How to be happier and more positive in life...

I get asked all of the time as a therapist about how to change your life. How to build a better a life for yourself. How to find happiness and joy in a life that may feel dreary or mundane. How to be more positive and look forward to things more. Or how to just feel more excited about everyday. We don't have to change our lives to find joy and happiness, we likely need to change how we approach life.

This video I'm diving deeper into how to be happy in life and how to be happier and more positive in general - whether you're by yourself and alone or with friends and family. So if you want to be more productive and happier and excited and enthusiastic about life and your daily life then these happiness and positivity tips will help you live a more satisfied and happy life. What other things work for you to feel more excited and happy in your life?

0:00 Introduction
0:16 what kind of change we want in our lives
1:02 SOLUTION FOCUSED THERAPY
1:26 Miracle Question
2:47 Journaling
5:52 It's always okay to say "I DON'T KNOW"
7:27 Allow yourself to think outside the box MY BOOKS (in stores now)

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[ZAB_Nailz]

To answer the “miracle question”: I’d be able to pay bills, my hierarchy of needs would be met, I wouldn’t have negative self talk, I wouldn’t have woken up in pain or after a night terror, I wouldn’t have anxious or depressed thoughts, I’d have energy to take on the day (I’d have more spoons), I’d have a comfortable amount of money in the bank and food in the fridge.

[addy]

Kati, your personal vulnerability is so helpful in helping others cope with their own. Please look after yourself. We completely understand and appreciate you. Also, PLEASE know that you are helping many thousands of people trying to work through some very difficult times.

[tathyholmanzi]

I love the idea of "its okay to be jealous sometimes" because I REALLY blame myself when I feel it. Fun fact: my therapist went on vacation and I was in fact feeling kinda jealous of her because of the traveling and relaxing and self care and the way that she always seem so bright, and I thought to myself yeah I could like feeling that someday. But I still didnt Tell her I was jealous because I'm afraid of misundertandings.😅

Thanks Kati, always helpful ♥️
Also, take care y'all. We're in this together.

[Max-hsuv]

A while ago, I wasn't feeling the best so I wrote down every single thing that I'm not satisfied with and wrote a possible solution to each problem. Turns out it's just simple things I had to do. I always remind myself that it's better to complain from slow progress than complain about no progress at all. Right now, I'm better than before. In fact, couple of days ago someone acknowledged my effort and said I had a good positive change which made me even more motivated to keep pushing through.

[raggedbreath]

You've been here through at least two of the three times I have dropped back into depression... I really appreciate you uploading and giving perspectives to help us through the low times.

[raggedbreath]

I have made a big change recently: I slipped back into depression after a big booze binge which came after a period of high stress and not looking after my health. The binge was part of the wider landscape of my mental health but it was also the thing that catapulted me into the depressive episode. My change is that I have just turned 40 and I am deciding that my mental and physical health is my priority from here on out. Alcohol will not feature as a significant part of my life any longer and I need to make sure I look after my body and brain to make sure it is able to function as well as possible, long into old age!

[deema_]

Recently I started practicing positive self-talk and self-encouragement. I noticed how indirectly this helps my mentality in general, especially in hard times.

[ajw.]

With therapy and A LOT of help from your videos, the past couple of weeks I've been working on being less passive aggressive and more assertive. It's really scary and I've had a few very challenging conversations. At the end of each one, regardless of the outcome, I have been so proud of myself for doing it- standing up for myself - saying what I needed to say - getting my feelings/point across. Thank you Kati.

[deema_]

Recently I started positive self-talk and self-encouraging. I can really tell how this helps my mentality, especially in hard times where I used to be self-blaming and criticizing.

[Bookthoughts]

I like what you mentioned about your therapy style because it reminds me of teaching. We often pick and choose from each of the main teaching philosophies to form our own teaching philosophy. :)

[maypap]

Most days, journaling is the last thing I want to do. Even when I try, it's like the words just don't flow, like something in my mind is blocking them. However, I will say that I had a terrible day yesterday, and this morning I watched this video and decided to try journaling again. I think because I was so overwhelmed with confusion and pain, I couldn't block myself the way I normally do, I was just so desperate for relief. and I FOUND it. I journaled and for the first time, I didn't think about saying the right thing or wrong thing. I feel amazing, Kati. You're so right about the power of journaling. I finally see it now. It's not that it takes away the pain, but it creates space in our mind so that we're not so tangled up by it. Just wonderful.

[TammyCao-jz]

You also have to realize is that happiness is different for everyone; it’s a different feeling for everyone; and you have to be realistic about it too

[msxeunybunxy]

I appreciate everyone's comments below. We are all on a journey, and it seems like some people may have it harder than others. However, everyone's feelings and experiences are valid.

I'm in my first semester of graduate school. My goal is to finish my paper by next Tuesday. I got a bunch of sources, I am trying to find quotes and place them in the paper before I start typing my paper. I would like to send it off to the writing center on Tuesday and turn in my paper on Thursday night.

I have a lot of work that needs to be done before now and then. I still have other assignments. I kind of wish I requested off from work this weekend! Wish me the best of luck!

[Kedzie_]

Folks, if you're here, you either are struggling or have struggled. If you're having a time, I get it, right there with you, but we got this.

[kryssysmith]

I literally bring my journal into my therapy sessions, that's the only way my counsellor knows that I can talk to her without getting off track of the topic. Journaling is my only way of speaking (I have a hard time verbalizing things), so journaling makes it that much easier. I can just put all the EPIPHANIES, all the INTROSPECT/RETROSPECT ideas (and thoughts) I have on paper and put the book away and not have to look at it again. Then once the problem is down on paper for me it's OUT of sight OUT of mind so it's not nagging me as much. I love journaling.

[BroonParker]

A lot to think about here, and your account of journalling rather matches what I have done in the past from time to time, which is reassuring. This emphasis on there being no "one size fits all" answers which you bring to these issues is refreshing.
Your videos are knocking it out of the park as far as I am concerned at the moment Kati. Thank you.

[moazph]

I have a bad tooth pain now and happiness for me is just not having this pain again

[davidsisson]

My parents were very toxic, abusive. So I have to work hard to try to be one happy. Sometimes I over compensate. And also has caused self esteem and confidence issues. These videos are helpful.

[blousug]

This is what I don’t like about these sort of questions: most people have this notion that if I do XYZ, I will be happy. If I have kids or a spouse, I would be happy. If I was thinner, I would be happy. If I was more successful, I would be happy. If wasn’t in pain, I would be happy. Well, we end up obtaining those things, and we still aren’t happy! True happiness comes from self awareness. Realizing that we can be happy at any give moment because we are present for the now. Mindfulness has really opened my eyes to excepting that the perfect moment that I so desperately was clinging to, will most likely never be a reality. So why not except that this is my perfect moment, right here. I am whole.

[LouveniaMusic]

The Artist’s Way changed my life for the better back in 2016! Such a good program.