How to Tell If You Are an Introvert

Many of us lead lives that are harder than they should be because we haven't realised a basic thing about ourselves: that we are introverts. We therefore keep driving ourselves into situations and challenges that should best be avoided and neglect our distinctive style of being content. We should dare to learn whether we belong in the introverted camp.

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”The modern world purports to respect both introverts and their opposites but in practice, the action, the rewards and the glamour are all precisely designed to synchronise with the talents and sensibilities of those in the extroverted camp. To have any chance of seeming normal or achieving success, one must pull off a range of feats to which extroverts seem inherently well suited: impress strangers, attend conferences, make speeches, outshine competitors, manage people, join in with prevailing enthusiasms, reflect public opinion, socialise, travel a lot, go out often and date widely.
It can take a very long time before we realise that – however much we might hope for this to be otherwise – this is not in fact us at all. For our part, we happen to get very worried before going to parties, we have felt close to death before giving speeches, any kind of social occasion perturbs us heavily, we’re left extremely jittery by encounters with news and social media, we start to feel sick if we haven’t had the chance to sit on our own and process our thoughts for a few hours every day, new places (especially bedrooms) worry us hugely, we’re very awkward about having to be responsible for anyone at work and we are extremely wary of jolliness or demonstrations of group fervour of any kind. We don’t actively hate hugs but our bodies do stiffen when someone rushes forward to embrace us (we may be working on this)...”

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[SheldonEvansx]

*Not all introverts are shy just as much as not all extroverts are confident.*

[iTyler]

I think most introverts know if they're introverts. The real question should be "How to live in an extroverted world as an introvert."

[mdzuracka]

You know you're an introvert if the lockdown brought you peace and comfort. (omitting the news) 🍃📚🕯

[lorenachavez]

I used to think that being an introvert was something that needed to be overcome. People would say, “One day, you’ll come out of your shell.” “One day, you’ll learn how to be outgoing.” The problem is that I believed them. But now at nearly 30 years of age, I realize that there’s nothing *wrong* with introversion. I’m not “just shy”; I’m quiet sometimes and that’s fine. Different doesn’t equate to wrong!

[NateTheKang]

Don't get me wrong, I like my space. I just get lonely sometimes and many people don't get that

[bananasean]

I'm an introvert who excels at being extroverted when needed. But I would happily be alone my whole life.

[kingsmerte]

I truly realized about how introverted i am because i've been in self-isolation for months and couldn't be happier with this lifestyle

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde

[darkhoodchief]

Other people: " *Why don't you want to come to the party* "

Me: To be honest, I don't know.

[mechouilli]

When I go to parties, people immediately know that I am an introvert. So when I open to someone and share a conversation about our passions and such, they feel special; like "when a cat asks you to be pet" kind of special. LOL

[SharKB]

Some of the features are more suggestive of social anxiety or shyness. Introversion, social anxiety and shyness can co-exist but are three different entities.

[Talkinglife]

Need quiet to concentrate.
Are reflective.
Are self-aware.
Take time making decisions.
Feel comfortable being alone.
Don't like group work.
Prefer to write rather than talk.
Feel tired after being in a crowd.

[ellajo]

Lockdown has been wonderful. As an introvert living alone, never having to go anywhere or see anyone during quarantine has been the kind of bliss I only ever used to dream about, lockdown made it a reality and I loved it.

[tracik]

Spent my whole life being an extravert. I'm exhausted now and have loads of cringe moments to look back on.

[TheIMMORTALKAHNHD]

Extroverts during lockdown = whens it over i miss ppl!?!


Introverts = yeah so not really much has changed for me

[m.offord]

Sometimes it’s hard to tell if I’m an introvert or just have anxiety lol

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche

[engr.jessydecastro]

In professional world, most of introverts are underrated and underestimated due to their silent nature, such that being timid is a weakness to your bosses. 😔

[wingdoris]

Hello introverts, I’m curious..how many of us are we here in this planet?
(I’d never have said this if we were actually in a meeting...)

[clarkevander]

I have become more introverted as I got older. I walk around in a mall alone, I crave reading, I now hate it when there are too many people, I try so much to avoid parties and gatherings.