The guilt of leaving your parents behind | MAKEUP STORYTIME #shorts

[melissafasseldunn]

this is sad but cute but more sad at the same time

[samanthalee]

Jeez. Too relatable. Everything you said hit home... Oof.

[alessandrasmith]

Why is it that so many of us feel like we can finally get to know ourselves once we are no longer in the presence of those who want to hold on to what they think we should be?

[Hatsoonmeek]

This is probably one of my fav makeup designs of yours

[aniqua_]

So I'm only 17 but my parents are in their 60's, and I'm genuinely scared to leave for college. My mom has a chronic illness that will eventually kill her, and my father overworks himself and drives very recklessly. My siblings are older and can help take care of them, but they also have their separate lives and live far away. I need to go to school, but I can't bear the thought of leaving them because we're very close. I dont want to ruin that relationship. Growing up sucks :/

[artisteye]

I think one of the hardest things about growing up is realizing everyone else is growing too.

[mjarmes]

Having my whole family in Portugal while I'm in the UK, I can relate. My grandparents are getting older and I want to be with them but my life is in the UK right now. Even though I'm lucky that the countries are close and fairly cheap to fly, that feeling of guilt is just as strong and it worries me if the worse could happen one day when I'm not there...

[sayhello]

Her: “I instantly felt so much guilt.”

Asian parents: “Mission accomplished.”

[lynxdani]

how are your videos so different?? Sometimes they make me genuinely laugh, sometimes they make me cry.. idk gurl ur amazingggg, and i agree immigrant parents/parents from/in another country is difficult, but we can push through it :D <33

[lucil_]

I’m genuinely fearful of getting older and going on my own. I’m afraid that one day I’ll look back to get help from my parents and they just won’t be there anymore, and I won’t know who to look to for the advice they used to give me. Though I don’t look for their help often and normally refuse it just knowing that they’re there to support me if needed is calming. The idea of me Fucking up later in life and not being able to turn to them really is fearful.

[VeggieGirl]

I feel kind of bad for not having that same sense of responsibility to my parents after our turbulent relationship. I would move away and forget about them in a heartbeat

[paniellenolvard]

Much of our young adult life is spent finding out who we are and seeing family less after being around them for so many years. We all go through this. It's important to separate your guilt with grief. Grief is hard enough on it's own.

[cockroacheatingakrabbypatt]

The worst part about growing up is watching your parents grow up

[lydia]

I take care of my mom and she reminds me that it’s my duty to do so every morning, ever afternoon, and once every night when I tell her goodnight. When that time comes when they need you, it’s great to be there and we can never forget to respect and love our parents (within reason. Some parents should have never became parents or exist but that’s besides the point lol) But I’ve been doing this since 15 working 2, 3 jobs during school and working 12-14 hours a day. My mom couldn’t work and hasn’t worked in over 30 years because she has physical challenges, but also she was and is still to this day afraid of getting out of her comfort zone. I know you feel guilt because you love them and that’s beautiful as a form of expression of love we have for our parents, but if you can afford to spend a few years or a few decades dedicated to care for yourself, build yourself, nurture yourself, and put yourself first for once or even for a little while BEFORE you take on that responsibility, NEVER EVER give that up. All this is written excluding certain and unique circumstances of course, so don’t come at me.. please…

Edit- and this rant is biased to my own situation of course lol so.. yeah.. please don’t come at me.. :(

[saeyi]

fr, no matter how shitty my arguments with my parents get, at the end of the day i always feel guilty about it...also i took a good look at my dad yesterday and realised strands of his eyebrows were turning white and was shocked at how wrinkled his hands were. i started tearing on the spot and i cant believe it took me so long to realise he was aging fast...in my mind he still had tight skin with black hair 💔

[macaroni--penguin]

Agh the lips are so pretty 😍 the blur gradient thing you did looks amazing 👏

[owqfvic]

My dad lives 1000 miles away, due to a nasty divorce with my mom. I see him 3 times a year for 1-2 weeks. I never realized parents really do age so much, maybe its because I hadn't seen him in so long, but it looked like he aged 7 years in one. We were talking and I learned my grandma, his mom, was given 3 years to live due to kidney disease stage 3. I asked him how he felt about this, and he gave me the talk of a lifetime. Me and my dad weren't close during my childhood because he wasn't mentally present, but this changed a lot. He told me how he felt when his dad passed away almost 5 years ago now, and how he always knew it was coming but it hurt so bad when it actually did- he also lost a brother almosyt 8 year ago. He explained to me that although he'll be sad to lose his mom, the woman who created him, birthed him, took care of him, and she was the first woman he ever loved, that is life. He said he has appreciated her his almost 43 years of life, and will appreciate her until her last breath. That's all he can do, because parents age and parents die, and one day we will too.
It was weird to grasp because I'm still only 15, but that was the most parenting my father had ever done in my whole 15 years of life. After he told me this, we planned an entire year of traveling together now. We just got back from a concert in Atlanta, we're going to go see the ball drop on his birthday in New York, then California, Hawaii, Washington state, London, and Paris then I'll be moving to Korea next year in September and I'll be even farther away from my little ol' dad who lives in an Itty bitty town in his country state in the USA.

[Remya]

Wow, this really hit close to home with me. Thanks for the story with your awesome make up look

[livewellwitheds]

I feel this. its been very odd learning my parents have their own lives, and also watching them grow older and seeing the signs of time on their face

[chubbydinosaur]

my biggest realisation when growing up was how little my parents care about me. I say that I feel bad and they're like "oh boohoo poor you doesn't feel like it, when I was your age I was married had kids went to work yada yada yada NOW WORK HARDER!" turned out they had stressed me into heart failure and I had a heart attack... at 23. Rinse and repeat +- ten years later, same situation "oh boohoo poor you doesn't feel so good WORK HARDER" this time I have chronic lung inflammation and doctors don't know how to treat it without killing off my heart. These people don't care if I'm dead or alive.
It's laughable how hard I tried to keep my body from falling apart by living a healthy life style and all but got accused of being neurotic and having an ED to get attention. I am frantically duct taping my body to keep it from falling apart, but yeah it's just because I'm a neurotic attention seeker