Q&A: How to deal when people don't like you

We all get to a point where someone doesn't like it and it shows. It's not comfortable, but I can tell you what to do to make it easier to deal with and rise above it.

[mikioni]

"I don't want to be part of a world where being kind is a weakness."
Keanu Reeves

[daron]

When I started learning how to love myself more, other peoples dislike of me mattered less and less. The people who matter don’t mind and the people who mind don’t matter. Some people are just not gonna like you for whatever reason. 🤷🏽‍♂️

[mariea]

Dont let them get you down. I used to but now i just ignore them. Believe me loads of people hate me because of stupid mistakes so if they cant accept me or whatever then they arent worrth thinking about.

[dcabral]

The biggest favor someone who dislikes you can do for you is to stay away from you. Sounds good to me, because if you do not like me, I do not like you.

[courtney_timmins]

I am a very sensitive person also and I even get a little disheartened when people just don't like me by default. It just kinda hurts you know, especially if they don't know you. But I guess you can't impress everyone. I hope to focus more on impressing myself and being happy with myself, and sharing that contagious happiness with my beloved friends.

[rlziolkowskimusic]

I teach middle school, so this is a part of my daily life. It's not easy.
Sometimes, people are just rude, but it's not a reflection on you. Believe in yourself, believe in what you're doing. The best way to prove the negativity wrong is to just keep going and not let it affect who you are.

[keliontv]

well....here's my tip. I've had a CRAZY amount of people hate me...some even walked to my face and told me they hate me.


the way I've dealt with it was a quote by a very wise biblical figure "be like a flower that gives off its fragrance even to the hand that crushes it."

this quote really spoke to me, and once I took acknowledge at the fact that this one person hated me, I said to myself WHO CARES??? Who's cares if they hate you be true to YOU! Continue being a good person cause in the end your character on how you treat people and how you view life is what makes them like you.

so I say keep being you and be a joyful person to be around...don't take in anything negatively, always view life with the cup half full and not half empty. be a person where people want you around for the joy you bring and not for the negative bs you give.

I'm actually dating a girl who hated my guts when she 1st met me lol, I just kept being a high moral having person and viewed myself more than an opinion....hope that helped.

[tonydemille]

this was good to hear. I shut my YouTube channel down after only a week because of the critics. I'm going to start it back up and be a better person because of it. this was the encouragment I needed.

[shawnmendes]

My motto for such persons "" If you have any problem with me, then its your problem not mine""

[elimarc]

What if you were perfect like the Son? People will hate you even then. Many people are just plain bad.

[tinathorn]

I’m ok with people not liking me. It’s when they start causing hardship. You don’t have to like me that’s your right . It’s not ok to cause unnecessary problems in person life. It’s at this point is stressful and Annoying.

[chickensataybroccoli]

This was really helpful, especially the part about not needing 100% approval from everyone. Thank you.

[Reborn_Enthusist]

If your close to God people tend not to like you tho they don't know why. Its Gods light in you. Remember they hated him first. I have a very close relationship with Our Lord and people don't like me as soon as they meet me. As long as he loves me that's fine with me because he does so much for me that others could never do.

[KisDraga]

I'm still trying to not care that people don't like me but it hurt. I try to stay away from most so I don't have to worry or bother them but there is a group that are friends with the person I work for so I do have to cross paths with them .. Its painful seeing how different they treat me (fake nice/ tolerate my presence with an empty politeness) and how they treat others. I don't want my anxiety to turn to resentment but can feel myself growing more and more defensive which feeds into how I act and self fulfilling prophecy of their distaste for me. Still trying not to care and be nice but distant but.... I still end up ruminating over interactions with them . It doesn't feel good. Sometimes I'm forced to interact with them. And in those cases I do come off cold and frustrated because I'm exhausted from anxiety. (I have general + social anxiety & depression). I have a friend that tried to tell me she isn't keen on the group either and not to take it personally but... god damn its hard.

[MsXxRonaldoxx]

There is awalys something wrong with a person who hates you without a reason, and don't like you even after the know you for many mouth and lough with you.
There were always people who puts me down and gets angry if I do the same thing to them. I didnt even unterstand what is wrong with them. After I ignored whem the looked at me like if I have done something bad. The disrespektet me puted me down and gossiped about me. And it was the whole class. I didnt talked to them what their problem was it wouldn't change anything.

[pinkroses]

Everyone isn't going to like everyone. You can't make them like you, you shouldn't beat yourself up, that kind of thing. Stay focused on your values and goals.

[Verisimilitude_]

I think that’s really sweet and authentic that she shared the experience of people getting up and walking out on her during her class. I think we have all experienced some form of rejection. Very relatable for everyone and also a story a lot of people I’m sure would be too embarrassed or shy to share.

[marisuzara]

Who wouldn't like you?  You're the best!!

[jodcindy]

You convey such great positive energy. Thank you very much for beautifully covering a subject that is very near and dear to my heart.

[JosephineDeSmet]

I have people in my team for a group project and I feel they dislike me... It's not me taking it personally or jumping to conclusions... I gave them the benefit of the doubt... I ask questions and it says 'read' but they don't reply... When I call them out on that they say things like ''it's our week off... Im not gonna do schoolwork now'' But it was a simple question and they also never reply when it IS school...when I say something when we're discussing the project they raise their voice and no matter what I say it's bad... I can't take that anymore