Why WOMEN pick FIGHTS

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[js-jxby]

I used to be a woman who acted like this. I think a big reason behind the need to pick fights/cause drama is boredom and lack of purpose. Once I started to add responsibility/meaning/hard work to my life (became a stay at home mom) I thankfully began to mature out of it..very embarrassing now when I look back.

[cic]

Comparing women to children is very accurate.

[pcharl]

So basically strengthen your stoicism to negate the reinforcement.

[ryanporter]

Women picking fights is to find how far they can push your buttons in order to try to control the man in the future.

[setaripantheon]

*"Women mature physically earlier them men, but they never become adults.."*

[markusfreund]

They don't "pick fights", they try to fabricate drama. It is us who enter the fight out of misplaced earnesty. Anyway, they do that because they have the awareness and self-restraint of toddlers combined with the courtesy of cats after over a century of society constantly pampering them and pandering to their every last whim.

[GerardoDelValle.]

They are just like children, don't hate them, just know their true nature and act upon it.

[Doberman_]

Sean Connery knew how to deal with this.

[arthurlove]

Thank you. It puzzled me, why women I knew, worked with and dated always seem to want or have drama. Now that you said it, things are much clearer.

[Tom-efyp]

If its a personality disorder, she also feeds on your suffering.

[paulbeck]

With my wife, it was so she could then get angry and blame everything on me.

[MrJake-yxll]

Everything you just stated is 100% accurate--yet here's the rub:
When this goes on for too long it turns into a bit of a crying wolf type scenario and the man tunes-out and yes for very good reason ....because why should he pay attention to something that is non-value-added non-productive and there to just get attention?
The adult minded woman will develop an awareness of this and save this type of jibber-jabber for her needy girlfriends.
It has no place in a man's world.

[focusedallday]

Trust me, she doesn’t act that way with every guy. Sometimes women want the relationship to be over, but they want it to be your fault so they can be the victim. When she really likes you she doesn’t want to rock the boat. Stay Focused!

[warriorson]

My explanation of this that a large percentage of women experience long term negative emotion ( in other word feel unhappy, frustrated or unfulfilled) due to internal causes...
However,
instead of either accepting this, or working towards alleviating it, they choose to find external factors to blame it on. The closest factor is usually their husband/partner.

[monikasolymos]

Thank you Doctor. I like your videos. I subscribed to your channel, because you see the basics, but have the courage to think outside the box sometimes.
I usualy don't subscibe, you are my 4. Keep on doing what you do, we are all thankful. Women too. I see, that your zeal audiance are men, but we women, want to see our mistakes too.

[marcuswilliams]

Thanks, I was questioning why she was always trying to stur up an argument over the last slice of pizza.

[papabear]

Went thru this last night…for the most part I stayed very calm and kept her on topic 1 by 1…we got through it and I can tell she is unsatisfied even though we hashed out each topic. Staying calm didn’t give her the reaction of validation she was looking for…today she is tired and distant…I will not engage in argument again🙏

[mvphung]

It's weird guys but our women want to feel us. Let them. Be there for them. Never try to solve their problems. Listen and empathize. This is a good thing

[cynthiasullivan]

Men and Women tend to disagree on what is and what is not significant in the first place ❤

[daveam]

So women are emotionally children? I would definitely say so. That’s what happens when everyone coddles you since birth. I’m so thankful to be the gender that nothing was handed to, it teaches you maturity if anything.