Addiction, Lies, and Manipulation (2020)

Different personality types will use different manipulation tactics to keep their addiction going. Some are more rebellious and aggressive while others are more agreeable. The important thing to remember is that you're still dealing with addiction. It's not just about the lies, addicts, and alcoholics will manipulate in lots of ways. Don't be fooled by these manipulation tactics. Just because they seem nice, doesn't mean you're not dealing with an addict or alcoholic. REMEMBER: Anyone who has an addiction also has a pattern of manipulation, but it may not look the way you think!

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About Me:
Personal Experience:
I grew up in an addicted family. In fact, it would be way easier for me to tell you who wasn't addicted versus who was addicted. Seriously, I have absolutely no memories of my grandmother without a glass of vodka in her hand. My mother died due to her addiction to methamphetamines. I've had countless addicted step-parents, and my older sister has struggled with serious (life-destroying) addiction for as long as I can remember.

All that being said, I always felt I had a great and loving family. My sister and I spent every summer swimming in my grandmother's pool. (the grandmother who struggled with alcoholism). We called her Mimi, and she was great. My mom was attractive and very creative, not to mention lots of fun!
Growing up like this gives me a unique perspective on addiction. I can know that someone is struggling with addiction but still see their wonderful qualities.

Professional qualifications:
After graduating from counselor school in 2004, I worked in a private psychiatric hospital for 10 years. This facility provided acute care (short term) for serious mental health and Substance Use Disorders. I learned a LOT from my experience working in a psychiatric hospital.

I got to see and treat almost every type of mental health and addiction issue you can think of, but it felt like a revolving door. I'd see the same people come in over and over and their families were absolutely desperate for help.

Unfortunately, the system isn't set up to help families in general. Knowing what it's like to live with addiction, I was all the more frustrated.

All this led to me deciding to leave the hospital and start my own addiction treatment center, specializing in addicted family systems.

Over the years, I had developed lots of good relationships with other clinicians, and I knew who was the best! I put together a superstar team, and we now run out own outpatient addiction treatment practice called Hope For Families Recovery Center.

We've worked very hard not to tie ourselves to the "big system." We don't work for the insurance companies. We don't work for a hospital system, We don't answer to anyone except our clients, their families, and the licensing boards that provide us with our professional license. We have all Licensed Professional Counselors (LPC)-(which is mental health counselors) and also Licensed Addiction Counselors (LAC).

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[jenny-fnif]

My daughter is “ the victim “ and also the type that has accepted the fate of being an addict, she has even vocalized that it herself. You do such a great job at explaining much need information. I’m learning so much !

[taylernoelle]

I have a "people pleaser". You described how he acts and the way the family deals with him to a T.

[rubydevon]

This is so helpful, I never thought of the typical addict as having accepted it and embracing it, but that makes so much sense.
Do you have any videos on how families can let go of guilt etc. The person in my life is my ex husband. I wish I had known what I know now about addiction several years ago. I feel I handled it all wrong and made his addiction issues worse. I was angry instead of compassionate, judgemental instead of understanding. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.
Thank you so much for these videos, I’m working my way through them all!

[shinebright]

I was there for a while. I have parents that were addicts so it’s in my dna and ended up feeling like it was a losing fight. So I just accepted who I was becoming and my new title. I was an alcoholic tho and it snuck up on me. I didn’t realize alcohol could be a problem until it was a full blown problem for me. Sounds so naive and dumb but it’s truth! Lol but now I think differently. I’m simply someone who CANT drink. For any reason ever. Which sucked because I’m in my 20’s. But it is what it is. Plus I’ll be healthier if I don’t do it so there’s that 🤷‍♀️😊 I’m still learning tho.

[brigittemarie]

Im really needing help...my husband is a mix of people pleaser and rebel...more so people pleaser until he’s cornered to make a decision I guess. Is there a video to help learn to deal with this or is there anyway you could do one on it...

[YoungMule]

Just discovered your channel. You make great content with great graphical/technical design.

You speak a lot about substance abuse which I realize is very serious and needs to be addressed. I would love if you made a psychological addiction video, something like porn addiction. I know there is a lot of overlap, but the specificity would help.

[jasminelopez]

I know someone sounds like they have 2, 3 & 4 all in one. 🥺🥺😣 is that possible ?

[ashleyklish]

My Husband is alittle bit of the 1st and 2nd ones your talked about but mostly he's the 4th he's the victim it's sad but at the same time it's so aggravating to me and it might be harsh to say this but I feel like when are you gunna grow up and take responsibility for your actions...

[brendareed]

Do you have a video on how to hold the victim type of addict accountable?

[valevaleria]

Is it normal to suffer from anxiety after a relationship with an addict ?

[samanthast-onge]

Is it possible to be more than one type?