If Someone BETRAYED Your Trust, WATCH THIS! | Matthew Hussey

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When someone’s betrayed or hurt us—especially when we didn’t see it coming—it’s hard to avoid the lack of trust that latches on to us and shadows us into our next relationship.

Is there an antidote to this? Is it possible to regain trust after heartbreak?

In this week’s video, I share 8 rules you’ll want to write on sticky notes and keep handy whenever you need a reminder.

As always, I’d love it if you left me a comment letting me know your favorite rule (and your favorite Jim and Pam moment from The Office . . . I hope you enjoy the example I included this week).

Here for you,

Matthew x


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[kristymounsey]

My ex walked away three weeks before the wedding. Years later I see that this was the luckiest day of my life.

[stephaniecameron]

"The loss will be greater on their side because you walk away with the most loving person that relationship had in it; yourself." 💗 I really needed to hear this. Thank you, Matthew!!

[souparnikap]

1.Give an amount of time and energy you are willing to lose
2. Trust beautifully it's your standard, not because it's comfortable
3. Use trust as a way to make your relationship more beautiful
4. Trust because the alternative is futile
5. Trust because letting go is sexy
6. Don't let your demons define your boundaries
7. Trust not that someone will never hurt you, but that you'll be fine even if they do
8. Love your person so beautifully that if they break your trust, the loss will be greater on their side

[goldlocky]

I've listened to this one sentece over and over again: You don't do it because it is comfortable but you do it because it's who you wanna be. This made me burst into tears, because as one of the worst things I have lost trust into myself. I always had such a good gut feeling but fear is horribly overshadowing it, so that I can barely sens it now and I have muted one of my best guidance in life because of fear and dissapointment into myself. I'm rebuilding slowly and step by step but this sentence made me realise something very important. Trusting myself always was a standart and it should be again. Thank you Matthew!

[bsem]

I was crying really hard last night to the point of feeling suffocating inside. But once I started hearing your voice, somehow I started feeling the strength in me. And, when you said the #8, I realized that it’s so true. I stopped crying completely & went to sleep soundly. I have been every thing you taught, while he didn’t care to do much to prove his words to me. So, I will not lose so much. But I have loved so beautifully, the loss will be greater on his side. Matthew - you have no idea how your great videos saved me times & times again. Thank YOU! Now, I just have to be strong enough to walk away.

[GayathriRasingolla]

“Love your person so beautifully that if they break your trust, the loss will be greater on their side, because you walk away with the most loving person that relationship had in it: yourself.”
- Matthew Hussey.

That is so beautiful and comes from a place of not resentment towards the other person but a place of love for them, love in general and self worth 💕 It resonates. Thank you.

[sharonm]

Love this advice. So basically dont over give and hold back a little so you dont fall so far; trust because its the right and noble thing to do; trust because it sets a safe and positive tone in the relationship whereas lack of trust pollutes it; Give your partner room to breathe and let them be free; have faith that you can get through anything and if they leave you will be alright; no-one ever regretted being kind and loving and if your person lets you down you can have a clean conscience that you gave it your all and they lost you and you lost someone who disappointed you

[harman.singh]

What you say at 9:30, I was so relieved to hear someone articulate my exact thoughts! I was misunderstood to be insecure when my ex flirted with others and I was silenced by saying "You're insecure that I'll leave you".. Its not the leaving I'm worried about, I was confident that my partner will never leave - its the betrayal & disrespect of my bond with my partner. Thank you Matthew for articulating such a simple thing so beautifully :')

[co_lrs]

Been experiencing anxiety and depression lately coz of my failed relationship. Im so tired being not chosen. Trust is broken. Now trying to stand again and your videos helps me

[scarletteshane]

I really needed this. I was heart broken when my fiance ( now ex) broke up with me after he cheated . It damaged me. Started dating again and turns out to be a toxic or more cheaters . I just closed my heart. Now I meet someone telling me he loves me and that I am the one for him, I get flashes of how my ex fiance said same thing. It really scares me that I don't want to be heart broken again

[user-pr]

Dear person, who reads it. Yes, I mean exactly you! Maybe we don't know each other. Still, I want to say, that I believe in you! You will certainly achieve your dreams and your happiness! Just don't give up and be honest with yourself!
Now you have at least one person who constantly believes in you, which means you are fated to realize your dreams! No doubts here ^)

*Best wishes for you ❤️ from a new YouTuber* ✌️

[braziliandbrazilian]

Super hard when u trust them and the time u trusted them they actually were just lying to you and u gave them the benefit of the doubt. When you realize the time and effort u put into trusting that person was actually just a waste of time but I guess that's a risk being in a relationship

[TanzaniteHayley]

“Letting go is sexy” - only Matthew Hussey can convinced a concept like that and I’m here for that level philosophy 👍🏼

[vgr]

#7 Trust not that someone will never hurt you, but that you’ll be fine, even if they do. Thank you, Matthew! I know I will be just fine (I feel that I already am), but it feels reassuring to hear you say it!

[happyngrateful]

Incredible. Every word is gold. Thank you so much, Matthew. 🙏🏻

[dominalgenesis]

Shits so wild how easily people can lie to you...

[Ciclopea]

At this point i just gave up, i don't have it in me to go through that process of trusting someone again, i'm learning to feel at peace with ending up alone because i think nothing will be better than this peace of being on my own, no drama, no games, no lies, no bullshit. I do have a lot of love to give, but i guess i'm learning to be the one to give it to, investing in yourself just feels safer. I liked that example about going to the gym tho, for me i do enjoy working out because of how it makes me feel, and that should be enough.

[ruchikatikyani]

I used to see my relationship as perfect. Recently my guy cheated on me. And it's so hard to still trust back with all the insecurities and anxieties. For me it's like a new side of him which I never noticed. It's hard 🥺

[sebastianleon]

A lot of us come here regularly to find peace and reassurance but also, to work on ourselves. I am proud of you, whoever you are. I respect your efforts to not settle with your current self and to make yourself valuable. I currently deal with a girlfiend who is devoted to me, builds with me and always brings transparency to any discussion or disagreement. I love her for that. She's also prone to get along better with guys because of her type of personality and due to past female friends betraying her. I'm confident of her intentions yet the fact that she allows certain chemistry to flourish with one worker is worrysome and feels disrespectful. I haven't yet figured out if its my demons defining boundaries or that i am not compatible with a personality like that. Still searching for that answer but in the meantime, I will love her beautifully.

[TheLoudseed]

I've struggled with this so much and really hurt and lashed out at someone because of my own neediness last year. That person did not deserve it. I think about what I wrote and I'm ashamed at how mean and cruel I was. I ultimately apologized, but the damage was done. Working on yourself is a day in/day out process. All I can do is ask for forgiveness, and not make the same mistake the next time. Wishing the other person happiness, because at the end of the day, the only person you 'can control' is yourself and how you react to things that happen. #7 is so key. No matter what happens, you will be okay because you decided already you will be fine no matter what. I always get so much from your videos, Matthew, thank you.