☘️ Getting Others To Tidy Up • How To Get Your Partner To Help You Declutter • Decluttering Alone

☘️ How can you declutter if the person you live with is not on board? Whether it's a partner, kids, family members, or a housemate, other people can potentially make things difficult when it comes to cleaning and tidying your home.

So here are my top tips for how to declutter when you share a space, and how to get the most buy-in from others so you can see big results.

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Laura

[JohnFourtyTwo]

About eight months ago a friend was telling me a story he had with a friend of his about folding T-shirts, underwear, socks, etc. His friend was so good that it impressed his wife because his method was much better than hers. So I did an internet search on folding T-shirts or something like that and found your video about folding your husband's clothes.

I gave it a try and added another step of tucking the underwear and T-shirts into themselves and made a nice rectangle package instead of a tent. I saved so much space this way I was able to put everything neatly in one drawer instead of two separate drawers. This is much better than the way we were taught in the Navy to fold our clothes in bootcamp because they preached about the limitations of space onboard ship but their method was wasteful compared to yours. All my T-shirts, underwear, and socks look like file folders that are easily and neatly organized instead of stacks of clothes to sort through.

I folded my wife's laundry the same way and she liked it so much that she didn't want to unfold it because it looked so neat and cute. She's already a wiz at folding shirts like they're on a department store shelf but the fold and tuck really impressed her.

[Julies-in-a-mood]

Your tip #6 is spot-on! My husband has never shown any interest in the actual process of paring down our household, but has definitely appreciated the results. Expecting others to share your level of involvement & enthusiasm isn’t always realistic (or necessary). Great video!

[erinkerbs]

Thank you so much for talking about boundaries with a partner who maybe isn't on the same page with decluttering. I have been working on this with my husband and almost grown kids. They are starting to let stuff go because they are seeing me declutter and I never, ever get rid of any of their stuff.

[mschrisfrank]

I live with my parents, who hang on to many things; but I find that doing my decluttering and tidying has inspired my mom to do it a little bit more.

[angeladroesbeke]

One thing to never say to someone is “do you need this or that?”
We all know we often confuse need to have and good to have and we always seem to think our things are all need to haves especially if they still have some far away sentimental attachment linked to them. I always try to work around it by trying to bring out the notion of our most favorite things and how we are giving them more value by giving them more light. Then in the end, everyone needs to feel ready to let things go including the attachments we have to them. Everyone’s journey starts at different time and we mustn’t force someone to follow ours. For true, often when others see us start the journey they also slowly want to do it too because they see and feel in you the good it’s bringing.

[Anyankah]

My hubby hates the word “decluttering” so if I ask him if he wants to declutter something it’s a big NO. But if I say “do you want to keep this thing” or “do you want to donate this thing” it’s almost always a yes.

[pameehanson]

Ditto my hubby is not really on board but he is working on some of his stuff and that is progress. I made decision that it was for me and not force him to join in. I have been watching you longer than I thought as 6 years and I thought I was slow but your sharing made me realize this is a process and JOURNEY. I stopped trying to speed declutter. I realize it is never done and i say my clutter has babies in the night. I realize I had more stuff that i realized. Thanks for sharing and keep on sharing your videos.

[Amandoop]

This video definitely came at the right time for me, I'm just about to start my konmari tidying festival and my partner is a bit of a horder (not that he would ever admit it). It's been driving my insane that he still has an unopened box of old clothes that he has refused to even look at to consider decluttering for 4 years!
Hopefully as I declutter, I will create enough space to hide that box under the bed until he finally wants to sort out

[michellecornum]

My husband wants to know how to fold. My kids (my son, can you believe it) have taken to tidying their stuff after seeing me tidy some amazing places -- the bathroom, the pantry. And I have one child -- my youngest, who decluttered the kitchen counter all by HERSELF! She wanted to try, so I just stepped back and let her. The ones who do it are definitely outliers and should not be counted, but it can happen, and every little bit helps.

[merrivideo]

I ONLY ONLY declutter my own room. Still, everyone assumes that is my fault when they can't find their stuff and that I have "thrown away" their things. I just say: i don't throw away anything, i only reuse and recycle. I have even set the rule that I will only sent to the recycling the things INSIDE the recycling bag that we have. I just keep myself safe.

[karintornblad]

This was so helpful! Thank you! Thank you!

[Laly]

lol!! I’ve been watching you for a few years (you we’re still in Ireland when I started watching your decluttering videos). I started watching because I’m not all that tidy. I do keep things in their place (keys, for example, I’ve never lost because they always had their place in every home I’ve lived in), and my husband is tidier than I am. However, like you, my husband lost the copy of my keys somewhere and also blamed me so I can relate! 😂😂
Thank you for your continued content and I hope you are feeling healthy. Stay safe and comfy! ❤️🙏

[KimberlyBruton]

Oh how I appreciate your story about the "missing" keys and getting blamed. I get blamed all the time and I wish I had video!!! You made me feel so good telling about that.

[priscillacarvalho-lovell]

I heard you. Yes they blame me. And yes I am the tidy one that preaches everything has a place and everything must be placed in its place. Usually I have seen it and can say where it is

[Wendy-mwcn]

My college-aged daughter claimed I lost her coat. She “looked everywhere”, and couldn’t find it, so I obviously put it somewhere weird. I walked her over to the coatrack and said if I had picked it up, it would be on the coatrack, because that’s where coats go. She would not hear it, so I walked into her bedroom and immediately found it on her floor. She said, clearly I planted it there. 😂

[myxochi]

So true about the missing items! Big breath. Love your story!! 😆

[edelmyles]

Thank you Laura. I relate to all of this. I will try your idea of texting a photo to DH.

[CountessCain]

I'm kinda on and off with decluttering, even bought myself some books when I last was inspired to do so. I gave some of them to my mom and guess who finally started decluttering themselves? My parents xD I have to say, decluttering saved so much of my time when I moved last time. It could have been so much more in the cartons.

[fabienneroure]

Thank you for another great video! OMG the blaming situation....it happens to me all the time!!!🥴

[ginatheng]

Thank for sharing. Also thanks for the workbook too .❤️