How to Move On After a Breakup (Emergency Tool)

In this video, I am going to share with you an emergency tool if you are trying to get over a breakup, this is really helpful if you are struggling and still holding on to a relationship, even when you know it's not healthy and you are no longer happy.

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[JessieInTheSky]

You came just in time! This is not even the first time that you have done a video exactly the day after the issue is on my mind. I really appreciate your advice.

[sandrae]

Just what i needed, it is hell having to walk away when you don’t want to.

[Carolzzz]

Me, an FA watching this because my DA partner hasn’t messaged me good morning 😂

[sophiafara]

I have ignored red flags because of a scarcity mindset, highly connected to my childhood where I was subjected to lots of isolation. I can heal this now and I am x

[tomatoeggs]

When you lose a person, you miss:
- their traits
- the traits they brought out of you
- the meeting of some of your needs (emotional connection, support, laughter, comfort, stability…)

So, healing from that loss happens when you fulfill these needs.

To move on from a breakup, list:
- all their positives qualities and the downsides of these qualities (e.g. He is charming. But he would use this charm to chat with other girls.)
- the downsides of the relationship in general.

[vtbhoward]

I do miss the persons actual body, just as much as I would miss my own arm or my own leg or my own baby that I may possibly lose. No baby can replace the loss of another baby, and no man can replace the loss of another loved

It takes a lot to get to the point when I can disidentify with a desire for a person so closely intimate and deeply cherished, body, mind, spirit, and

For me, the body is missed as well.

[howtosober]

I'd really like to hear more about the struggle with anger and resentment after a breakup. For me, the relationship ends so badly- because it's generally been with either a narcissist or a dismissive avoidant- that the rumination is about all of the ways I was disregarded, disrespected, and taken advantage of, as well as an obsession with getting justice. I almost never miss the person after the first few days, because the way I was idealizing them becomes clear very quickly once they're gone. But because of the types I've been attracted to, I have never gotten any form of amends or closure, so the brain just cycles back to all of the resentments trying to reconcile them by itself.

[kristicarle]

The breakup course is amazing! I definitely recommend it if you are struggling with a breakup. It’s very empowering.

[hollysrepera]

Going through a breakup the last few days and my face hurts from crying so much. It’s so hard to let go of someone you don’t want to. All the hopes you had for the future together. But then you realize he didn’t have those same hopes. 😔

[evonne]

My X randomly messaged me he is deleting all the photos of us together after 8 year relationship and burning sentimental things, we only broke up 4 months ago!! We were no contact but I broke that to call and ask what the crap thats super hurtful and he acted like no biggie thats what everyone does! OMG made me feel so invisible and worthless!! I got him through 3 suicide attempts we bought a house together he is keeping. He said he is happy now. I am like no shit dude you have eveything we worked for!! I hate hate hate this attachement I need to let him go so bad he is so toxic!! Will look for your course online. Thanks for the emergency post well timed!

[vemilia]

Thank you Thais. For me as well, this comes exactly at the right time. I don't have enough money for your courses at the moment, but also from your videos I gain a lot of relief! Thank you so much ❤️

[thrivingsurvivor]

You are an Angel! Thank you so, so much!

[jessicasun]

Holy moly. Doing the list of positives and how the down side are there, 😱

[rodimussupreame]

I’ve been waiting for this video a long time. Thank you PDS . Thais Gibson you’re awesome.

[adrij]

I almost hate the idea of deactivating like this - I know I need to for myself but I don’t have any hard feelings for her, and I don’t want my care to turn to anger. I feel we may have ended prematurely (as my partner was an FA) and we just never got to see what we could’ve become.

[OmgitsNeens]

Literally came at the perfect time. I ended contact with my ex who I had been trying to stay friends with after the breakup. He said he was waiting for me to come to this decision on my own; to realize we had to cut contact move on completely. I had been stuck in this cycle for 6 months after the breakup and felt like I was not able move on the whole time, but I cling to things so hard. Now it’s over for good and he said we should delete each other’s numbers, and that he plans to delete mine. It makes me so sad but I also see it was needed

[kylow]

I've just been deep in depression and porn addiction bruh... I just wanna feel good about myself again. Please give me the 7 areas of life thing so I can start my life again😔

[gulensu]

Wish I could afford your course, but the videos are super helpful as well. Thanks!

[sierrabreann]

went through a breakup the very day this was uploaded ...

[Edith]

Bob again 🤣 sorry, the last PDS webinar was hilarious on the weekend (Because of Bob 😜).