How to SPOT if someone is in a narcissistic relationship

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[JustaNobody-jx]

Being in a narcissistic relationship will even make your shadow start doubting it’s existence.

[maryd]

“You can spend your entire life trying to please an unpleasable person.” BINGO

[christinemunger]

I was tremendously relieved when I realized my husband was a narcissist. Suddenly everything made "sense" and could start to deal with it.

[tracyking]

Being in a narcissistic relationship - feels like you’re on a walk with someone, and they’re either walking ahead of you or falling behind. You’re rarely walking in sync.

[stillpril]

Knowing they are narcissistic is the only form of closure you will get

[matteblak]

For me it was the “I think I’m crazy and I need help because nothing makes sense”

[rebeccaJustME]

"the best worst thing you could learn" so very true

[busisiwedube]

Being in a narcissistic relationship drains your confidence and makes you constantly second-guess your decisions because you're always told you're too much. The dehumanization is beyond what I can comprehend. How can someone say so many hurtful words? Don’t couples fight out of love rather than pure hate?

[mskilike]

It is devastating to have to admit and accept that someone you love is harmful to you. That they manipulate, abuse and mistreat you. That it's not your fault and that you can't do anything to get the person you love to change. It is very painful

[Horsewoman-ptku]

Married for 35 years with 4 children. Husband passed and 5 years later coming to the realization of what he was and how he treated me. During our marriage I wanted to leave but knew I couldn’t support myself with children and knew he would fight me every step. After he passed I didn’t want anything to do with another relationship. At first it was a aha moment then a feeling of lose of what I never had and now sadness and anger. Therapy here I come.

[marieborchardt]

I still grieve for several relationships I thought I had, empathetic and loving. When I realized the truth about the narcissists, I could never go back, all hope was gone.
What I did was get help to understand what I'd experienced and I moved on to healthier relationships.
My grief will always be with me, but it has lessened over time.

[fromdarknesstolightwithmel]

I went through it. I've been out of it for 5 years. I went through it for 3 and half years. I've never gotten into another relationship. He destroyed me. I can't date or get into relationships. Every time I try, it causes so much anxiety and stress. I'm in therapy. We talk about it all the time and it helps. But I don't trust anyone. I don't even trust myself. It's horrible.. but I am happy in general. I keep my circle small. I practice self love and self care. But I Still suffer the effects of all that he did to me. The beatings, the constant berating, and false accusations. It's taken a toll.

[theitdocchannel]

Knowing who you are dealing with is the first step to freedom.

[soumyajoseph]

More grief follows when you realize someone close to you has antagonistic and antisocial tendencies - someone with whom you want a great relationship.

[Elizabelle]

I went to a therapist. She diagnosed me as Bordeline... then after the second session in which my husband came and talked with her next to me... she took back that diagnosis.
In the next session she told me he was a narcissist and that I needed to leave him.
I never went back to her.
And never told my husband... and of course he told everyone I was crazy and didn't want to get better.
I'm so glad that's in my way back past and not my present.

[Brian-qgbm]

Dear Dr. Ramani,
What you do is important work.
Thank you for saving my life.
"Free your mind, your ass will follow."

[nikital.]

Having been in one for 6 months too long, I can see the signs NOW. Took me TWO years & damn near $20 thousand to a lawyer to get that squatter out of my house after I broke up with him in 2022.

Finally FREE of that leech!

[anon-mxjx]

‚I feel like I‘m always complaining‘ was my main thought while being with a neglectful narcissist. And I am normally a pretty chill people pleaser, always was before him and went back to that character after him. I didn’t feel like myself at all during that relationship.

[Patriotgrl]

Holy cow. All of this is so true. The statement of “otherwise you could easily sacrifice your entire life trying to please an unpleasable person” is just mind blowing. It makes me want to cry for those who are victims 😢💔

[atirliag]

By the time you get to the end of 25 years is a shocking disgraceful marriage, there is no love, the heavyness is the legal finance and property battle.