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5 Co-Parenting Hacks for Raising Healthy, Happy Children with a Difficult Ex
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How to keep the best interests and well-being of the children top of mind.
Don't make your children feel like pawns, messengers, or casualties of your divorce!
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- Why you must keep the best interests of the children top of mind
- Goal Affirmations for you (see above)
- Value of communicating with your children in age-appropriate ways only
- Why not to discuss divorce difficulties with your children that only belong between you and your ex
In a perfect world, after divorce, your children would only know that life is more peaceful with two homes, and that they miss the way things used to be with both parents in the home. (Of course, if there was a lot of tension, bickering, and anger, they won't miss that at all!)
When you co-parent well, you eliminate exposing the children to adult issues. Right? I sure hope you said "Yes!"
Children have enough upset to content with when parents separate. It's enough to deal with moving, losing time with their friends, missing the non-custodial parent, feeling uncertain about what's going on, and not have the right things in the right house at the right time. These are kid concerns!
FIVE GOAL/AFFIRMATIONS TO KEEP TOP-OF-MIND WHEN CO-PARENTING:
I am the model I want my children to follow. Therefore, everything I do and say demonstrates who I want my children to strive towards becoming.
I communicate with my ex in the way I wish for him/her to communicate with me.
I choose collaboration and conversation, over conflict and acrimony. (Listen to today's episode for how this works with #Hijackals!)
I focus on my children and what keeps them healthy--physically, mentally, and emotionally. That includes doing what is in their best interests first.
I turn my attention from what I don't like about my ex to what s/he does well for the children. It's about the kids, not what my personal issues are with my ex.
I allow my children to enjoy their childhoods and ensure they're only concerned with age-appropriate thoughts, feelings and actions. I protect them from being pawns, messengers, or casualties of my divorce.
Now, those are just for you. A #Hijackal ex may make them VERY difficult, and I've talked about this in today's episode, at length.
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WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media--TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT?
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You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.
No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!
Today's episode offers insights into the crazy-making minds of narcissists, narcissistic #Hijackals, anti-social people, and drama queens...and, of course, drama kings.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
I offer relationship advice for dealing with difficult issues and relentlessly difficult people.
I focus on helping my clients to stop tolerating abuse, and give them strategies for changing relationship dynamics.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal®? Someone who consistently behaves in ways that undermine you, put you down, make you crazy? I can help you understand that behavior and how to keep yourself safe and sane.
I work with individuals, couples, families and workplaces, worldwide, through private, secure video conferencing.
Schedule an initial 1-hour consultation HERE for only $97.
I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.
Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships
CONNECT WITH ME, online:
Twitter: @RhobertaShaler
Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler
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This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories.
Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
Don't make your children feel like pawns, messengers, or casualties of your divorce!
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- Why you must keep the best interests of the children top of mind
- Goal Affirmations for you (see above)
- Value of communicating with your children in age-appropriate ways only
- Why not to discuss divorce difficulties with your children that only belong between you and your ex
In a perfect world, after divorce, your children would only know that life is more peaceful with two homes, and that they miss the way things used to be with both parents in the home. (Of course, if there was a lot of tension, bickering, and anger, they won't miss that at all!)
When you co-parent well, you eliminate exposing the children to adult issues. Right? I sure hope you said "Yes!"
Children have enough upset to content with when parents separate. It's enough to deal with moving, losing time with their friends, missing the non-custodial parent, feeling uncertain about what's going on, and not have the right things in the right house at the right time. These are kid concerns!
FIVE GOAL/AFFIRMATIONS TO KEEP TOP-OF-MIND WHEN CO-PARENTING:
I am the model I want my children to follow. Therefore, everything I do and say demonstrates who I want my children to strive towards becoming.
I communicate with my ex in the way I wish for him/her to communicate with me.
I choose collaboration and conversation, over conflict and acrimony. (Listen to today's episode for how this works with #Hijackals!)
I focus on my children and what keeps them healthy--physically, mentally, and emotionally. That includes doing what is in their best interests first.
I turn my attention from what I don't like about my ex to what s/he does well for the children. It's about the kids, not what my personal issues are with my ex.
I allow my children to enjoy their childhoods and ensure they're only concerned with age-appropriate thoughts, feelings and actions. I protect them from being pawns, messengers, or casualties of my divorce.
Now, those are just for you. A #Hijackal ex may make them VERY difficult, and I've talked about this in today's episode, at length.
----------------------------------------------------------------------
WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media--TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT?
---------------------------------------------------------------------
You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.
No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!
Today's episode offers insights into the crazy-making minds of narcissists, narcissistic #Hijackals, anti-social people, and drama queens...and, of course, drama kings.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
I offer relationship advice for dealing with difficult issues and relentlessly difficult people.
I focus on helping my clients to stop tolerating abuse, and give them strategies for changing relationship dynamics.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal®? Someone who consistently behaves in ways that undermine you, put you down, make you crazy? I can help you understand that behavior and how to keep yourself safe and sane.
I work with individuals, couples, families and workplaces, worldwide, through private, secure video conferencing.
Schedule an initial 1-hour consultation HERE for only $97.
I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.
Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships
CONNECT WITH ME, online:
Twitter: @RhobertaShaler
Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories.
Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
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