5 Things to Avoid in Dementia Care

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Welcome to the place where I share dementia tips, strategies, and information for family members caring for a loved one with any type of dementia (such as Alzheimer's disease, Lewy Body dementia, vascular dementia, frontotemporal dementia, etc.)

In today’s video I share how 5 common caregiving mistakes are hurting your relationship AND making it more difficult for the person with dementia to accept any of your help. Let’s start making changes starting today.

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In case you haven’t met me, my name is Natali Edmonds and I am a board certified geropsychologist. That means that I am a clinical psychologist who specializes in working with older adults. One day, while hiking a trail, I came up with the idea for Careblazers and I decided to see if posting videos online could provide help to the many other Careblazers in the world who don’t get to have help come directly to them in their homes. I hope that this work helps you in some way on your caregiving journey.
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1. Reminding them of their dementia struggle.
2. Highlighting their need for help.
3. Taking over the entire area (over caring)
4. Making everything about caregiving.
5. Correcting when it is not necessary.

nessieness
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This is so perfect. My husband said to me one day, “You talk to me like I’m stupid.” 😢

ritagraham
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We are fortunate to have a geriatric doctor for my husband. He has been invaluable to me as a caretaker, and to my husband. His advice is to “keep it simple” and don’t argue with him. It really works well. This geriatric practice is amazing. Appointments are on time and are not rushed. The practice also includes a Doctor of pharmaceuticals and a social worker.

linhaton
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My mom is 96, bedbound with dementia. I have been living with her over 10 years, but it was 3 1/2 years ago that she nearly died from sepsis - twice. Since then, I am her full-time caregiver. We do have home care that comes in twice a day to bathe and change her (she has a catheter), but everything else falls to me. I look after the house and the finances, cooking etc. She hardly talks to me at all anymore, but when home care is here, she talks up a storm with them. I'll admit, it definitely hurts, but the girls tell me quite a few of their clients have the same problem. Mom has lost all of her empathy as well. Hardly ever hear her laugh anymore :( I look forward to the Relationship Revival videos, because Mom and I have been best friends, and I'd love to get back to that!

jojomart
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#2 My biggest mistake. I am constantly telling my mom to do this that and the other to keep her safe. She does get frustrated with me; I felt like I was treating her like a toddler, but didn't realize that this was actually damaging us. She didn't like it, "I am a grown woman and can do what I want" . Boy, I really have to learn to keep it to myself.

ldbagwell
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1 month later. She is quieter about all help I give her. It seems that as I work through the tough times for her, kindly and slowly, she has calmed hugely. Seeing through her eyes
as best I can has helped immensely. You mentioned somewhere about being slower and patient takes less time overall to complete a difficult task. That works perfectly, just takes a few days sometimes for it to settle in with her, a routine for everything.

orthodudeness
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"Connection before Correction". It's what I teach in parenting courses! Makes sense to me!

shawizz
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Probably the best advice my daughter gave me: Dad, mom will debate you for over 2 1/2 hours on a subject thar she can not remember more that 15 minutes. Why you you waste your time as she will not remember your point / logic.

TheDWZemke
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Absolutely love your advice. Spot on. Looking after my mother has been the most challenging experience of my life.

tinagomes
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Precisely. Great talk Dr Natali!
Linda's regression is at a point that, when doing something that she has now decided she doesn't like, showering, changing the undergarments for example.
I find that if I keep TALKING to her and keep the action of what we are doing GOING FORWARD (a little or lot sideways) she does cooperate slowly.
All while yelling to be left alone.

As in, she will lift a foot for dressing, all while she is loudly complaining and verbally refusing, sometimes smacking me, amazing.
She viciously verbally complains, but her actions are compliance.
I just have to be slow and keep talking about what we are doing, all while she is fighting and complying at the same time!

orthodudeness
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I really don’t know how I would be coping without your valuable advice and guidance…. 🙏🙏🙏

francoforleo
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In this now with both parents and learning so much from you!! Thank you !! It will definitely help to keep these things in mind . I’m wanting them to enjoy their time and they’re coming up on 65 yrs together! My dad, almost 90, always says “We’re still having fun!”. Such a great attitude and it helps me in this time with them .

fancyfiddler
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This video was the most helpful after all these years in understanding my struggle with memory loss. I have the same triggers as dementia. I have finally been able to bring the emotion down to observe. Now, you just summarized what I have been observing that I could not articulate is going wrong with getting anyone to understand, believe or even take serious anything I say.

SycodelicMaleVEVO
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Natali Your site is a lifesaver. You videos are so practical . I can't thank you enough to the things I've learned.

FYI, I tried to download the survival guide and the link took me to a program to increase sales.

catroy
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The irony is i watched my mom treat my dad poorly sometimes just oit of frustration and lack of knowledge. He had dementia for years . Now im caring for mom in the beginning stages of her cognitive issues. Im hyper aware of not doing these things but it is difficult. Was glad i watched their intetactions thpugh. Learned alot!

jennyrosd
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You were so right, spot-on and correct about that statement, "from your perspective...". 5:24 We always, mostly, think we're perfect in everything we're trying to do for our loved ones. But like you said, look at things from their pov.

Sebastianmaz
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Thanks! Be safe Doc, we hold you up in our hearts.

orthodudeness
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I haven't been watching the videos recently and have been making all the mistakes yet again and ended up feeling exhausted and depressed. Your advice is so very logical and practical. I feel understood when I listen to you and I am inspired and motivated to try again. Thank you!

carolbuckle
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My husband and I have made most of these mistakes nor realizing they were causing pain. THANK YOU for enlightening us; we hope to improve my mom's life and ours moving forward!

christinep
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This was good I needed to hear this. It will help me with my husband. I Have been wrong in some of these areas.
Now I will do better.
It's been hard sometimes.
This really will help .
Thank you.

patriciasmith