Less Self Abandonment More Self Love NOW - Terri Cole

Do you identify as someone who is a kind and generous person? Does that sometimes mean you prioritize other people's wants, needs, and desires above your own?

It is possible to be kind and generous without self-abandoning! In this episode, you’ll learn why we do this plus the most common signs you might be self-abandoning, so you can up your self-love and begin to take better care of yourself (because you deserve it).

Time stamps:
0:00 - Intro
2:04 - Digging into the question: do you trust yourself?
3:56 - How your childhood relational patterns might still be negatively impacting you today
6:00 - What are the things happening in your life that can indicate you're self-abandoning?
11:23 - An example of how a client betrayed her own values and self-abandoned
13:45 - How to reestablish or establish a healthy, loving, vibrant relationship with yourself

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Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

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[birdie]

Finally not abandoning my needs this summer, Terri. Said NO to a family vacation, the same family vacation with my family of origin every summer that leaves me feeling anxious, stressed, exhausted, and in need of another vacation from the drama of that vacation! Finally setting limits, creating boundaries and sticking to them. Staying home alone with silence and peace is the vacation I need more than anything. Joy. Breathing a sigh of relief. Thank you, Terri. ❤️

[sheryltan]

“Feeling unworthy of self care”. That truly opened the flood gates for me😭I grew up with very little emotional engagement and I can see how that has now manifested in me as an adult - and I am working to improve all that. Terri, thank u so much for putting out these amazing videos! You and your book are a HUGE part of my journey to a better me!! Much love from Malaysia!❤️

[Bushrasew]

I’m just so angry about my past and people who hurt me like my mother throwing her problems on me I’m 30 I feel I didn’t do any thing in my life, and I just can’t believe in happiness 😢

[lunamaru]

Thank you so much. I really feel for the first time, understood and I have a tingling feeling of faith ✨

[journeylaws]

I completely put myself and my dreams on the back burner and didn't realize it till it was to late. By the time I realized what I d I did, I felt like it was too late.
Thank you for this video ❤❤❤

[amarie]

This has been me for so long, and I am dissatisfied with my relationships and certain things in life. I am learning and trying to do better.

[jbirdz]

I heard in an interview a producer from “ Everything Everywhere All At Once” say that perfectionism is the destroyer of our humanity. And WOW that truly resonated with me!

[misskiki]

I am almost 40 and have never had a long decent relationship in my life. Just with my kids. People tell me I'm hard on myself and I'm a queen but i disext everything about my self and i don't see what they see. I don't trust therapists because i think they judge me too. So I'm trying to find my next step and i appreciate this video. I met a great guy and I'm a little freaked out that I'll mess it up somehow so i need to find some self love.

[lonestar]

Beautifully said. So deeply appreciated. You are a true gem Terri.

[Ilovemyself-te]

Great lessons on how to love yourself better thank you Terri

[ckamau]

I love your content and can't stop listening since I discovered you 2 months ago. How you have changed my life 💖💖 from Nairobi

[marushabelle]

Thank you so much Teri, I love how you break down big subjects and always go deep in a caring and loving way so it’s easy to understand what to do in order to change that.
Your work is so well appreciated! Warmest, Marusha.

[happygoluckystar]

Thank you Terri ❤️🙌 18th minute of this episode just brought tears into my eyes 🥹
Thank you. So many of us needed to heart that. ❤️

[myhottea]

Thank you Terri! I had never heard of the concept of self abandonment before listening to this episode. This has brought a deep awareness to me in many ways. I am inspired to begin the work I need to do! I want to thank you for bringing so much healing into my life through your work and generosity... the guides you provide are priceless! Your book has changed my life as well!
I hope you know how grateful I am... be well!

[michellejabczynski]

This resonated with me. I could check the box on all 10 signs. I am a master chameleon. 🦎 And not only have I pushed down the tough feelings, but also the joy. Looking forward to checking out the guide. Thank you!

[justcode......]

Thanks🎉 for providing such mind-blowing content everytime.
I want to know as per your experience why i am being anxious or can't able to feel comfortable and authentic in front of some girls(known and unknown).I am struggling from this, i don't know what the reason i feel so.I want your perspective on it

[DeeLeon]

Thank you, so much for saying it out loud. Being harsh to yourself and lovely to other people.
Been doing it for decades, having a combo diagnosis for autism & adhd must be responsible for making me extra harsh with myself.
Tears now, which is difficult due to alexithymia & aphantasia.

[candidconnections]

Love it! Love it! Love it! One of the best videos of you I’ve watched. Feel like sharing with all my friends. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us, Terry! One day when my book review video channel is ready it will a pleasure to talk about your book. 📚 ❤️ 📚

[Ilovemyself-te]

Excellent video as always! What took me so long to finally find you

[pebbleslittle]

My self-worth is Zero and I'm trying to find it.... thanks for the Video.... I just love listening to you.