophie-Storm_UA]

⭐Timestamps (key moments/chapters)⭐
➼ 0:00 intro
➼ 0:36 the double bind
➼ 2:43 trust is mutable
➼ 3:54 outro
➼ 4:23 the lovable plushie

[Theressomethinghere.]

I’ve always had trust issues. I could never trust anyone not even my friends.

[TTiara]

I've developed trust issues because of abuse from my mom (verbal, emotional, and mental). My dad's infidelity, then coming back, being left in my grandmother's care for 7 years (I'm 20 now). I was bullied in middle school for the color of my skin. My first boyfriend cheated on me and physically abused me when I was 13-14y/o. I was betrayed by my second boyfriend among other things. I've tried to speed up the healing process for my boyfriend now because my lack of trust in him is hurting him. I don't want him to resent me, but I fear it's already too late, (we've been together for 5 years). I started trying to be better two and a half years in. But I'm too late.

[Itzduhhistorygirl]

I think the reason people don’t trust each other is because society gives us a reason not to trust them like our government companies the food we eat and sometimes those we love that we can’t trust which is sad. ☹️

[protoman]

I have trust issues because I've been betrayed by a few friends. I also was betrayed by a manger once when working at Dell.

Needless to say, I don't trust many people, but I am still willing to give folks the benefit of the doubt. I am very candid about what I disclose until I trust someone (which takes a very long time). It's also led to me being single and not seeking a significant other lol.

[VoiceOfTheEmperor]

The music makes me cry. I just broke up with my GF of 4 years last night. She broke my trust and was also manipulative. I'm glad your channel helped me realize what she was doing and I wish I had found your channel earlier.

[Red_Eggie]

Broken promises are one thing, while very constant, " I love you" an hour after a beating is a whole another story