FEAR of FAILURE

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[fjalaguwinda]

I struggle the most with procrastination because of the fear to fail.

[TechRambles]

It's always very difficult for me start/continue new projects due to fear of failure. I often feel if it can't be perfect (or as soon as I hit a problem), then what's the point of continuing working on it.

[vtsnowangel]

I get anxious when a co-worker wants to speak to me because I worry that I did something wrong. I hate annual review time because, in my mind, it's the perfect time for my boss to tell me what a horrible job I'm doing.

[superreverbfreak]

My fear of failure leaves me paralyzed and then I self destruct through anxiety due to the fact I was paralyzed

[lahdeedah]

I think fear of failure is closely tied with ADHD especially for me at least. Because it is so difficult to start and finish tasks and also some tasks seem easy but most of us get tied up with small steps that we aren't sure about so it stops us from doing the task at all which is extremely frustrating and can easily get overwhelming. So we end up not doing things because there could be parts that we feel we won't be able to do.

[lindafromidaho]

I left my last job because my "perfectionism" got so bad, I couldn't meet my own standards and my work production was so low that I was constantly in trouble. It is terrifying to think of going back to work and my anxiety and panic attacks often keep me stuck at home. I've also been diagnosed with AvPD. The combination along with chronic migraines is debilitating!! Thanks Kati!

[ycniuqroachie]

I struggle with this, massively. My therapist said that my General Anxiety's main core is an irrational fear of failing. Symptoms I have is an immobilizing mind-set. If I get anxious over an essay, for example, because I have a fear it won't be good or won't get a good grade, I can't even start the essay because I'm too afraid of making the steps. Also, as far as more physical symptoms go, I do feel incredibly tense and my stomach goes into knots, as I skip to the worst case-scenario before even attempting it. Thanks for the video.

[tapsandtomesasmrambience]

I will sit on the couch, knowing I have this or this or this or this to do--even simple stuff like doing the dishes--and plan it all out but never doing it, because I am so stressed out about not doing it perfectly. I can never get started. And because I never start, I obsess about the not starting and that in itself is a failure. It's just a snowball from there. My kitchen gets dirtier and it's just a reminder about how much I am failing, but the dirtier it gets, the harder it is for me to tackle.

This is just one example, but the daily one I deal with.

[jeannetten.whalen]

I struggle with failure. I also have low self esteem as well. I'm starting to see a therapist.

[tompalmer]

I think one way atycaphobia manifests itself is when a person faces a daunting task he or she doesn't try. I've heard that disadvantaged kids tend not to try when they take standardized tests. That way, if they don't do well they can say they weren't trying. I do the same thing in different circumstances.

[Charlie-nglc]

I struggle with this a lot. My parents have put a lot of pressure on me to do well in school and I have disappointed them so many times that I developed that phobia. I'm working on it though. It's gotten a lot better

[cora]

This has been one of the largest barriers for me to try and get over.. it haunts me every day! I'm trying to recover from Borderline personality, depression, and anxiety but the fear of "failing my recovery" holds me back. I have very VERY unssuportive, dissaproving, unloving parents which I believed held me back from a lot of things and left me predisposed to this mental illness.. I'm fortunate to be 18 and not be in that environment anymore but I'm still so afraid. I love you Kati & you've given me the courage to seek help and fight for myself & fight my own illness (I found your channel about 2 years ago). I have a long way to go but I've come so so far. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

[klararosengren]

I thought for a long time that the fear of failure sounded utterly *ridiculous*, but not long ago, I realized that this fear has been holding me back from experiencing happiness pretty much all my life.

[Gruggo]

I procrastinate a lot, and I find I want to do and learn everything on my own, as long as I have instructions, but when it starts getting hard I tend to give up, so I think I have a fear of failing if I try to hard

[fluffydelberg]

i'm still in college, and i scared to get a bad grade when graduate... and i'm scared that no companies will hire me if my grades are bad. and i will think that i will live alone and ARGGHHHH forever alone and no income to living

[linny]

i always think that i am too stupid etc. for a job and won't be able to do it. like, anything. so i am really afraid of leaving school in half a year

[crazyHaruLa]

I am so grateful for your channel! I am 25 and I failed my driving test the second time. I am so afraid to fail again.. I cannot afford a fourth driving test! This is my biggest nightmare, I get night sweats, palpitations and I feel so depressed the past few weeks. Its drowning me and I can't even look my parents in the eyes because of it. It feels like I am the failure of the year...

[geniame]

Perfect timing. I have a test tomorrow and I'm avoiding studying cause I'm afraid of failing the test.
BTW, I can't stop listening to the lama song

[mineola_]

I relate most to the self sabotage/avoidance part of fear of failure; it ties in perfectly with my avoidant personality disorder. Usually I try to force myself to do it anyway, but I also have periods of time where I just can't. It's tough, because it takes so much energy to fight it every day.

[mareikeschaufele]

I haven't even watched the video yet, but the comments are so relatable. Fear of failute and therefore being rejected is my biggest fear which is almost taking over my life