Breakups: Waiting for your ex to come back?

Are you caught in a loop of waiting and hoping for your ex to come back? Wondering why it’s so hard to let go and why you can’t stop thinking of them?

Tomas writes, “Hello Susan, I absolutely love your videos. I was in a 6-year relationship with my boyfriend. It was on and off, we both made mistakes, but 3 months ago he broke up for good. He promised me we‘ll get back together once I‘ve changed. But now he met a guy, and they like each other. I am still waiting for him but thinking of them hurts so much. I can‘t let go but I am at the end of my rope”

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[bricevanderwoodsan]

It’s very rare that an ex goes on to a “better situation.” Especially if they haven’t taken time to do inner work. The new relationship will be trash more than likely.

[dmalina]

The worst scenario is you wait, and after a while realize they moved on long time ago and couldn't care less 😥

[morpheus]

I waited for a year, no more. Feel so stupid for being stuck on her, especially since she is probably with someone else at this point. Moving on and not looking back is the only way to survive. Realizing that if someone could break your heart and not care, they are not worth your time or energy.

[cherylross]

To the people left behind they do it to be selfish but they usually come back to the old partner when they realize the new person isn't that great or into them. It could be an ego thing too.This is so heart rendering.

[scorpiochic]

They moved, you move, love the Susanism

[krisztinakovacs]

"Do something that shakes up the composition of who you are. New imput makes you exciting." When I think this video is not for me but still watch it cause I love Susan and this just hits me! You're so wise dear Susan! ❤

[I_Want_To_Know]

This just happened to me. The guy I was dating had his ex contact him wanting him back. I felt it and finally asked him what’s going on. He asked me to wait as he figured out who to give his heart to. He said he was confused. I told him I’d help him with his confusion and take myself out of his equation and that I was done. He was upset I did this. I started to think I did the wrong thing until seeing this video and now I’m SO glad I did that. I love your videos!! I’m binge watching them right now.

[nitalchordia]

I just feel like if I stop waiting, there will be zero hope left, like no chance.

[fatcatontario]

In this situation, Thomas was dating a person who seemed to not be on the same page or level of interest and, on top of it all, a person who is dishonest. Thomas just gained by ending this relationship!

It takes some time to detangle yourself from emotional bonds and kick the habit, but it is a necessity to move forward. Don't get stuck in the over-romantization loop and waste your lifetime waiting for anyone!

[davidcasillas]

Great video Susan and advice. It took a bit, finally 'unchained' myself from the former gf. Thanks largely to you and other relationships Coaches.
I did the work, and feel way better today. Wiser, and very content. I am well aware of to pay it attention to the Red Flags. As #45 once stated: 'People don't change.' Thanks again Susan, you are awesome!❤️

[Chalapathi.marella]

🎉Thank for such a useful video from India 🎉

[sofialatte]

Thank you for such a useful video, dear Susan 🙌🏼✨🤩

[niiskuneitiBANAANI]

I am kind of wishing to not wish he would come back. He was terrible to me. No communication, lying, not interested about conversation with me, distant, letting me down over and over again with his fake promises, and eventually he even sexually harassed me "with accident". He had his good points, but like seriously, what was I even thinking, what was he even thinking. It's just crazy... Sometimes I still wish he would come back but it's only when I am really lonely and feeling sick, as if I need his help when I have no one else. But when I am feeling good I wish I will never see him again.

[TonPlatFavori]

This is great advice. I've been in exactly that situation and I have been moving forward. Your videos lately have amazing timing in accordance with what's happening in my life 😊

Thanks Susan, been watching you for years!

[hesitantpossum]

Off topic comment, but Susan you look absolutely stunning in that chartreuse, satin, floral blouse!! 😅😊 Gorgeous choice!
Much admiration and respect from Sydney, Australia 👋🏻🦘🐨 🇦🇺

[AsMr...r]

Hey Susan, absolutely love your content!You give such genuine advice and help millions like myself, recover.Thankyou for existing!💖✨

[InsaaniatDost]

First view from Pakistan💚
You helped me a lot Susan...
Thankssss🌹

[Metagosling]

Gay male (35) I been in this story before and just walked myself out of it. It took awhile… but the main root I followed was this.

If the love of my life needs to do something for themselves and this includes without me.. Then it’s up to me to love him that way and let him do what he needs to do. Over time I saw how different we were and understood why. The dream turned into my own and now I get let someone else in on it. And it will be different because I am different in my natures.

The ex I was so in love with turns into a chapter. No ill wishes just accepting the indifference and insight. This took years / lots of work / videos like Susan’s ❤

[DavidLawsonGeneva]

Have you ever met someone who has changed?

[yswen]

My ex and I broke up and he moved away but he never said goodbye when he left. I wanted to schedule meeting before he left and he agreed to meet up but I wasn’t ready. If he comes back again I will be ready to talk