INFJ DOOR SLAM | Pros & Cons

Aug 7th, 6pm CET, 12pm EST, 9am PST

INFJ Life Coach Lesson: We are going back to the classics today. We're talking about the INFJ door slam, and we're talking in particular about the pros and cons of doing the INFJ door slam. For the ones of you who don't know what the INFJ door slam is all about, it's something that is very well known in the INFJ community. It happens when an INFJ has been pushed to the edge. You've been giving more and more of yourself, wanting to help the other person, trying to be open and you're not getting the respect back that you deserve. And at some point you just say, that's enough and you bounce. You close the door, you don't even say "bye" - people understand that you've had the power all along and you just didn't want to use it. And that leads to a lot of negative emotions within the other person and within you. So today we're going to talk about how to navigate this whole concept. If it's something you should do or you shouldn't do and what my approach is to this topic.

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[Wenzes]

When was the last time to had to do an INFJ Door Slam?

[Betscu.]

"We are very strong mentally." That was good to hear, cause somehow I have always thought that I am the opposite, when all the emotions of the others are falling on me.

[marinac]

Thank you! That was such a revelation .Having done the doorslam as last resort I blamed myself for having been so reactive and "rude" and worried about possibly hurting other people's feelings, when in fact finally setting boundaries allowed me to invest in myself. The best decision ever. Thank you for the missing piece of the puzzle.

[llaevigrof]

I would agree that it is very hard to end relationships, but there is nothing else you can do and keep peace. To me our inner world is as big as our outer world...sometimes bigger. It can take a long time to get over a relationship we had to leave.

[mr.goodwrench]

When was the last time I had to do an INFJ Door Slam ? I had to door slam a family member right after I purchased and moved into my home back in 2014. Their jealousy and insecurity about it brought out a mean streak in them, and I had to take action. As hard as it was for me to do, it was worth it in order to send the message " I do not have time or patience for drama ". Thank you for another good video on a good subject. 👍

[TroyPosey]

I hate it, but the last couple of years I've had to do doorslams all the time. It was rough realizing that most of the people I thought were my friends were really just convenient acquaintances, and only a couple of things in common, and the vicinity of location are what kept me hangout out with them. But then I realized they were bringing me down, or hindering my growth, so I had to cut them off. Being an INFJ I we hold onto things WAY longer than healthy, but now I don't put up with that shit anymore. I'll burn a bridge in a heartbeat if I feel mistreated. I'm not quick to burn, but I only give a 2nd chance, and that's it. No more chances...You only get one to make it right and prove it was a mistake. If it happens again... I'm out. Life's too short to waste it on people like that. 👍🏼

I door-slammed my own father 5 years ago, and haven't spoken to him since. I'd rather not get into details. He knows what he did, and that it was wrong. I no longer hate him, I just have nothing to say to him, because of all the shit it caused in my personal and financial life.

[sayusayme]

So grateful to have found your channel . Never too late to be a healthy INFJ. 💚

[jjl]

This was excellent. It’s always extreme but necessary when I door slam. However, to let it get that far and resentment to go on for so long is mostly avoidable. We are excellent at acting cool and composed but everything takes a toll in the end.

[sabrinawanderer]

I rarely show people my weakness but I did hoping to get an answer and I was ignored because I am a second or the least priority...The least I can do to heal myself is for not giving a f*** anymore about trusting people who broke my trust. It hurts to slam doors but it's necessary for our overall wellness...pray because our gift of vision comes from God once He is ready to reveal things for us..we can't do this on our own. We only get lost in our thoughts but thru prayer, we are empowered...

[yusrianadisertasi-kstg]

I always think that infj shouldn’t cut off friends just because they don’t care. People come and go, that’s sad for everyone. But that whenever we want to we can have a small chitchat and those people are still our friends. Why is it just like black and white when it comes to relationships to INFJ? When it could turn gray for anyone else.

We could just be kind, as kind as we want to give strangers that won’t give back any. So just be kind, but don’t be too kind. Be generous but don’t be too much generous.

Don’t hope for a payback but thank anyone that speak and do nice for you. Even if she/he won’t be your companion forever.

And realize that every single person have their own business, maybe they don’t care about you 24/7 but they do love you (and human loving things in many ways, the right one or the toxic one)

As for family we could just live separate from them, but to stay connect is a must, cause we are part of them.

Oh INFJ hope you could enlighted your day just by not hoping so much on to people

[jeffreyk.]

My advice for all of the INFJs personality is :
Always forgive, but never forget.

[NolanKresnak]

Hello, I’ve been door slammed and it certainly was not because I couldn’t see the infj’s value. I would do anything to hear from my favorite person again, I don’t know what to do . I think I was too suffocating in trying to be there for them, and selfish in how I approached communication, not allowing them the space they needed . All I want is to speak to her again

[akferren]

I’ve door slammed and I’ve closed the door gently.. really depends on the energy I get from the person.. either way it’s a level of moving onward and upward and it’s never personal..it’s just who I am

[daiannehofig]

This video was such a eye-opening!!! Many thanks for sharing this kind of information! 👍🏻

[trevorvaz]

Some of my more spiritual life coaches cover topics such as “intuition can imagination”. In these topics they talk about if we are picking up on a deeper meaning or imagining it.

I think it would be so interesting if uou could do the INFJ version of this topic!

[vivianeprudentiabuelens]

The MYERR BRiGGSE TYPES THE INFG 6:50 😊

[eminemstrash]

When an infj says, "they didnt show you the respect you deserve", what precisely does this mean?

[bobevans]

Why infjs just jumps to conclusion, I am infj I know it is good thing but it also has cons like what if we have some minor issues of some health problem but we jumps to conclusions by seeing the symptoms that it can be major and due to this we overthink & can leads to anxiety for no reason how to handle those moments?

[MylesKillis]

I think I might be an Anxious or fearful INfj, it could be because I looked up to anxious people, so I've had a problem door slamming. Instead i troll them so they leave me.

[banyanya]

Is it the same between door slam and silent treatment?