How to Stand Up for Yourself

You want to advocate for yourself more.

But you’re not sure how to do that.

You know you deserve to be heard, but finding the right words—and the confidence to say them—can be tough.

In this episode, I’ll show you 3 simple strategies to stand up for yourself.

Plus, I’ll reveal how to choose your battles wisely, the power of dropping disclaimers, and how to say “no” without feeling the need to justify it.

These strategies will help you assert your worth, set clear boundaries, and navigate difficult conversations with confidence.

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[Ellie-Mae]

"Just because they spew out garbage does not mean you are in the business of picking up trash." Wise and beautifully well spoken.
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[Jamie-mn]

‘Stop attending every argument you’re invited to’. Yes!!

[suzannemorrow]

At 64, I realize that I’ve fallen into a place where I’m covered in peoples trash a lot. Thank you for pointing this out. Your help is very appreciated!

[wisedame]

"No, because it's not what's best for me right now." - Perfect! Thank you.

[arlambertz]

It took me months to gather the courage, and I said no to a request to take on someone else's tasks at work...WHEW!

[mermiefasmart]

Where were you when I needed this advice fifty years ago ?

[alaana]

I am provoked everyday at work by gang of toxic co workers and I don't respond to them. This makes them crazy 😅 and I love it

[jilldickson]

My dear daughter has me believe I’m not a nice person duh? I’m a people pleaser who loathes arguments and I care deeply. I will now learn to be me. Thank you young man love your direction. ❤

[MrMcdonald]

I love that statement about not attending every argument. Perfect.

[NanaWilson-pxij]

"Letting the pitch go by" is a great way to take the energy down from a narcissist.

[shelleydevries]

I appreciate how you give me actual words to use in difficult situations

[Rdkhk]

I've been the
" Disclaimer Queen" all my life & at 57, I'm finally done. Not only does it make me look weak, but it's so emotionally draining!
I really appreciate all your videos! Thank you

[ellenlebow]

You get the 5 star satisfaction award for cutting to the chase, using normal language and above all, telling us what we can literally DO in a present moment to change a trajectory, rather than getting mired in too much of the psychology behind it as if that understanding was enough.

[BAJ]

Oooo! I like the “It’s not what’s best for me right now.” 🤯👏🏻

[susanphend]

Jefferson, you’re incredible in the very best way. So many people are raised with the mindset that their role is to please others. I certainly was. Saying no is a right. Thank you for reinforcing that.

[zandanforth]

This is off topic but I have A D D . I’m 66 and am finding that I can learn great stuff from the younger generation. Maybe we have done our jobs in a more spiritual term rather than material. This is what the new THE AMERICAN DREAM looks like.
What good is owning your own home if you don’t have friends and family to fill it? Thank goodness they (our children) are better than us. MY LIFE WOULD HAVE BEEN SO DIFFERENT IF I COULD HAVE COMMUNICATED my boundaries without having to wait until the moment of implosion. I love my peeps but I don’t want to be walked on and didn’t get the tools growing up. So I’ll keep liking you, and you keep teaching ME how to be BETTER for the next generation. Thank you for the hard work.

[grjoqbl]

Carli brings up a good point. Women are expected to be compliant, so we're always questioned when we say no

[robinvanroyen]

Here's a topic suggestion : How to deal with someone (close) who talks too much, all the time, about his own interests, so someone who is not really making an effort to create a real conversation or connection. Thanks a lot for your great content 🙂👍👍

[olgaaskenaziabady]

You are kind and gentle, and a great teacher and role model.Being kind does not make you a doormat. Truly assertive without anger, aggressiveness.. perfect

[janetebonanno]

I love the No is a complete sentence. That phrase also works to shut down the why.