DO YOU DEPRIVE YOURSELF? (SELF NEGLECT AND ABANDONMENT)

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[karenstrain]

I really procrastinate when it comes to self care, bathing, brushing teeth, exercise.

[sadie]

I work as a cleaner. Yesterday I spent five and a half hours cleaning a house that should have taken two and a half hours to clean. I worked long and I worked hard. I ended up with a back so sore that I could hardly walk. I slept on the floor all night to relieve the pain. And all so that my employer would get a nice surprise and go 'Wow, the house is so clean!' So that they would be happy. I consider myself to have no value whatsoever, that I exist to please others and that gives me a sense of peace and joy. I know this is all because my mother believes that I hold less value than my siblings. That she openly disliked me. That she failed to recognise that I have needs. And that I responded by firstly agreeing with this and secondly by trying to make her happy.

[sandrakellstrom]

Absolutely my life. I'm 65 now and I've been alone and isolated my entire life. I'd like to tell younger people that they will pay a very heavy price for not at least trying to fix this. No friends, no spouse, no kids, no good jobs and no money. It ends very badly and even though it feels safer and comfortable to stay in your own little cocoon, at some point you will realize that you will die alone and penniless and your anger about how you got here and everything you never had and how cheated you've been and who did this to you will continue to grow and eat at the years that are left. But never give up.

[ryannesumbry]

All the time I felt so guilty putting myself first I found my worth in doing for others at the expense of myself

[BecomeConsciousNow]

'It's hard to be a human.' Very true for all, even more true for those who went through trauma.

[Thetiredmomistired]

This really hits home for me. It's gotten to the point where I don't even brush my teeth anymore, and I didn't know why, until this video. It makes perfect sense now. Thank you for the wonderful insights you provide!!

[Gowiththeflow]

After 48 years I am finally taking steps to put myself first without guilt. I’m standing my ground but others think I’m being mean but I don’t care what they think of me. I’ve done that for far to long and I’m stepping up and out!!

[SuB-gyrb]

I’ve been alone for 60+ years, I’ve always lived to make others happy, I have no idea if I even want anything anymore…

[Ivymoon]

This year has been crazy for me and kinda traumatic. I’ve gone no contact with my “dad” and his wife and all his side of my family. I’ve moved states alone by plane with my cat, leaving behind my best friend and boyfriend. I got broken up with. I’ve had bad tooth pain that needs to be fixed. My chronic pain has gotten worse and so has my ARFID and my depression. I’ve been isolating so hard and I feel so empty. I was heavily neglected in childhood so now I feel I deserve to be neglected and that I don’t matter. I’m working on putting myself first and being able to rewrite the sentence before. I wanna start taking classes soon and get a career. I appreciate this video so incredibly much. It makes me feel less alone, and I really need that right now. Thank you❤️

[PenelopePitstop]

One of the curiosities I've had about myself has been my lifetime of self neglectful behavior. At 62, I've also spent a lot of my life in self isolation.
I just figured it was my personality. But with the encouragement and increased self awareness of creators such as yourself on YOUTUBE, I've begun to change this. So, ty for your efforts.

[shinewithheart]

My struggle is having the funds to care for myself. So it turns into deprivation.

[produceman]

"You play small"... What a great description for us co-dependents. This is my biggest foible and why I have nothing... If I ever want to get my $hit together than I have to get past this...

[namastea]

I've been denying myself for others in unhealthy ways for so long, it's sad because I taught people that they matter more than I do.

[josolo]

Thank you for this. I can literally sit and deprive myself of food that is in the next room due to unconscious unrecognised feelings. I've never related it to my childhood trauma. I starved as a child. It's like a mood comes over me and I feel comfortable in that state. It's feeding somekind of feeling. I do it with all sorts of things I feel I'm not entitled to. I'm going to work on this now.

[fionalee]

Feeling low while watching this and realising that it’s me. I even feel guilty when I laugh at something I find funny as if I’m not even allowed to do that. Happiness is so strange and painful to me.

[Alien_cancerian]

I came to the realization that I am not prioritizing my well being this week and that I think its cause of fawning. I was doing inner child work and realized I am not a safe person for my inner child. I deprive myself from health improving gear cause of shame and fear that I won't get better. I have so many projects that are not working because I can't prioritize properly, I strugle taking my medication. This video helped me see how treating myself like this is worst than I tought because I did almost all of the things on the list

[haliec]

Thank you so much for highlighting this. I find it such a chore to take care of myself. I am a great care giver to others but not to myself. I probably shower once every 2 months, i do wash obviously but the shower is just too much for me. I don't know why. I used to be a workaholic, my therapist ask me who I am? Minus work and others?. I said i am nobody!! This was a turning point for me, i realised how much i neglect myself since then. I try everyday now to be my own carer. I now work part time, i find since realising this, i need more time to myself now. 3 years ago I left a DV relationship and now my body feels the pain, i cannot ignore it any longer. I am in isolation mode at the moment but hopeful that I will get back out there someday.

[SweetUniverse]

I deprive myself of peace and happiness. Deep down inside, I believe I don't deserve it.

[dawnlivingston]

This is me all my life. I made my relationship with Christ my priority, this is what saved my life. Very few people in my life has ever cared. 61 years old now. Christ has been my best friend. It's been a journey to find out that I am autistic, changing my diet to carnivore, and Christ has helped me take a look at my childhood trauma and work on my issues. Not to mention that I have a narcissistic husband. Thank you for your videos ❤

[EszterDobos]

You have no idea what this validation means to so many of us ❤