How to deal with negative people

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[henrycook]

Being a truck driver I’m exposed to other driver’s negativity constantly! Thanks for the advice.

[clyb]

I just got hired on as a shift lead at a fast food place. Never been any kind of manager before. I know people are often hateful and angry at fast food workers so I was looking for ways to deescalate negative and angry customers. This is nice to hear, they can only give you what's inside them. Their need to be heard in some fashion. Don't take any of it personally. If someone is angry enough to throw food at you, that's got nothing to do with you and everything to do with what's inside them. Good video.

[somebodysfalling]

“People can only give you what’s inside them”...I love the way you sum that up, and remembering it will help me to have compassion for them. I also appreciate the mind visuals you create, like imagining their words and energy hit that shield and fall away. Simply powerful. Thank you!

[Michael-ndgh]

Watching a buff dude with a sweet beard sincerely talk about being nice to people makes me want to be nice to people.

[HighImpactClub]

Thank you so much for your encouragement. I do therapeutic foster care, the children that come to my care are usually children who have been disrupted from home to home due to their behaviors, and they are usually very angry, so they release it with whoever is around them (me). It’s hard not to take it personal, but what really helps me is to understand that their behaviors are the communication of a need. This children are hurting deeply, they’ve been rejected, put down, abused, and their anger is just the way they know to communicate their pain, and it’s usually a way to protect themselves from getting hurt again. When I keep in mind that it’s not about me, that helps me not to take their negativity, but to really think how I can help them

[zt]

Dr Conte, I think your videos has helped me enormously. I deal with a student that is unreasonable, applying your mentality (plus a little bit of microdosing I must confess) has been the only thing that has helped me enormously. Thank you

[chuckmcgee]

I believe this is what a lot of people struggle with. The abused struggle with this a lot because they feel that they can’t stand up for themselves. Then they feel that they have no where to go.

I remember when I was about 20 years old a physicist told me that I was abused and so on. I went home and called my mother and I said to her why did you let dad do those things to me. She started to cry and said what was I supposed to do. There are 9 of you kids how am I supposed to live. It broke my heart. My father owned 14 Macdonald’s stores and as I got older he was extremely wealthy man and I thought you could have left anytime you wanted. You could have gotten him to stop. But back to your video she just couldn’t. She was defeated.

So in my life today I surround myself with good Christian beliefs and values. People who are my friends and aren’t afraid to be real with me. And the most important person who is always with me is God.

Thank you for this video. It was awesome. God bless you and your family.

[ja]

I love digging through your old video's when I'm having a tough time being positive. You're such a blessing Dr. C, thank you.

[chrisrichardson]

This guy is waaaay better than these doctors where i live .. i need this guy to talk to as my mentor this guy is very deep... Congrats and plz keep spreading the positivity cause it is greatly need for men like me

[tinabattrick]

I do not have anger but it always good to watch a video if I ever came across being angry with someone that I can learn the tips to stop being angry

[strengthnhope]

+ Dr Christian Conte....WOW...JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR! Thank you for this video. I work with NEGATIVE people. I shall see this video every day. THANK YOU for this valuable advice!

[lawrececox]

Thanks for your videos. It's really helpful to understand how to channel mine and others energy around me.

[ryanzanoni]

Dr. Conte, thank you very much for your wise and extremely helpful insight and guidance here! They truly are life-changing.

[LamixFace]

I think I love you :). I appreciate the videos and the information that you share with us, it's helping me view things in a better way.

[soniaayon]

Love it. I needed this essential tip. I will use your technique...

[cindysanford]

My husband and I mentor inmates in Pennsylvania prisons. One of the men we are currently mentoring is a young man who was just released after 23 years in prison. Like many inmates, he suffered years of abuse and neglect at the hands of his parents. Your videos are very helpful to us. Thank you for sharing them online.

[jelenamarusic]

Actually, just validation in the form of "you seem stressed" or "you seem to be dealing with a lot today" sounds like a good response to another person's negativity. Instead of getting pulled into their drama!
Thanks for the advice!

[robertzimmerman]

thanks for the advice! your suggestions help me to not become angry with angry people but to extend the window of time I have to internally use your advice and come to a version of response I could calmly respond.

[keananSheps]

Thanks for this vid. Even the smallest remember helps. Been on my journey of growth for two years but as you know it never stops. I always come back and watch your videos to refill my cup no matter the level of anger because the parenting vids are my all time favorite!

[d.a.r.e]

Thank you so much man you are helping out a lot of people by explaining it in a more detailed ways that not a lot of people can explain