Son backs out of DNR

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[chrisb]

"No take backs". Can't argue with that.

[im_just_vidu]

It's always the "never visited once" ones that pops up out of nowhere

[stephanien]

This is just SO true. The random relative who hasn’t cared enough to visit shows up to try to reverse a decision the patient themselves made to assuage their own feelings. Wow.

[lexo]

107 years old. He was so young. Still had so much to live for

[wkeyser]

I was in the son’s place almost 10yrs ago. Very emotional, and blind to the facts I didn’t want to face. The staff at the hospital helped a great deal to align my perspective and respect my father’s wishes. To this day I cannot express how grateful I am for that. If we choose nothing else in this life, we should be able to choose how we go if circumstances dictate that is possible.

[GAshoneybear]

It's always the ones who aren't around...

[beccaturner]

“Someone at the Nursing home will” Got me 😂

[nicol]

My mom had a DNR and she made damn sure we knew and would respect it. She had copies of it everywhere. When she passed and we went through all her stuff I bet we found at least 15 of them in purses and pockets and drawers. Why would anyone disrespect someone else’s wishes?

[kelly]

You just gave every palliative nurse a small ptsd flashback lol.

[Kirbyterasu]

"in 8 years" mf didn't even show up to the 100th birthday, he FAAAKE

[yolipurpleflower]

"Sir, your dad is 107 years old" 😆🤣🤣🤣

[eep]

I know it's humor, but it's SO spot on!!! I was my grandpa's caregiver for the last 3 yrs of his life. My aunt & I would take turns every 3 months. Pop CONSTANTLY said he hated taking us away from our families & ultimately, he decided to stop ALL of his meds. He has severe COPD & his leg had been amputated about 2 yrs prior. He felt like he was done, especially after losing my grandma 3 yrs ago. My aunt was fine with it, but I was devastated. He did treat us differently bc she was his daughter & I was his grandchild. I have several health issues myself - Lupus, Ehlers Danlos, AuDHD. The last month of his life, I wasn't able to speak to him bc I was hospitalized for 8 days & was still very ill when I got out. I was also struggling to accept his choice & didn't know what to say to him if I decided to call. I didn't want to sit there crying to him bc I understood his reasons. He was the greatest man I've ever known & I miss him dearly. It's not easy to accept someone else's decision, but it must be respected if you value that person.

[giaquarian]

My brother called me “evil” for having to make the decision. You nailed it

[tigernotwoods]

On a serious note, I totally understand what it is to make the decision that the person truly wants.

This hits close to home because I was 17 and my grandmother was in the hospital. She was more or less incapacitated and they asked me what to do and I remember she told me for years when it’s her time to go it’s her time to go and let her go and that’s what I told the staff so they kept her comfortable and she was still sort of there and my mother shows up freaking out. She goes in there they talk and well they didn’t talk, but somehow my mom finally accepted it and that’s what it was and not long after that, she finally kicked the bucket.

And as lucky I was the one that arrived with the ambulance because if it was my mother, she would’ve had her on life-support and machines, and just suffering for no reason which is just cruel

[lynnzubich]

My Dad had a DNR. We got the grandkids together, 5 kids going from 7-4. They were climbing over "Papa" for a couple hours then were taken home. My Mom & us 4 kids stayed by his side till the end. I was holding his hand when he passed.

[jenquinn]

My grandmother passed at 99 back in September, she made it clear for years she did not want to live on life support and had a DNR, the whole family knew. It broke my heart when she passed but she went peacefully in her sleep. I remember the first time she told me about the DNR and I was telling her it upset me because I didn't want to loose her if she had a chance, and she told me "when God decides to bring me home let me go be with my heavenly Father". I couldn't argue with that.

[debbiecrosno]

Omg. Had that happen so many times. One family demanded we cancel a DNR and do full heroic measures on a 97 year old nonresponsive skeleton. The Dr that responded to the code said " God will send me to hell for putting this man on a respirator. "

[slytherinsato]

I honestly wish more people talked about quality of life. My dad passed away from cancer and based on the info we were given, he had incredibly invasive spinal surgery to prevent him from becoming unable to walk, only for us to be told after the surgery that he had a seizure and we should look into hospice. He barely survived 3 months after the surgery and spent his last Father’s Day alive in excruciating pain. He never walked again anyways. If we’d been informed about the risks to his quality of life, we would have made different decisions and he wouldn’t have been in as much pain in the end. Rest in peace daddy ❤

[avemaria]

"of course not someone at the nursing home will" absolutely blew my mind

[DaughterofGod]

“Of course not, someone at the nursing home will.” My favorite line lol so accurate.