How to Find Happiness and Peace as a Childless Woman | Living With Infertility

My husband was diagnosed with azoospermia (male factor infertility). In this video I share what helped me accept my life as a childless woman. Now, 10 years after my husband was diagnosed with azoospermia (male factor) infertility, I know coping with childlessness is like grieving the death of a loved one. You never fully “get over” it, but you can still have a happy life without kids.

Not having children is devastating. How do you find happiness without starting your own family? Maybe you tried to conceive for years, underwent fertility treatments, and prayed for a baby miracle. I’ve been there! I did all three.

#infertility #childlessness #azoospermia

[dianebach]

I found your video encouraging because I prayed and fasted to have a child. Adoption fell through. I’m a senior now and occasionally I get sad when I see couples with a baby in a stroller. Used think I’d be over it by now. Then I think how lucky I am to have horses which were a life long dream. It probably wasn’t meant to be. Who knows like you said if I was spared some grief later on. My husband has grown kids and they rarely even call. In 33 years they’ve barely acknowledge I exist. It’s nice to see there are others that can relate to the pain of being childless.

[kerstinjansen]

I am in early menopause since 12 years :( it still breaks my heart

[panchotheaddict]

my little sister (31) has tried for over a decade and 2 days ago she got a diagnose that shes premautely menopause. seeing her breakdown broke my heart and my heart hurts for her and i just hope she finds peace and happiness in her new journey. god bless all the women going through this, it truly is one of the most hardest things to go through.

[stacee]

struggling with infertility, and this video is what I needed. 2 years in and honestly im tired, and dont even know if i want kids anymore. Trying every month and still negatives, month after month.

[JJ-zwsm]

I have been undergoing fertility treatment since 7 years . Started with IUI, then ivf . After multiple IUI cycles and 4 ivf cycles and 6 transfers later I’m still childless . Meanwhile with this treatment I had multiple surgeries for polyp removal, cyst removal, three miscarriages and one 2 trimester loss . Number ours trips to hospital still did not see light at the end of the tunnel . This journey is hard

[Alice-mvpj]

This is very helpful....i have diminished ovarian reserve and i started perimenopause in my late 20s. They told me I was not a good candidate for ivf and to try IUI, but that I would need a diagnostic laparoscopy before. In January this year I had surgery and a terrible reaction to general anesthesia that left me on a wheelchair for 3 days, it gave me depression. I don't want to go through that again. My husband doesn't want to do IUI because my mental health has never been the strongesyand medication always affects me... My mother and father had mental health issues and were abusive... sometimes I think, maybe God is saving me from something...

[Jamie-]

Thanks for sharing your story. I've wanted children, but it's just not worked out that way for me and accepting it is hard. Hearing from others that have come to the similar path and seeing that they can be happy too is really good to hear.

[MikesStoryNumber]

Wise words Laurie! The Bible says “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”. Hard to accept when our plans are different to Gods.

[HeatherChristineMusic]

Bless you sweet soul for this beautiful video. I’m struggling with infertility and truly needed to hear your good advice 🙏🏻❤️ Thank you so much for sharing your advice and wisdom with us. Wishing you continued fun and joy on your life journey!

[kp]

Thank you for sharing about your journey and perspective. I still have hope that I'll have healthy children one day, with the right partner, but also grieving the very real possibility it won't happen at this point due to my age and where I'm at in life (and the fact that I'm in the position at all where I feel the intense pressure of the biological clock). It's incredibly helpful to hear from other women who've found peace at the end of the road.

[KH-mqrg]

This video is really helpful, thank you!

[susanschuh]

I stumbled across your video here and really appreciated finding it. My husband and I have been "trying" to conceive for 10+ years with no success whatsoever. I've given up on it ever happening, and now I'm trying to find a way to move on and focus on what my next natural steps need to be.

[mjb]

My body went through the changes at 35 and cause me to have depleted ovaries. The doctor said there was no cause for it and that I was part of the 1% of women that this happens to. Like you, adoption was never in the cards for me because I always wanted to go through the process of carrying a child. It makes me sad that I will never have my own biological children. What’s the hardest for me is trying to plan my life without them and hoping that I will be bless to find a man (future husband) that’s going to be okay with my situation. After listening to your story, I need to take the steps to heal and learn how to live life because I haven’t for past couple of years. Thank you for sharing your story❤

[mrtexlahoma]

Thank you so much! I am struggling, we are on the losing end of an expensive six-year infertility hell. I just found out I might have cervical cancer and it's time to let it go. I really appreciate hearing about your struggle and how you have arrived here.

[SkiraReed]

My husband got the same diagnosis. His doctor put him on clomid, HCG and HGH immediately. 4 months later there's no improvement still and he feels like shit. We were trying for almost 2 years. I'm dreading the day when the 6 months are full and If there's nothing he's going to get back on TRT to feel better and enjoy his life. For me, it feels like I'm awaiting death. It might sound exaggerated but the desire for being a mum is so huge, the mere thought that there may be no hope is ripping me apart daily. I know we'd be such great parents. I know so many people around me who are terrible parents and they never had problems conceiving. I just want a family.

[GloriaLopez-leje]

Very well said, Laurie. Your words are golden.

[bdwdreamweaver]

that is always a tossup to have or not have, and glad you are remaining positive. Good that you are sharing this important point

[TheHapiCamper]

Hi Laurie. I love your way of looking at life. God does always have our greater Good is mind, even when we don’t quite understand it. I will say the Lord has answered a lot of questions that I asked for years about circumstances occurring in my life, finally. And one day he will give you the answer as well. Thank you so much for sharing your insights.

[MP-kvfo]

I have been married 24 years. I have Been pregnant a few times. I was not able to bring a child to life. Lost at least 3 pregnancies during my fertile years. I never thought about that we Or our children were spared from an awful life. Not that we would not have done everything we could do to have our child have the best life possible. I have worked towards healing with my dogs.

[SippyCupAdventures]

Very powerful and transparent. Kudos to you.