HOW TO RESPOND WHEN PEOPLE MISTREAT YOU!

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WHAT TO DO WHEN PEOPLE KEEP MISTREATING YOU

How do you respond when someone continually mistreats you again and again? That’s coming up next on the BEAT.

Hey what’s up everybody my name is Allen Parr thank you so much for visiting my channel. Here on the BEAT we release a new video every Tuesday and today I want answer the question, “What do you do? How do you respond when someone close to you continues to mistreat you whether it may be at work, at church or even at home?” In Rom. 12 Paul gives us 6 clear steps on how to handle it. Number 1

1. Speak Well & Don’t Curse them – Paul says, “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.” As difficult as it is try and find something positive to say about them, wish the best for them, pray for them, while at the same time resisting the temptation to gossip about them, ruin their reputation or speak negatively about them.

2. Set an Example for others – Paul says, “Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone.” Other people are watching you and when you take the high road and consistently seek good for those who mistreat you are setting the example of great character for others to emulate.”

3. Initiate Peace – Notice he says, “If it is possible [meaning sometimes it isn’t], as far as it depends on you [meaning you can’t control the other person; only your own actions], live at peace with everyone.” Even if the person you are in conflict with is wrong God still says you do EVERYTHING in your power to initiate peace in the relationships because if the relationship doesn’t work you can say that you did your part to seek reconciliation.

4. Leave room for God – Next he says, “Do not take revenge…but LEAVE ROOM for God’s wrath.” When we seek to get even ourselves I believe this verse implies that God takes His hands off of it and says, “well if you think you can do a better job then you handle it.” Take your hands off of the situation. God says it belongs to Him anyway. Leave room for God to do KNOWING by faith that no injustice or mistreatment escapes His view.

5. Do Something Good for them – Paul says, “On the contrary, when your enemy is hungry, feed him…when you do you will heap burning coals on his head.” When you do something good for someone who doesn’t deserve it your good actions will often times cause them to feel convicted and ashamed because they will naturally compare their mistreatment towards you to your good forcing them to come face to face with their own behavior.

6. Don’t Allow Someone Else to Change your Character – Finally, Paul says, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” In other words, be careful NOT to allow someone else’s evil and mistreatment to turn you into an evil person all because you want to get revenge because when you do you not only have become just as low as them but you’ve also given someone else control over your own emotions.

So guys, you may be in a difficult situation at work, at church, or even in your own home. I want to encourage you today to do what God is requiring of you and to trust God’s word because it works. By faith, resist the urge to get even and trust that in God’s timing He will not only bless you for responding with character but He will also deal with the person who is mistreating you.

[pinkpostergirl]

This stuff is truly not easy, especially when u are having issues with a sociopath or narcissist personality disorder.

[anitad]

Mistreatment at work especially from a supervisor is so difficult. It's makes life miserable. Also if you respond with peace they will pick on you even more because they see it as a sign of weakness. There are some really evil people out there unfortunately.

[newnatural]

I needed this cuz I was about to go ham on somebody today.

[bkbeautii]

This isn’t easy at all. Especially when I’m naturally nice and everyone around me has the capability to be rude to me. When really..I just want to treat them the way they treat me because I’m tired of constantly being tried for no reason over and over and over again. People don’t hear you until they feel you. I try so hard to keep my peace go about things the right way and it’s getting frustrating to deal with.

[vickyiliaens]

One way only, stand your ground, set boundaries, assertivity!

[gapeach]

Don’t respond....Silence is power...I had to learn that on my own.

[TiarasLounge]

God tested me today, on this exact thing. I passed It's crazy that this popped up on my feed a half hour after thanking God for this test.

[VibeWithVida]

He makes good and valid points, but no one is to take abuse from anyone. You do have the right to be direct and stop people from mistreating you, even if that means walking away.

[wh]

I am a Christian and u r speaking the truth about God

[lionelwarunlikebefore]

NO ONE SAID IT WAS GOING TO BE EASY. JESUS TAKING THE CROSS FOR US WASN’T EASY. BUT HE DID IT! CONSTANTLY PRAY FOR GOD’S HELP TO DO THE HARD THINGS. 😊

[denineful]

Many good points. But we are also to confront those that sin against us. Jesus confronted the Pharisees and others by speeking truth when He was mistreated. When we overlook sin, we can end up enabling it. I have spent most of my life forgiving, overlooking, and blessing those  were sinning against me. I ended up being used, abused, and taken advantage of. It didn't gain me respect, only contempt. My point being, yes we do all these things, but we also confront people who mistreat us. I lived one sided for too long. we love others enough to speak the truth and we love ourselves enough not to let others continually mistreat us.

[angelroseswolfy]

I try so hard to be a true Christian it’s hard 😖due to my anger issues I am glad I watched this I just wish to control it there is a lot of cruel people out there 😔

[IdahoIsaiah]

A tough thing to do especially when the person who hates you demonized you. Good motivation in this video

[heidi]

I believe this is true, but you still need to stick up for yourself.

[libralove]

Well some people become a reprobate spirit the bible also speaks about if u cannot get along with other people DEPART. Some people you cannot get along with. Even when its family

[a.thibodeaux]

This is hard when somebody lies on you to the police

[MO-qjpc]

My oldest daughter is bullied constantly. While I'm aware this is the world we live in & "those girls" will always be out there... The pain doesn't go away. This video is a good reminder & I'm going to sit down with her & watch it together & pray.

[sheldonmurphy]

Everyone overlooks when Paul told people that they can just go and emasculate themselves, and this was over something petty.

Paul should never be a role model, nor a standard by which to live by; but Paul has many wonderful things to say.

Christ led a perfect example of how to live, love, and treat people. 🥰

[josephalberque]

I used to be verbally abused by another resident. It really hurt me. People who wanted to help me had their hands tied they could do NOTHING to help me, even though they wanted to. Anyone who says "sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me has not lived with a verbally abusive person. Words DO HURT

[juliagrace]

I need this so much! I don’t want to feel the need to defend myself. God is my defender! I need the faith to trust that God WILL deal with whatever mistreatment or feelings of offense is coming at me! 🙏🏼