How To Stop Chasing Men and Master Detachment

How To Stop Chasing Men and Master Detachment

In this video, I dive into the art of master detachment in your love life. Whether single or dating, learning to trust your journey and avoid becoming overly attached to one person can transform your relationships. I’ll guide you through stopping the cycle of obsessing over a man, understanding the real reasons behind why we chase, and the importance of trusting the process.

CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction
00:48 Master Detachment Tips 01
02:42 Quick Dating Advice for Women
03:20 Master Detachment Tips 02
05:13 Master Detachment Tips 03
07:39 Conclusion

We'll also explore embracing your worth without seeking validation from others, shifting your mindset from seeking approval to feeling confident in your value. I’ll share practical tips on recognizing when you're chasing and pivoting toward a more empowered approach. If you’re ready to become a woman who attracts rather than chases, this video is for you.

Detachment is not about becoming emotionless or cold; it’s about finding inner peace and trusting your journey. When you become overly attached, you often anxiously await text messages, question your partner’s feelings, or feel confused and stuck. This is where detachment comes in. By understanding and practicing detachment, you’ll learn to attract rather than chase, leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

1. The Outcome You're Chasing
When you're obsessing over a man, it usually stems from a desire for a specific outcome. Maybe you’re waiting for him to be consistent, loyal, or to express his love more clearly. But what you're really seeking is peace. Remember when you were a child—did you worry about your love life? Probably not. You were present, enjoying each moment.

2. What Are You Lacking?
If you’re chasing a man, it’s often because you believe he possesses something you’re missing. This mindset places him in a higher position, giving away your personal power. Instead, focus on feeling complete within yourself. The qualities you admire in others often reflect your inner qualities. Detachment means acknowledging your worth and not seeking validation from external sources. It’s about accepting yourself and recognizing their loss if someone doesn’t see your value.

3. Trust The Journey
A powerful quote to remember is: “You’re here to experience life, not to control it.” Trusting the journey involves accepting life as it unfolds and understanding that every experience, whether positive or negative, serves a purpose. Reflect on past heartbreaks—what lessons did they teach you? Instead of focusing on controlling outcomes, embrace the lessons and trust that you’re on the right path.

A compelling poem by Portia Nelson titled “Autobiography in Five Chapters” illustrates this perfectly. It describes how we often repeat our mistakes until we learn to navigate around them. The essence is that by understanding our patterns and consciously choosing a different path, we can achieve growth and new experiences.

Ismael Gomez III
I'm a Cuban - American Relationship Coach, Author, and Speaker.

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[SaveTheMessenger]

Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel.
It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.

[janewasson]

My g ma told me to never chase men, or worry about them, when you can bet they're not worrying about you. Don't obsess about him. If he's worth your love and time, you won't have to worry or obsess. Don't be needy-a major turn off- or rush a relationship. Ever heard of love bombing? Keep your dignity, self respect, be busy, and a little distant. Men love the chase, but don't value an easily won prize. He'll show you who he is or isn't. Date long enough so you'll know how he'll act in any given situation. This is for gals of all ages. Times change, but people don't. And ladies: keep adding to that run fund l told you about, and SHUT UP about it. Be captain of your own ship! (With only your name on the deed!!) ❤️

[CarolSteinfeld]

"No one is inherently special. Only your mind makes it so." Brilliant

[warriorprincess]

"You are here to experience life and not to control it" so wise.

[mamaecha-nw]

love the quote " you're here to experience life, not to control it"

[SunriseAspirant]

The best video that I found on YouTube
"The love that you notice in other people is the mirror of the love that you hold within yourself"
Best line ❤

[lsp]

I am currently learning this very lesson! I get soooo obsessed and attached to certain men I have met online. I am 74 and just getting this! You are a great mentor, thank you. Better to learn it now than never. I have been married 3 times! I now know I will never be “anxiously attached” again. How freeing is that ! ❤

[ptyh]

He is right. That's the only thing I focus on when I broke up with my ex boyfriend. It was very hard but I made it through by emotionally detaching myself from him and stopped thinking about the past with him. Told myself I could be happy without him. Attachment is our worst enemy in relationship. I also have learned you can't control or change anyone but yourself

[krissyaguilar]

The first man I ever chased made me feel so much pain, but it was a great lesson to never ever beg anyone to stay in my life

[deec]

I was looking for love for years and settled for poor treatment until I worked on myself, my traumas and finally learned to love myself, good and bad. we are only human. Only God is perfect. When I met my boyfriend, I didn't need anyone to make me happy. I am happy with or without him and he knows that. he treats me like wonderfully and we're very happy. I wish you the same. Peace and God Bless ✨🙏🏻✨

[shahana_sachu]

No one is inherently special.only your Mind make them so.The light you see in him that sense of uniqueness is really your own qualities being reflected back at you
I Love this ❤️

[Jacobet-en]

My elder sister once told me not to chase a man and not to attract his attention, because the more I chase him the more he play around with my feelings😢

[komalshah]

God wanted to solve my problem so this video popped up in front of me … thank you god and thank you sir … it’s must needed video for me …..

[mimifineliving]

I have never sat down with notebook and pen before this is so far the best advice i have come across on the Internet

[colap]

As a deeply spiritual woman, myself, not religious, I very much appreciated this video as it was the first one I’ve seen from this creator I have now subscribed

[millievanillie]

easier said than done! when you been starving for love your whole life and rejected in all aspects .... then you become undesired even more. It's The sad irony in life. At least the dogs seems to like to hang out with me. Thank God for that 💖

[Xianne]

I'm 61 and every man that I thought was God's honest gift ended up disappointing, devastating or almost destroying me. But I finally realized, it was my choice to put them on the pedestals.

The most recent one, a famous inspiring leader in my country, ended up just annoying me though until I thought, "Jeez, if his followers only knew how childishly ridiculous he can be in person..."
...and I walked around this hole and started down another street.
And I don't think I'm going to fall in any holes again.

[marcelacasas]

Never again will I let myself get obsessed or anxiously attached to a man. I made that mistake in my last relationship. Was in love together five years.He was 67 I was 64 . After a year or less he changed and become on and off hot and cold. When he went silent treatments and block me I had so much anxiety. He cheated a few yrs later and pleaded with tears to stay with him just for him to repeat his cycle finally this June he ghosted me fo a month and popped up on July 28 to talk. By then I didn't have a desire go talk and left, walked away. I had always accepted him back but this yime I didn't feel the same for him and will never reconcile. He put me through much misery insomnia anxiety. I enjoyed your videy just now. Will take your insights go heart. Lesson learned. Waiting on a healing and not interested in dating at this time.

[kira.]

Thank you dear young man. Iam literally crying while watching this. From last 8 months iam having anxiety attack, low self esteem, self doubt and many more beacuse I put him on the higher position than me.But in your video you cleared all the things. Thank you for this eye opener massage.😇🥰♥️

[kimbednar]

You understand men, but you also understand there is a journey and life out there which is the purpose of life. I am 64 years old and newly widowed. Instead of looking for a relationship your videos encourage me to enjoy life like a child again. Become whole within myself instead of desperately finding a replacement for my dead mate. You are a sweet little booger! Keep up the good work!❤