How to handle it when a coworker tries to make you look bad

This happens a lot, and it's almost like you are a bulls eye from the moment you arrive. How to handle these types...

[markshelton]

I don't understand why people would go out of their way to make others look bad. I noticed that they mainly do it to quiet people. Trust me, I know from experience! People prey on the quiet people cuz they obviously envy something about them and think that they're weak. I'm a quiet person myself and pretty much everybody around me is always tryna find something's wrong with me and put me down every chance they get. Even though I get aggravated at times, I don't pay my haters no mind cuz they ain't nothing but attention-seekers anyhow. I would just keep it moving and go on by my business.

[Ilovemovies]

If you look like a weak quiet person you are an easy target coworker’s will snitch you even if you didn’t do anything wrong. If you work with guys they don’t do anything but working with girls they would make your job miserable.

[sweetpea]

Omg this happened to me when I first started at my job. I was really nice and sweet and quiet...This one girl seemed extremely jealous of me. She would try so hard to put me down or make me look bad. Then one day I flipped out on her so bad like crazy in front of everyone and put her on the spot. Lol after that I didn't get any bullying from her. I feel like maybe some ppl respect you more after you stand up for yourself? Maybe she was looking for that or didn't expect it. I will never understand. They're so sad and pathetic it's funny

[gra]

It's a classic someone who wants to blow out your candle to make there's look brighter Classic inferiority complex ego issue

[szj]

I dont understand why a person that is double my age wants to push me down daily. And sabotaging my work i'm a trainee i just get so mad. I like my job but seeing the person when i walk in just makes me wanna walk out again.

[creator]

If you retaliate, they love that. they are part animal, remember.

[oxanawizman]

You must stand up for your self and those people must learn the lesson!

[CharismaStrategies]

Great advice, Marie.
I also think that when you love yourself and are confident and secure in who you are, none of this type of behaviour from other people will effect you. They do this to people just to test if you're weak or not. If you feed into their hooks and tests by being too verbal with them or by giving them attention they will feel like they own you.
Don't put anyone at work on a pedestal and don't be fake with anyone. Sometimes they think that just because you're new you're going to try and be fake and try to fit in with everyone. Once they see that you're actually okay in your own skin, not there to please anyone and not phased by their behaviour, they'll leave you alone straight away.

[michaelplitt]

No solution for people like this. Escpecially if they are in the click. Had it happen to me. Went to the manager and HR and no help..

[Stalkerx]

I work as a dishwasher and I have had many coworkers gang up to try to make me look bad when I am working. When I am catching the plates that come out of the dish washing machine they try to put in the plates quickly to beat me. One time they tried doing it so fast that the machine broke down 5-10 minutes before my shift was over. I just smiled and said: "Oh look at the time, I gotta go." They all stayed serious and quiet lol. I beat them at their own game, and because they tried being dirty with me they lost and now had to wash all the dishes by hand. 😅

[mathewherrick]

I've had results with these people by giving them a taste of their own medicine. It seems with these types the more you take the high road the worse they become. First out perform them, and then treat them like shit. They will be your best friend. I never could figure why you have to be an A-hole to get them to be decent. Some people's children!

[davetukia]

i think its a kind of people that are just like that. All kind of people like this should be chased out of a workplace immediately and fast because if not they'll keep doing it and they are the wont they cause the real drama. They don't come to work because they just wanna have a good time and work hard. They come to work because they hate people and this make it hard for work to move forward. These people should definitely be fired. These people don't make workplace harmonious, they make it worse

[HULKHOGAN]

I remember when I was 18, I had transferred to a different store within McDonald's and there was a lady in her early 40's who was unrelentingly ordering me around like a manager would. She obviously was not aware that I had previous experience and was very efficient at my job, so she saw me as an easy target. I put my emotional feelings aside until I had gained the respect from my new colleagues and then one day when she bossed me around, I confronted her in front of everybody. Our voices were raised but I was calm and logical. She NEVER bossed me around after that and funnily enough, we actually became super good friends lol. I'll never forget that. Belittling coworkers, especially when they are respectful does not even compute to me. Such toxic behaviour goes against every fibre in my body and soul.

[mariewilliams]

a coworkers always talks down to me and acts high and mighty with me but is nice to his friends. I try to act confident and indifferent but its hard when everyone is laughing and acting like he is so great and I'm the loser.

[ImTurbo-bmhc]

My girlfriend just got a new job and shes being treated very bad by her co workers I sent her the link to this video for her to watch it I'm very disappointed she is such a good women who is always working hard and these co workers are putting her down talking behind her back and gossiping about her

[jackbauer]

I deal with this shit all the time at work. They just love pointing out my "mistakes". I think this advice is good. Just ignore them, they're the workplace equivalent of internet trolls.

[sageroseh]

abuse shouldn't be tolerated . I understand that getting out may be an option but why not address the abuser and fire thier they are harming the company in the long run. there needs to be new rules in place to deal with workplace behavior.

[guidofeliz]

People respect you more when you fight back professionally.

[rosiesummer]

A coworker of mine is over all a person who is a trouble maker, yet plays victim if anything is done to them. I started at my job a year before she started. Within a week of her starting she was extremely rude to me, barely talked to me. Then whenever I was near her, she would proclaim loudly she needed to be in a different role because she has been in the industry nearly 10 years and shouldn't be in a low role. Then for the first time at my job a rumor had been spread about me not liking my role. Only one person fitted the description. I found out a few months ago the coworker had bragged to another coworker she tried desperately to get me fired. Even though there is no grounds to get me fired and I had a strong professional relationship with my boss. It backfired on my coworker and my boss had put the coworker in her place. I don't know why I'm a target, I guess it is because I come across as happy quiet person that minds my own business. So it makes me look like a weaker person.

[cristinac]

I've noticed that when that person tries to put others down and doesn't succeed, she starts acting like a victim somewhat or starts talking about something terrible that happened to her outside of work on and on and on so she can get I dunno, pity from people because what else is she gonna get. She doesn't really need advice. Then she says stuff like I'm sorry I'm venting and thanks for being someone who listens and doesn't judge. And she says that in a way so others who she's trying to get back at, can hear. I mean sometimes I'm like, wow what do I say or do?! Then If she sees you're smart about it, she quickly changes tactics like lightning and acts like a saint