Normal Gay Sexual Behavior vs Sex Addiction

This is a short video (about 5 minutes) featuring noted sex and intimacy expert Dr. Robert Weiss discussing the difference between normal gay sexual activity and sexual addiction. It's roughly cut from raw footage in a much longer interview, so please pardon the timeline running at the bottom of the image.

[plaguedoctork]

thanks dr for this informative video. the hookup culture is super normalized in the gay community it became the norm.

[jasonbarney]

I wish you, Dr. Weiss, could answer this question: what if the person only has anonymous sexual experiences while they are under the influence of things like meth, G, Coke, etc etc.?? And what if while they’re in that drug-fueled moment, they truly do believe that they are passionately connected through intimacy and even love? During my meth, etc addiction, I used to feel like I was deeply in love with some of my sexual partners. I used to channel words telepathically into their minds while staring deeply into their soul, words like “I love you, I love you so much, I love you baby. Don’t ever stop loving me.” Etc etc. And I would WEEP when I would come down, end the binge, and surrender that I had to stop at least for a while because it meant that it wasn’t real. Were those feelings genuine or merely a chemical cocktail? And, is it okay that I desire to have that level of closeness and passion that can only exist in a chemical Hurricane?

[justifymylove]

Thank you for the work that you do. Very inspiring and motivating. I feel hopeful.

[ihutbe]

Was SA when i was 13 in 1981. My ex bro in law. It was awful. I identify as gay. I looked at porn in 1979 but always looked at straight porn and some gay porn. i spent lots of money on videos and magazines. I did cruising for 15 years. I was a bottom practicing bareback sex. I did get tested negative. I just had some awakening to stop the porn a week ago and its helped a lot. As for cruising for anonymous one night sex I hadnt done that for many years. Do i still think about that? Yes but acting on it no. I am almost 60 and just have the desire to do it anymore. I blame porn for my sex addiction. Most likely being SA didnt help but been getting help overcoming it by therapy (cognitive) made me stronger. I dont miss it. I feel now that love does not mean sex. Some gay men were pushed into this mentality of the perfect man partner which gay porn has pushed onto men you have to be hot, well endowed, muscular or slim, masculine or mainly white. Gay non porn mags are the same way. Tv shows are to portray that image. I just done with that thinking . I am not perfect and I am glad i am not . Perfection in appearance is sadly dominating gay men in all forms. Thank goods my mind is getting much better

[leeboriack]

Appreciate the quality content, but the counter was distracting to your excellent presentation.

[MM-emkw]

Is there a difference between being sexually compulsive and being a sex addict? I think I need to get your book.

[TheGigantium]

To each his own. Sex is important and delicious in a relationship but I'm not the type who is so addicted to it that he flutters from flower to flower just to satisfy his insatiable lust. I'm not saying this in a derogatory way to others, it's just not my cup of tea.

[TwinFalls]

It's really sad that many gay men use drugs and sex to cope with traumas instead of processing it in a healthier way.
HIV, Syphilis, and Mpox will be teachers to the community. Eventually the tide will turn due to these - in a healthier more supportive direction.
Otherwise, if a man isn't going to give me commitment and why shouldn't I go for a woman instead ?

[paulmartin]

Love you Robert 😍 💗 💓 your gorgeous 😍 ❤️ 😘 ♥️ 💕beautiful 😍

[caspaabriel]

There are more and more of these opinions popping up all over YT. Just when much of mainstream society (heterosexuals) have become way more excepting of out Gay Community. Indeed on the threshold of really understanding our beautiful gayness. Then comes along the saboteurs, gay themselves! People who have become so mind twisted. That when these people are treated with respect, understanding and dare I say admiration. Firstly they are really nicely surprised. But as time goes on their minds twisted by years, some a lifetime of put downs and out'n'out abuse. These poor people begin to emotionally self flagellate. Deep in the mind twisted, the depths of their sub-conscience is a refusal of their gayness. In this particular circumstance, it's the gay Sex Addict. Guys it's ok to love ourselves. Don't listen to these self flagellating saboteurs! Kiwi Caspar

[shakilchy]

Your advise is usekess whon the religion is naked ness .so came in alife of arner of love of creator &therforcome a nonnakedness religoin . Its oly one religion it's islaam. So ciome in islaam